Little things from the past that still piss you off

[Jinxdoesit]

I split from my EXH a couple of years ago. There wasn't too much animosity and we divided our things without too much hassle when selling the house except for one item. There was a stunning Laura Ashley dining table that I had bought at a really good price in a sale, we debated over who should get it as we both really wanted it. Eventually I backed down and let him take it. I didn't think too much about it at the time, I was moving back in with my parents temporarily and didn't know where I'd end up or if I'd even have space for it so I thought fine, he could have it.

Now I'm buying a new place that it would look perfect in. I know his place isn't big enough for it and that he has stuff in storage so I assumed it was in there. I called and asked if he happened to still have it and if so and he wasn't going to be using it could I have it. Turns out, when we left our old house he gave it to the new buyers for free because they liked it!! This was just after we'd been arguing over it and he knew how much I wanted it, yet he then just turned around and gave it to someone else that he didn't even know!

I found this out a couple of months ago and now every time I'm looking at tables for my new place it pisses me right off! My EXH had this thing about being a 'nice guy' and wanted everyone to see him that way, but was worse with people he didn't really know so I know this will have just been a way of being 'such a nice guy' to the buyers of our old house rather than a spiteful act against me but it still sticks in my craw!

What small things has someone done to you that still pisses you off ages later?

@Wishingwell75 thank you. I often wonder the same thing, why people who obviously dislike children go into teaching!

A girl from NZ attended our primary school for just a year, we were both SERIOUS about our barbies. She asked me to bring in mine one day and convinced me our barbies should swap outfits, “just for a day” Hers had on a disgusting brown cardigan and mine had a beautiful pink ball gown dress. I duly swapped outfits and then she just didn’t come back to school...

Pathetic that 29 years later and I still hate her for it, we were poor and So I didn’t have a lot and I actually got told off for swapping and it would “teach me a lesson” about people. Erm, only the most important thing in our household was to be kind and share 🤷🏼‍♀️

Getting on for 20 years ago, I was being threatened by bailiffs over debts I didn't owe. I pieced together the details and strongly suspected that an ex-flatmate was using my name (spelt wrong) to buy things fraudulently on credit. I didn't know what else to do, so took the relevant paperwork to my local police station to ask for help. The policeman behind the counter had turned the paper the wrong way round and was reading an irrelevant handwritten note from my boyfriend rather than the actual letter. I said, oh it's that part and turned the paper round. The policeman snatched the paper up, glared at me with contempt, turned it round again and deliberately read the private, irrelevant note. I knew then I would get no help, and indeed I didn't.

Same police station, different police officer struggled to hide his smirking when I came in to report I'd been indecently assaulted. He got the guy's ethnicity wrong on the report.

Wankers, the pair of them. Years later, I hate them with more passion than the fraud bloke and the groper.

I was a geeky and weirdly perfectionistic kid. My grade 4 (about age 8) teacher offered a prize of a big chocolate bar if you got perfect scores in all the spelling tests for the year.

It was Spring and pouring rain outside. Really pouring. The spelling word was "sale" and the teacher said "The merchants are having sales around town today."

In my typical over-thinking way, I chuckled to myself thinking he was making a little joke and wrote "sail." There were huge puddles after all.

I knew how to spell sale and the difference between the two words.

I was devastated and cried myself to sleep that night. No end of pleading would change his mind about marking it wrong.

OMG the injustice. It was my only mistake all year.

Turning 17 and my father had said for years he would get me my first car. Went out for dinner at a very expensive restaurant and was handed a box and told happy birthday. Opened it to find a toy mini car inside so got rather excited that the real thing would be waiting on the drive at home. Only it wasn't..........in his eyes he had fulfilled his promise and bought me a car for my 17th 🙁 still hurts 40 years later.

Used to go “up town” every Sat night with a friend in my early 20's. I lived less than a mile from town so I could have walked but I used to drive 4 miles in the opposite direction to pick her up, then drive back up into town doing a big round circuit. Then my mom would drive my car back home. Every single week.

She never offered any fuel money or brought me a drink in lieu of it. One week, we didn’t realise that the road we used to drive into the town centre had been pedestrianised and got a £40 ticket from a traffic warden.

In my mind, she should have offered to pay half as that’s what I would have done. Also we wouldn’t have even been in the car if we hadn’t have picked her up. She never even offered.

We haven't been in contact for about 20 years and it only comes back into my thoughts when I drive past the road where she used to live but man, it pisses me off every time.

I wish these had been the problems I'd had growing up.

That’s a bit unfair. People have different issues growing up. I was the same, wanted riding lessons, was totally obsessed. Took me til I was nearly 40 to fulfill the ambition. Learning as a child would have made me far braver and a better rider. The reason dm wouldn’t allow it was because a neighbour’s child had fallen off and knocked out her front teeth. Mine got knocked out coming off my bike.

For me, it wasn’t a question of well off parents refusing me something, it was yet again, dm couldn’t really be bothered. Had my brother asked, he would have been given it. Story of my life.

Bought a new home, post divorce. Former work colleague randomly turned up at my door asking me to be a guarantor for a bank loan for her. Was about 15 years ago and I still get the pip thinking about it.

I once bought a dress from a catalogue and was paying for it weekly. I lent it to a friend for an occasion as she didn’t have much money and needed something to wear. She never gave it back despite me asking for it, but I had to keep paying for it.

Some years ago I worked tirelessly for over 18 months on a work project that was really successful in the end.

A couple of weeks later I got wind that a male manager who'd worked on it with me had gone out for dinner and drinks with some (male) business partners to celebrate our joint success but didn't think to invite me as 'we were watching the footie and you'd have been bored'.

The manager is actually a very kind-hearted and well meaning soul, but also a man of a particular age who worked most of his life in very male dominated environments. I don't for a second thing it was intentionally to piss me off, but all the same.

Oh and this evening, I realised that DP has eaten all 7 small packets of some chocolate biscuit things my Mum gave me as a gift recently as I enjoyed them as a kid.

All 7. I didn't even get one. The first 6 don't even bother me that much. It's that he ate the very LAST one and binned the outer bag without thought.

Ask me again in 10 or 20 years if I'm still raging

@Evenstar

I had been given tickets to see a band I liked by a parent in the pre-school where I worked, the problem being that I didn’t know as my colleague put them in my drawer at the bottom under a book, on my day off.

I only found them several months after the date of the concert 😭 it would have meant so much to DH and I. We were both widowed, so you can imagine what remarrying meant to us both, and I walked down the aisle to the instrumental version of one of their songs. The parent had arranged for us to meet the band and get a copy of the lyrics signed.

My colleague never apologised and my boss asked me not to discuss it with her.

That sounds deliberate, you don't accidentally tuck tickets under a book and not mention it! What a cow.

When I was 7, I was in school and felt unwell whilst doing a maths worksheet. I didn't like maths very much but was genuinely feeling queasy so I told my teacher, who told me I was being dramatic and to just get on with the work or she would move me to the remedial table.

Of course I puked copiously, all over the worksheet, myself, the girl next to me, and the teacher. I ended up being sent to sit under the click by the head mistress's office for "making myself sick to get out of maths". My mother collected me, took me to the doctors and turns out I had tonsillitis. I still am glad I was sick on that cow.

Under the clock. Not the click. The clock was the place you were sent to sit in the hope that the head would see you and interrogate you on why you were there.

When I got raised by my parents to have a work ethic and that I needed to save up any Saturday job earnings to get a car, which they would match. I worked really hard, saved everything and went without a lot of Christmas/birthday presents in order to top up that fund.

But my younger sibling got bought a brand new one outright. As a one-off present...

Still pisses me off!

There’s a real theme of children being shamed or misunderstood by adults. Mine was when I was about six or seven I was at a friends party where we were in groups of four with a bowl of smarties in the middle with a little dish each and a straw. We had to suck on the straw the get the smartie from the centre bowl to attach and then drop it in our own bowl. The boy opposite me was wildly cheating and just taking smarties in his fingers and dropping them in his bowl. I got so fed up towards the end I did it with ONE smartie. Of course that was the moment the birthday child’s mum looked over and caught me. She then announced that she wouldn’t count the smarties in my bowl (to see who was the overall winner) because I was a cheater. I still remember the white hot embarrassment as everyone looked over! Still feel it was unfair over 30 yrs later!

Being sent to the back of assembly when a song I knew started and I merely mentioned to my friend next to me that I knew the song.

Losing the school fancy dress competition to someone in an off the peg bridesmaid dress when my mum had handmade both mine and my brothers costume.

One part of my big fat Indian wedding had been planned right down to the last detail. I'm talking a full list stating which person would be doing which part in this very small but very important part of the ceremony, and each of those people mean something to me, hence the list/detail etc.

On the day my grandmother randomly pulled up a load of long lost distant relatives to take part in this small ceremony, people who I hadn't seen in ages and mean not a lot.

It still pisses me right off to this day. When I watch my wedding video I get just as annoyed now as I did when I first found out.

I will take this to the grave!

Needed a wee during a spelling test in maybe Year 3/4, put my hand up and the teacher refused to let me go. I started to beg her then started crying as I wet myself in total silence while everyone looked around trying to work out what the sound was.

My mum worked in the same primary school so she came to get me, I still don’t know what was said but I didn’t go back into her class -
mum took me to McDonald’s and didn’t go back into work that day either.

@PollyPepper About 15 years ago I worked on the tills at Asda whilst on holidays from university. I was putting a woman's items through and out of no where she said 'Don't you wish you'd studied now?' complete with patronising head tilt.

Ugh! Who does that?!? You should have said, "Don't you wish you would have studied harder so you could be shopping at Waitrose?"

(nothing wrong with Asda, but someone like that would have taken it as an insult)

Wow some of these are fascinating. Recollecting wrongs from childhood. Some very sad though.

The one I cannot let go of is a so called friend of mine asking me what my fathers will was straight after I told he that he had died ( which was the day before!) she had some illusion that I was going to inherit vast sums of money, so took many opportunities to ask about elderly relatives wills!!! She is no longer my friend.

At 6, I was rubbish at sports (and still am today) but at school sports day I somehow found myself leading the sack race by a mile. Just before I got to the line Sean Burke went past me running (there was a hole in his sack!) I am still annoyed that he wasn't disqualified!

I applied for promotion in my second job, was more than qualified for it as I had been actually doing the role since the previous occupant had been fired weeks before, and had covered his leave periods for more than 5 years before. Was successful. Then on the day I was meant to start, found out that they had decided to appoint two people because they wanted a fallback position to cover the role if I was on holiday or unwell which made sense I supposed, so we were told to jobshare and take it in turns to do that job, and my previous job. New person then said he couldn't pick up the complexity of the computer work I had been doing before but was fine with the promotion role, and my boss accepted this and let him do it every shift instead of telling him he had to learn the other job (which I knew inside out). So I ended up still doing the old role. I got them to pay me the promoted pay rate by threatening to leave if they didn't, but it still vexes me.

Some of the teacher ones are awful!
I'm a teacher and just can't get my head around how you could do that to your kids!

When I was newly qualified I worked with a woman who seemed to hate kids. She was awful to them and I couldn't ever understand why she went into teaching. She was a bully and would try to bully and try to undermine me constantly by making comments to me in front of my class. One day I sent a boy from my class to go to hers to ask for something. He came back in tears because she'd been so horrible to him. This was a really strong confident boy and to see him like that just infuriated me. Later that day I was walking my class through the corridor and she stopped them and started telling them to turn back around and go a different way to get to where we were going. This was one of the things she would do to undermine me and usually I just took it because I was young and inexperienced but after seeing my pupil in tears I'd had enough. My class had started to turn back around and I told them to stop and carry on as they were going. Her face went red and she angrily told me, "No! They will go the way I have told them to!" I didn't even look at her and just addressed the class and said I didn't want them to pay any attention to Mrs P and that we were carrying on to our next room as we were. The kids' faces were a picture! They were all beaming as we walked past her. She put in a complaint about it but it never went anywhere, I think everyone had had enough of her.

At 6, I was rubbish at sports (and still am today) but at school sports day I somehow found myself leading the sack race by a mile. Just before I got to the line Sean Burke went past me running (there was a hole in his sack!) I am still annoyed that he wasn't disqualified!

Sorry but the image of this made me laugh!