How much would you spend on a wedding present for this couple?

[MarcelineMissouri]

I know it all depends on household finances etc but if you were going to your cousins wedding who you’re very fond of but only see once every year or two, how much would you be looking to spend on their gift? (You are also paying for 2 nights in a hotel for the wedding)

Probably £100 for a favourite cousin.

£50

£50 max

Mybobowler - not saying I agree with the cover your plate rule - and there has been quite a bit of debate on the etiquette of it.

But I did think it was widely known. As a rule of thumb I give £75 - £100 as a single person.

For evening invites only £20-£30.

But that’s just me!

Blimey. We didn't get £100 gifts or money from anyone.

Clearly invited the wrong people!!

My parents would give £250 for their nieces and nephews. They have 15!

I am glad I only have two, but I do have 15 cousins. It gets expensive

My Irish relative faces incredibly large gifts at our wedding, it's a thing.

I'd give £100.

£50-£100 these days as that's what we could afford. It has been as little as £20 in tougher times.

At least £50 and up to £100.

£100

£50-70 I think for that sort of relationship

£50

£50

I don't believe in the 'covering the cost of your meal', not my fault if the happy couple book crazily expensive venue/caterers

£50 for all weddings, £100 for very close friends / close family and £1000 for own DC.

Probably about £100 but actually I’d look at their registry list and get the thing I thought was the best present even if it was less than that - I’d much rather get them something useful like a blender than a photo frame or decorative whatever.

Family - £100

50-100

In Ireland it's a €100 per person, so €200 per couple. More if they are family.

Surely it depends on what a guest can afford. For some people anything more than £50 would be impossible.

£30

@Hohoholymoley

In Ireland it's a €100 per person, so €200 per couple. More if they are family.

Perhaps in your social Circle, but I know from personal experience this is not a nation wide policy😂.

I know people living in Redlands who will routinely give substantially more than this, and I am also sure there are people who give much less.

@ISaidDontLickTheBin

£50

I don't believe in the 'covering the cost of your meal', not my fault if the happy couple book crazily expensive venue/caterers

It does seem odd that a couple who don't have a lot to spend, so do things as cheaply as possible, are deemed less worthy of a generous gift than those who spend tens of thousands of pounds on their wedding. I would never think to give my wealthy friends, who are having a fancy three-course meal at a posh venue, a more generous gift than those having a buffet -probably the opposite if anything, because I know the former don't need it.

I find relating the cost of the meal to the present really crass.

People don’t deserve a shitty present because they couldn’t afford a fancy wedding.

A really horrible way to look at gift-giving IMO.

How do people feel about a destination wedding, rearranged 4 times due to covid, circa 2k down the drain and counting..?

@MissTrip82

I find relating the cost of the meal to the present really crass.

People don’t deserve a shitty present because they couldn’t afford a fancy wedding.

A really horrible way to look at gift-giving IMO.

I agree and have never thought of the present giving in that way.