God it’s so shit being an adult sometimes.

HamsterHelp · 2021-08-01T12:54:00+00:00

Today I want to veg in front of the tv with chocolate. No. I have two kids to entertain. A house to clean. Meals to make. We have already been swimming today. The house is a bomb site and my four year old won’t give me five mins peace. I love being their mum and 99% of the time it’s all good but today I just…gaaah.

LennyAndTheDucks · 01/08/2021 13:55

This is why in a weird way I enjoy being unwell because DP is an angel and insists I rest and he takes over literally everything .

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HamsterHelp · 01/08/2021 14:03

Omg I know! Husband is here and helping out but god I just don’t want to hear “muuuuuum” every time I try to start something

Also..the bickering. Oh god, the bickering

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Iggyplop · 01/08/2021 14:23

I think you need some precious 'ME' time OP. Go recharge those mummy batteries for a few hours ☺️

Horehound · 01/08/2021 14:42

This is why I got a cleaner a few days ago! At least something gets done!

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HamsterHelp · 01/08/2021 14:42

I want a cleaner but there is zero availability round here just now. I’m working on it!

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OneToThree · 01/08/2021 14:45

I remember those days. Kids are older now and spend a lot of time in their rooms. Being downstairs on your own can be a bit boring (if dh is out too).

OneToThree · 01/08/2021 14:46

Just re-read my message and it doesn’t read right at all. I just mean it will pass and then they don’t want you as much anymore 😭

Cazzovuoi · 01/08/2021 14:51

If you can afford it hire someone to do the jobs you hate so you have more headspace for the kids.

A cleaner or gardener or even someone to come in on a Saturday and batch cook meals for the freezer for the week. I'd rather pay someone to make my life easier by doing the hateful wife work than spend it on nights out, meals out or things like Netflix and Spotify etc.

BananaMilkshakeWithCream · 01/08/2021 14:53

Sorry for the boast but I’m loving it now DS is older and is now off with his girlfriend half the time (they’re back today after 6 days). I used to find it all very tiring, as much as I loved the little chap 💕

BananaMilkshakeWithCream · 01/08/2021 14:54

Trying to say, it won’t always be like this.

Babyroobs · 01/08/2021 14:55

I hate to say this but it doesn't change much as they get older. I have four kids/ young adults between the ages of 16-22 and the amount of work they still create is unbelievable. Eldest ds has just returned from Uni and living at home again, in fact they all live at home except 18year old ds who is at his gf's house a lot. It's not really economical to ask them to do individual washing as sometimes it's just a work short each so I seem to end up doing that, booking covid jabs and drs appointments for then, chasing up that they are keeping their rooms tidy, putting out bedding for washing etc. It's relentless even though I insist they do as much for themselves as possible they don't bother. Things like checking the tyre pressures and oil and water on their cars - they should do it themselves but don't and dh ends up doing it so that they are safe. Plus endless meal prep, keeping on top of the garden etc. We are in our fifties and exhausted. Love them to bits but counting down the days until they leave home to be honest !!

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HamsterHelp · 01/08/2021 14:55

even someone to come in on a Saturday and batch cook meals for the freezer for the week

These angels exist?!

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Babyroobs · 01/08/2021 14:56

@Babyroobs

I hate to say this but it doesn't change much as they get older. I have four kids/ young adults between the ages of 16-22 and the amount of work they still create is unbelievable. Eldest ds has just returned from Uni and living at home again, in fact they all live at home except 18year old ds who is at his gf's house a lot. It's not really economical to ask them to do individual washing as sometimes it's just a work short each so I seem to end up doing that, booking covid jabs and drs appointments for then, chasing up that they are keeping their rooms tidy, putting out bedding for washing etc. It's relentless even though I insist they do as much for themselves as possible they don't bother. Things like checking the tyre pressures and oil and water on their cars - they should do it themselves but don't and dh ends up doing it so that they are safe. Plus endless meal prep, keeping on top of the garden etc. We are in our fifties and exhausted. Love them to bits but counting down the days until they leave home to be honest !!

I am honestly thinking of getting the 3 that are working to chip in towards a cleaner each week.

PrimeraVez · 01/08/2021 14:59

I get it. I’m 36w pregnant and just got in from work and all I want to do is take off my bra and lie on the sofa and eat crisps.

Instead I need to deal with a Lego explosion in the playroom, there are dirty hand prints all down the kitchen door which are bugging me and DC2 is complaining that his bum is itchy.

We do actually have a nanny but fuck knows what planet she was on today as she’s clocked off and left piles of folded laundry precariously balanced on the stairs (so I need to put them away before someone knocks them over) and as she walked out the door, she announced ‘the downstairs toilet seems to be blocked by the way….’ 🤦🏻‍♀️

PrimeraVez · 01/08/2021 15:00

Oh, and DH who is normally great at pulling his weight, is glued to the F1 and just says ‘uh huh, just one second….’ when I ask him to come and help.

Amboseli · 01/08/2021 15:01

It gets easier sooner than you think. By the time mine were 11/12/13 they were very independent, out with friends a lot and could fend for themselves if left home alone for a few hours.

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HamsterHelp · 01/08/2021 16:42

Tried to sneak out to the shops and ended up having to take them both with me, such was the tantrum. They got new clothes. I was not allowed 30 bloody seconds to look at clothes for me 😒

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lannistunut · 01/08/2021 16:48

I have two kids to entertain. A house to clean. Meals to make.

a) Try to find something they can do to entertain themselves, I used to put effort into the set up to buy some time off, obviously age of children affects what level of activity is needed
b) Houses can be cleaned tomorrow (unless there is piss, shit or sick involved)
c) Everyone needs to be fed, but meals can be assembled from cold components avoiding any cooking IMO

HollowTalk · 01/08/2021 16:50

someone to come in on a Saturday and batch cook meals for the freezer for the week

Why on earth would you want someone in your kitchen cooking six or seven days' worth of meals? They'd be there all day! Look at Cook online instead.

Cazzovuoi · 01/08/2021 19:43

Why on earth would you want someone in your kitchen cooking six or seven days' worth of meals? They'd be there all day!

Exactly… OP won’t be! I fail to see an issue 💁🏼‍♀️

Member278307 · 01/08/2021 20:29

Can I ask why have children

HollyGoLoudly1 · 01/08/2021 21:01

@Member278307

Can I ask why have children

Who else would follow me around calling out 'mummyyyyyyy' every 2.5 seconds and ask me to look at every poo they do?

HollyGoLoudly1 · 01/08/2021 21:03

If when I win the lottery I shall be getting a nanny, cleaner and chef. The very same day. I really don't understand how I am expected to adult without such basics?

You're not alone OP!

Chish · 01/08/2021 21:08

I get it . I do 99.9999999999999999999 percent of the childcare.

I'm chief entertainments Manager to my children as well as nurse, referee, chef, cleaner and mother all at the same time.

It's gruelling at times. I also have shit mental health.

Happy days.

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HamsterHelp · 01/08/2021 23:03

Can I ask why have children

The good times outweigh the hard times.

The hard times are just…hard.

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