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I don't want to proceed with a houseo sale.

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LipstickLou · 15/08/2021 21:27

Husband and I want to change horses and buy locally. Daughter angry as hates area. We are happy here, she is turning 18 next week. She has mh issues. Husband is currently walking to work and has not been so happy or healthy for a decade.

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Whadda · 15/08/2021 21:30

I’m sorry, I don’t understand what you’re saying.

Are you in the process of buying a house and want to withdraw?

If you’re happy where you are, why would you want to move?

Charmtaste · 15/08/2021 21:31

You are happy but you are going to move? Why?

Whatinthelord · 15/08/2021 21:33

I wasn’t totally sure what your post meant.

If your talking about moving house then your and your DHs feelings need to take precedence over and 18yr old child’s opinion.

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LipstickLou · 15/08/2021 21:33

We are renting from a friend and in storage.

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Galassia · 15/08/2021 21:34

An you explain that a bit more clearly?

Galassia · 15/08/2021 21:34

So you are renting in an area that suits you and your husband so you now want to buy in the same area but teenage daughter is having a strop?

tortoiselover100 · 15/08/2021 21:34

Have you exchanged on the new house you don't want?

Galassia · 15/08/2021 21:35

You need to put yours and your husbands needs first as your daughter could move out at any time.

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LipstickLou · 15/08/2021 21:43

We are in the process of buying a house that is away from friends (my family are shits). We live in a very expensive town .my husband works a 5 minute walk away. I work overseas . Our daughter has been ill.
I dont know how to proceed. She is refusing to consider a house locally.

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Whatinthelord · 15/08/2021 21:45

What do you mean she is refusing? Surely you don’t need her agreement in what house you choose to buy?

Sorry if I’m misunderstanding.

lannistunut · 15/08/2021 21:49

You rposts are very hard to understand, but I think you are saying:

  • You have begun the process of buying a house in a different area
  • You want to find a different house in the area you already live
  • Your daughter doesn't like your current area
  • Your husband does like your current area

???

You daughter is not part of the house-buying conversation, really, unless your move would make it completely impossible for her to live her life. She has no money to put in, so no say.

Hercisback · 15/08/2021 21:53

You're very confusing.

Does DH want to move house?

Your daughters opinion shouldn't really come into it unless you've been there years and she has friends and you're moving hours away.

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LipstickLou · 15/08/2021 22:01

We live in a market town. My husband works locally. Dh and I am happy here. Daughter hates it due to school bullying. Has mental health issues (serious). If we move i have no friends or support network. Family are not local. I am torn.

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Lochroy · 15/08/2021 22:02

My God, why is it hard to divulge the pertinent info on the OP.

So if I understand correctly, you're buying away from the place you are renting? You like where you are renting but DD doesn't? You'd prefer to buy where you are renting?

Don't buy somewhere you don't like.

Will DD come round to it? Or be moving out soon? How did she cope with the move into the rented?

SamVimes6 · 15/08/2021 22:03

If your dd is refusing just tell her she’s perfectly able to rent her own place in an area she deems worthy, or she can move with you.

CornishTiger · 15/08/2021 22:10

Bit tough on the adult daughter but her life is so changeable over the next few years you can’t base a house sale in her.

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LipstickLou · 15/08/2021 22:22

Daughter has been very ill. Worried she will end up in hospital again. Dh and I exhausted. We like living here with support network

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Hercisback · 15/08/2021 22:24

Stay where you are and seek help for MH for your daughter. Moving house won't cure her.

LIZS · 15/08/2021 22:26

Is she still at school? Are there any alternatives?

Brown76 · 15/08/2021 22:26

What is the other option? Where is your daughter wanting to move to (that you don’t want to)? If she’s 18, isn’t she about to leave school - so no more school bullying? What’s she doing in September? When you say ‘refusing to consider’ what do you mean, it sounds like she thinks she’s the one buying a house!

lannistunut · 15/08/2021 22:28

I think stay and get help for your daughter. Poor her, and poor you Flowers

tofuschnitzel · 15/08/2021 22:30

I don't understand your posts, OP. Can you explain in more detail? I am lost.

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LipstickLou · 15/08/2021 22:32

We have lived here for almost twenty years. Daughter hates it. She wants us to move, we don't. She is very clever but suffers from PTSD. When do we think about us? I need my friends to cope with her.

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Dillydollydingdong · 15/08/2021 22:35

Don't move if you don't want to. You could be jumping out of the frying pan into the fire. Change her school if she's unhappy there.

Hercisback · 15/08/2021 22:37

You'd be mad to move. Moving won't make her MH better overnight. She needs therapy and specialist support for that.

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