I read somewhere that you should check your teen's phone, but it feels intrusive to me. He is happy, well adjusted, slightly shy, clever but not amazingly so (bottom of top set).
If I check it, what am I looking for? We have talked to him about grooming etc and I have zero suspicions that anything dodgy is going on - I just wondered if I was a crap mum for not checking his phone.
What if I find (eg) he's texing his mates saying he's gay, or that he fancies a girl, or something else that is not harmful and also none of my business?