Help me soften this wording

[thefourgp]

“I don’t send many photos of myself to my family so I’m not going to send many to a man I’ve met online but not had the chance to meet in real life yet”

Is he sending you photos from his oil rig?

I reckon he's either trying to get a bikini shot, or trying to get a photo he knows for sure is recent. Either way it's pretty shallow, especially early days when he's supposedly on "best behaviour".

You've seen X number of pictures of me. What kind of picture are you wanting ?

@thefourgp

I’ve got five photos of myself on my profile and sent him two in the last few weeks so he knows what I look like. *@Sarahlou63*

I'd be fairly dubious about this if I were him. That's very much a catfish strategy. A few photos on the profile to get their attention. A couple in reserve to be sent when asked. And then the well has run dry, and all that can be supplied are lame excuses and fake indignation!

My alternative suspicion is that I've been sent a few photos of the person I'm talking to, but very carefully curated with soft focus, light behind him, taken ten years ago, to the extent that I'll take some convincing that it's him when I meet him, even though he's right there standing under the clock with a carnation in his buttonhole carrying a copy of the Financial Times! If you told me you'd been on holiday in Paris last week, seeing a photo of you in a French streetscape world allay my doubts. (If you were a dot at the bottom of a full-height photo of the Eiffel Tower: block )

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask for an up to date photo to see that you’re who you say you are and that he still finds you attractive.

But knowing men on dating sites I’d lay money that’s not what he’s hoping for at all.

I sent “I’m not comfortable sending lots of photos of myself to someone I’ve never met in real life. “
And he replied “Aww yeah yeah i totally understand that, just ignore that last txt cause reading it back to myself it sounded awful!”

I’ve no doubt he’s genuine, we’ve swapped photos of pets, places we’ve been, before and after housework we’ve done. I think he’s had a couple of drinks last night (and got a bit daft and horny when we were bantering back and forth so well) but he’s realised it straight away that he’s made me uncomfortable when I didn’t immediately reply.

It’s fine. I’m being super cautious because my ex husband was a class A bastard and I’m determined not to end up with another one.

Thanks for all the replies.