DH says I 'can't' buy these school shoes for a girl!

[dontyouworrydontyouworrynow]

Opinions please!

Are these shoes ok for a 5 year old girl (going into Y1) for school?.

They come up listed in the girls section on Clarks. My thinking is they look tidy, practical and not likely to cause wet feet when it inevitably rains this autumn. DD insists on pinafores and tights so this is more of a pain to change than socks if she gets wet feet at school (and she won't tolerate wet feet, she has diagnosed ASD with sensory issues).

DH says they are boys shoes and I can't buy them it's mean. I think they're unisex and anyway they're five years old so surely practicality wins out!

I've looked at all the girly shoes but they're nearly all very low at the front or gappy!

Anyway... thoughts? Am I condemning her to being teased?

You know your dd best. I think they are fine, but there will be a little diva in her peer group who will say they are for boys. How will she handle that?

Clumpy and to much of a heel for a 5 year old imo

@Forstarters

Oh grow up the pair of you. They’re a pair of shoes. And she’s five. Stop your husband pushing his ridiculous sexist opinions on to your daughter and grow a backbone so you don’t have to validate a pair of shoes via strangers on the internet

Had a bad day, have you?!

Thanks everyone always nice to get others opinions.

I'll have a chat with DD tomorrow and see what she likes. I can't give her too much of a choice but I can choose 2 pairs that she could pick between so will do that.

They wouldn't be to my taste and I wouldn't buy them for DD or DS but what matters is if your DD likes them.

Absolutely vile... do you actually not care about your child to put her in them? Social suicide.

If you can afford 2 pairs get the ugly clumpy ones for rainy days (imagine them as wellies to justify) and the cute ones she Oooed at and seems to prefer for fair weather days. That's what I'd do.

I'm all for practical shoes for girls but honestly they like an entry in an ugliest shoes competition. They are hideous. They also look pretty heavy and clumpy for a 5 year old. At that age I tended to go for the moulded rubber sole a lot of the startrite shoes have.

If she likes them then why not. None of my girls however would've given them a second look and would probably have cried if I'd bought them lol.
I see both sides, that's why there's a choice. Another reason I hope all shoes don't become more unisex not everyone wants that.

I work in Reception and if the weather is wet in the morning, a lot of children (boys and girls) come in wellies and change into their school shoes. They have wellies in school to play out in wet weather if it rains during the day anyway. Horrible to sit in wet shoes all day whatever gender you are.

No, you can’t! She will start growing a penis.

My DD has the Geox Hadriel shoes and she finds them really comfy:

www.amazon.co.uk/Geox-Girls-HADRIEL-Low-Top-Sneakers/dp/B07MFVGXFF?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

My DD started off wearing the more dainty styles marketed to girls but very quickly worked out that the boys had much more comfortable options which were better for running around in. She wore black leather Puma trainers for the rest of primary and thoroughly enjoyed her active break and lunch times. She's sad that now she's moving on the secondary we're having to get 'proper' schol shoes although she's still gone for a lace up.

They’re fine. Most “girls” shoes are Mary Jane style with an open top and strap across, not very practical in the rain!

These look too heavy and uncomfortable for active play. More like serious formal occasion shoes

Are you willing to buy DD a new pair of shoes if she comes to hate them at School and wants the style she like more in the first place or will the poor thing be forced to wear them all year or till her feet grow out of them.

@Maharajah20

Awful, awful shoes for a girl. She will be laughed at. Kids are nasty. They will tell her she has boys shoes. Don’t do it.

Never at our school. Most wear decent trainer unisex style shoes. Girls and boys. They play out lots and most walk to school in all weathers. Girls strappy flimsy shoes are rubbish

@dontyouworrydontyouworrynow

She's not allowed trainers, has to be proper shoes.

The chunkiness is a fair point, she has a tendency to tip toe walk so I don't want to give her anything that makes tripping even more likely!

She wasn't really fussed when I showed them to her but then had a look at the others and said 'oooh' when she saw a very flimsy open unpractical pair that will have her feet wet in two minutes flat.

She came home at the end of term (reception year!) asking for a Smiggle backpack for this year, so I think they do know about brand etc already.

We also do prettier shoes for spring summer as her gets two pairs a year currently they way her feet grow.

Most of the start rite and Clark's boys shoes that most wear are a cross between a traditional shoe and a trainer. Unless an Uber strict formal school any of them are fine

My six year old daughter wears ones like these. I did have to bribe her the first time with sparkly party shoes (that she wouldn't have been allowed in normal circumstances) but she now chooses them herself as they make her run faster.

www.clarks.co.uk/c/Scape-Flare-Kid/p/26149401

No

One of my DD's has worn this style since about age 8. She started off in more feminine shoes but by age 8 decided she didn't like them and wanted a plainer, more sturdy shoe. She finds them comfortable and they're actually quite soft leather.

She's not the only girl in her school wearing this type of style as several others also wear similar.

My DD, 6 years, chose dinosaur trainer style school shoes from the boys range at m&s. She was not at all impressed with the girls selection. She had similar last year, her school do lots of outside learning on a playing field, and don’t think she had any comments. She did also choose pink party shoes and plimsoles with butterflies.

Are the shoes worn on the genitals?
No
Then they’re shoes for whoever wants to wear them.

@KatherineJaneway

What a horrible mind set.

Nope, just one set in reality.

No. A mindset of what girls have to put up with by adults determined to stuff them into gender stereotype boxes. My DD age12 is amazing, strong, sporty, very clever, brave and on an elite sports pathway out of (state) school. Hated pink from age 2. She has never had a pair of girly school shoes in her life. Refused. KS1 was all boys shoes as all the brands were so gendered and she wanted practical shoes. KS2 was kickers ankle boots.

They're not exactly attractive, and my daughters would have refused to wear them. However if yours is happy with them, that's all that matters.