I think I might be pregnant - how do I break the news?

[WhatCrazyiness]

I think I could be pregnant.

The reason I say might is because I also could be peri-menopausal and also the covid vaccine has messed up my periods for the first time in my life.

I'm stuck at work, so can't get a test until later and won't test until tomorrow morning.

I would keep the baby if I was pregnant, I would love to be a parent, it's just never worked out for me love life wise - but everything else in my life is great.

The 'father' is a guy I am dating very casually for 6 months. He doesn't want children for reasons he has explained to me, but we get on very well and he is kind and decent.

If I were pregnant (and I know this is hypothetical - but please humour me because I've never been remotely close to having a child which I dearly want) I'm not sure I would tell him because I feel he would automatically hope that I would have a miscarriage (he wouldn't tell me this I'm sure) and I am a bit woo and hate the idea of any negativity/negative thoughts around a potential pregnancy.
I would wait to tell him at 12 weeks, is that crazy?
I can support and parent the baby alone, although not ideal, that's perfectly possible with my income and support network.

If you are 2 weeks late you might as well test today OP, no point in waiting for the morning

I'd test tonight. I would suspect it is the vaccination though I'm afraid.
Also condoms aren't that tricky - maybe best to think of using something else as well.

I would test whenever you can OP, but a word of caution, I had my Covid jab back in February and I still haven't had a period. 100% no chance I am pregnant as I haven't DTD in over a year. I will keep my fingers crossed for you, but I just didn't want to give false hope as that can be so detrimental and make the "let down" worse.

Good luck

How old are you both? Does he have children?

My period came early, not late, with the jabs.

I was told post-surgery I would need IVF to have children. It still didn't stop me going ooooh I wonder if I am pregnant when my period was 3 days late a mere 3 weeks later. Dh did not join in as it was too painful to for him to think that could have even been a reality. Turns out I was right and I was pregnant and even my gynae said it was a bloody miracle.

I totally get the fantasy and what ifs. Don't wait until morning though, get at least a 2 pack of tests POAS asap. You can always do a second test in the morning.

Fingers crossed for you OP

Oh I hope you are pregnant. Fingers crossed

I hope you are pregnant but don’t get excited as it’s most likely the jab.

Mine has stopped and started all over the place and I’ve had a bloody Herpes outbreak for the first time in forever. Wish I’d never had the damn vaccine!

Fingers crossed for you!!

I know three people Inc myself who thought their periods were late due to the jab and turned out we were pregnant. Two of us had fertility issues as well so 🤞🤞🤞For you op

I was also late on this month but AF did arrive in the end hope you get the result you want OP.

You might as well take a test tonight. Not really any point waiting for morning. Good luck!

Not sure why you’d really like a baby yet are dating an ardent none baby wanting man?

Why bother? Why not find a man who would like to share parenting with you?

If you are going to keep the baby regardless of his input then does it matter when you tell him?

Negative.

I'm disappointed, but I sort of knew it was a pipe-dream.

Thanks for those who were kind and had their fingers crossed for me.

I can now go out as planned and have a good few stiff drinks!

@BluebellsGreenbells

Not sure why you’d really like a baby yet are dating an ardent none baby wanting man?

Why bother? Why not find a man who would like to share parenting with you?

Spoken by someone who isn't single and might not have the chance at all?

@BluebellsGreenbells

Not sure why you’d really like a baby yet are dating an ardent none baby wanting man?

Why bother? Why not find a man who would like to share parenting with you?

To be fair when I was a snug married in a previous life I once asked a friend (who was sad about not being able to get on the housing ladder in London where she lived and worked) why she didn't just find a nice bloke and buy a lovely place with him 🤦🏻‍♀️

Her look put me in my place and back in my lane!

Sorry to hear about your disappointment OP... perhaps this incident highlights how much you would like a child...do have a think about your options x

I think you need to seriously need to consider things going forward. This guy does not want kids and you clearly wouldn't mind if you fall pregnant and it seems as though the contraception isn't being taken seriously.

Enjoy your evening out OP. Upwards and onwards and I sincerely hope you get what you want, somehow.

Sorry op