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Social Services

29 replies

mummytoaj · 08/08/2021 15:29

Before I post I take full responsibility for my actions.

So Friday night I had a bit too much to drink partner was there baby was safe police came.

I took baby outside as felt partner was going to take him.

So due to this police have to refer to social services I am shit scared my own fault I know just wondered If ss will get in touch with me or even worse take baby away!

OP posts:
ChunkySloth · 08/08/2021 15:30

Nobody can answer unless you give a bit more detail about exactly what happened.

HerRoyalRisesAgain · 08/08/2021 15:30

I dont really understand why the police were there. I get you had had a bit too much to drink, but if your partner was there and the baby was safe then there wouldn't have been any need for the police? What are you not mentioning?

sabrinathemiddleagewitch · 08/08/2021 15:31

Social services don't take your child away, that is down to the courts. There are several long drawn out procedures before that happens. Engage with the social worker, make changes and accept their help.

Stormyequine · 08/08/2021 15:31

Why were the police there. It is impossible to say what is likely to happen next without knowing what actually happened?

Neverrains · 08/08/2021 15:31

Why did the police come? They don’t tend to turn up because someone has had too much to drink, so there must be a fair bit more to this story.

DramaAlpaca · 08/08/2021 15:32

Can you tell us a bit more?

NiceTwin · 08/08/2021 15:32

Why did you not want partner to take him if he was safe with him?

Classicf · 08/08/2021 15:32

Which bit of your actions are you taking responsibility for. More info most definitely needed but maybe speak to a solicitor rather than Mumsnet?

Marmitemarinaded · 08/08/2021 15:34

This is a garbled mess
Are you still drunk?
My default is… I trust the police on this one

CiaoForNiao · 08/08/2021 15:36

Who called the police and why?

CanIHaveAHolidayPlease · 08/08/2021 15:36

Police usually make a referral to social services if violence has taken place or even verbal arguing whilst a child was present.

There will be a lot more to this story.

Alternista · 08/08/2021 15:37

@Marmitemarinaded

This is a garbled mess Are you still drunk? My default is… I trust the police on this one
This tbh.
DinosaurDiana · 08/08/2021 15:37

If there’s a referral then I’d expect them to get in touch.
Also expect contact from your HV.

Marmitemarinaded · 08/08/2021 15:41

And in answer to your question op

Yes, thank goodness, SS will be in touch if referred by the police

MadeForThis · 08/08/2021 15:41

Why were the police called?

Were you stumbling drunk and carrying your baby outside?

nimbuscloud · 08/08/2021 15:45

Who called the police? Your partner or concerned neighbours?

Galassia · 08/08/2021 15:45

Must have been serious for the police to turn up for one person being drunk!

What were you doing whilst in a drunken state?

lannistunut · 08/08/2021 15:46

@CanIHaveAHolidayPlease

Police usually make a referral to social services if violence has taken place or even verbal arguing whilst a child was present.

There will be a lot more to this story.

Any verbal arguing?

Even 'I told you to take the next left' type of arguing - or do you mean more than that?

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 08/08/2021 15:49

Were you fighting? I cant think of another reason the police would be called in this scenario

ChequerBoard · 08/08/2021 15:54

You need to start by being a lot more honest about what happened. Police don't attend because a mum is drunk. There must have been concerns about the behaviour of one or both of you for a referral to have been made to social services.

Minimising and excusing your poor behaviour won't wash. You must understand and be accountable for your actions. Engage with social services, be fully compliant and and take steps to change if that's deemed necessary.

PotteringAlong · 08/08/2021 15:55

There is not a hope in hell that the police turned up because you had a bit too much to drink.

There is masses more to this story.

Do everything social services tell you to do. And stop drinking.

TheCrowening · 08/08/2021 16:04

So… it’s hard to figure out what happened from this post, but is it that you were drunk, your partner was concerned about you looking after the baby in that state so said they would take the child, you responded by taking the baby outside away from them, they then called the police?

If you were intoxicated and not in a fit state, then yes the police will need to refer. Is this the first time you’ve been drunk in charge of your baby?

CanIHaveAHolidayPlease · 08/08/2021 17:05

As in shouting and screaming whereby someone would hear it and call the police to intervene I would imagine.

LIZS · 08/08/2021 17:10

Who called police and why? If they attend an incident where a child is involved the Safeguarding team will be informed. Minimising it and potential effects will not help your cause.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 08/08/2021 17:13

So what really happened?