Help me soften this wording

[thefourgp]

“I don’t send many photos of myself to my family so I’m not going to send many to a man I’ve met online but not had the chance to meet in real life yet”

I don't really send photos to anyone.

Piss off you pervert. Blocked.

Why do you feel the need to soften it?

"I look like Mary Whitehouse after a night on White Diamond in every photo. Your eyes wouldn't thank you for seeing them"

It's already soft, you could probably do with hardening it.

"No".

Is the context online dating? If so was there a picture in your profile already and now he's just asking for more pics?

If you aren't comfortable with it just say "I'm not even comfortable sending pictures to my relatives let alone someone I've never met."

Even how you've worded it is fine. In fact even, "No, I don't send pictures of myself to anyone."

Eh?

It's soft enough isn't it?

@RaindropsonPiglets

Piss off you pervert. Blocked.

I second this

(in case you're too young)

Fuck off and block

@Sarahlou63

🤣🤣

good one!

We’ve been chatting online for four weeks and would have met up sooner but can’t yet because of our jobs/holidays/family commitments. We’ll meet up next month when he’s back onshore. We’ve swapped a few photos but he asked me for one with me in it last week when I was on holiday and I explained I don’t take a lot of photos of myself and he’s asked again tonight and put ‘no pressure’. I’m feeling pissed off because apart from this we’ve been getting on great and I’m carefully considering my reply.

@thefourgp

We’ve been chatting online for four weeks and would have met up sooner but can’t yet because of our jobs/holidays/family commitments. We’ll meet up next month when he’s back onshore. We’ve swapped a few photos but he asked me for one with me in it last week when I was on holiday and I explained I don’t take a lot of photos of myself and he’s asked again tonight and put ‘no pressure’. I’m feeling pissed off because apart from this we’ve been getting on great and I’m carefully considering my reply.

Perhaps he's worried you're a catfish?

They're known for just swapping a few carefully selected photos if that's all they have of the person they're pretending to be.

I don't think asking for a very recent photo is too much really, especially as you were bound to take at least a couple.

At least a couple on your recent holiday I mean

I’ve got five photos of myself on my profile and sent him two in the last few weeks so he knows what I look like.
@Sarahlou63

If all else between your conversations with him seems to be going well then just say you aren't comfortable with it. When I was OLD it seemed par for the course for men to ask for more pics (by this I mean normal pictures) not demands for nudes etc. You aren't comfortable with it so therefore alert him to that fact and if he continues to ask then he's clearly breaching a boundary you aren't comfortable with.

He just sent me another message saying

“Reading that back, now it’s sounds really bad! x“

Ive seen fleabag and know its the done thing.
Peps will hate me for below, but if you like him / want to have sex with him I would go with one of below replies.

Hi hun*, I'm really looking forward to seeing you in real life but I dont really do pics.
Hope thats ok xxx

Or
Hi hun*, I'm really looking forward to seeing you in real life but I dont really do pics. At least not until we know each other a lot better ;)
Hope thats ok xxx

*Can replace the hun bit to local term

Back onshore?

Is he an ‘oil rig’ scammer?

Useful advice here

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No.

And leave it at that.

Then take notice of his reaction to see how he reacts to no. Does he respect your boundaries? If he still persists after a simple, cannot be argued or misinterpreted ‘no’, he wont make a good partner.

@Sarahlou63

"I look like Mary Whitehouse after a night on White Diamond in every photo. Your eyes wouldn't thank you for seeing them"

🤣🤣🤣

Galassia get with the times it's 2021. Flirting to initiate contact in real life has been outlawed, (me too). All men date via OLD.