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Packing in Mumsnet!

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Sandra15 · 31/07/2021 21:12

I joined a few months ago, initially as I needed some help with an issue with a friend, that I couldn't talk to people in real life about as it wasn't fair on her. I got some good responses, but in the main I was called names, told I was a 'dick', vile, and other unpleasant, childish name calling without any actual constructive comments about the issue I was asking about.

I've contributed a bit since then, but today I've been absolutely pilloried by posters with smart alec comments, attempts to psychoanalyse me, again calling me vile, telling me I need counselling and have deep seated issues and am not owning up to the fact I want a man (I don't need any of these things). Just baiting, calling names, accusing me of telling fibs. It's batshit crazy in many ways. These people don't actually know me, nor anyone else they reply to, from Adam, so I don't understand their angle.

I appreciate there are many genuine and kind posters on here, and some discussions have been great but I no longer want to be part of a community that has playground mentality mean girls, spiteful
baiters and smart alecs amongst the members. My friends in real life are not like this (or they wouldn't be my friends!)

So I am bailing on Mumsnet. Of course the majority of you aren't like that, but too many are for my liking.

Shame, but it has to be done.

OP posts:
mafted · 31/07/2021 21:16

Maybe ask for this to be moved to Flouncer's Corner Smile

NiceTwin · 31/07/2021 21:18

Well it can be a bit Hmm at times but there are some genuinely lovely people on here who have supported women through bereavement, miscarriage, affairs, violence.

Just don't get too invested and move away from threads that cause you angst.

Shirleyphallus · 31/07/2021 21:19

I’ve just AS’d you. Your initial thread was pretty horrible and said some awful things about a supposed friend. You got called some names but they don’t seem unfair

There is a flouncers board which is dearly underused and you may be more suited to announcing your departure there (unnecessary as it is)

carbon60 · 31/07/2021 21:22

Don't be daft it's the funniest thing on the web, want a laugh? come here and see all the strange women raging away. Don't take the bait, just sit back with the popcorn :-)

Sparklfairy · 31/07/2021 21:23

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MinnieMountain · 31/07/2021 21:25

Did you only post in AIBU by any chance?

clickychicky · 31/07/2021 21:27

Check out flouncers Corner?

atlastifoundit · 31/07/2021 21:28

It can be very variable. If the first half a dozen replies are measured, kind, sensible responses, then the whole thread tends to go that way. The odd renegade then gets stepped on by other posters and told to shut up.

On the other hand, if the first few replies are somewhat less than what one might hope for, then it can descend very quickly into what you have described.

I've been called an outright liar and a troll for such random things as complaining about a crowded train, my dd's GP appointment and the location of a public footpath.

You can never tell which way it is going to go.

Pebbledashery · 31/07/2021 21:28

Lol dramatic.

HeronLanyon · 31/07/2021 21:28

I’ve never really understood the ‘flouncers’ board’. If ever I wanted to flounce off I’d want to flounce loudly and sweep off so dramatically that I wouldn’t even notice that no one was paying the slightest bit of notice.
Flouncers corner makes me think of a time I tried to do a massive two handed door slam (it would have been spectacular and I’m not a slammer!) but the door got caught on something - damp squib.

AnneLovesGilbert · 31/07/2021 21:30

today I've been absolutely pilloried by posters with smart alec comments, attempts to psychoanalyse me, again calling me vile, telling me I need counselling and have deep seated issues and am not owning up to the fact I want a man

Why? What did you say first?

Smartiepants79 · 31/07/2021 21:31

I never understand why anyone posting this kind of thing honestly thinks anyone else gives a shit or is even going to notice!
I’ve been on here for 10 years, contributing every so often as I feel like it. Even after this length of time I don’t flatter myself that anyone would notice if I stopped posting!

vodkaredbullgirl · 31/07/2021 21:34

Cya later Smile

Bedsheets4knickers · 31/07/2021 21:34

@Smartiepants79

I never understand why anyone posting this kind of thing honestly thinks anyone else gives a shit or is even going to notice! I’ve been on here for 10 years, contributing every so often as I feel like it. Even after this length of time I don’t flatter myself that anyone would notice if I stopped posting!
🤣 same . 14 years for me and no one would give a shite if I disappeared . Apart from the grammar police maybe 😜 they seem to love me .
MrsJBaptiste · 31/07/2021 21:36

@Smartiepants79

I never understand why anyone posting this kind of thing honestly thinks anyone else gives a shit or is even going to notice! I’ve been on here for 10 years, contributing every so often as I feel like it. Even after this length of time I don’t flatter myself that anyone would notice if I stopped posting!
Absofuckinlutely!

I'm not so vain to think anyone would recognise let alone remember my name! If I go, I'll go and without any kind of fanfare (unfortunately)

HeronLanyon · 31/07/2021 21:36

Waves at smartie. Was just wondering where you’d been ! Grin

VladmirsPoutine · 31/07/2021 21:36

oooohhhh I do love a good flouncing announcement Grin

It's really not that deep, just dip in and out as and when you see fit. It's an online forum not a UN convention.

Shapesorted · 31/07/2021 21:42

Just read some of your posts, you're not exactly a delight yourself. Mostly slagging off people in real life... Is that different to the mean things people have said straight to you?

Shirleyphallus · 31/07/2021 21:46

Yeah I’ve now read the posts from the last few days and it seems like MN has got the measure of you. Perhaps you need to start listening to how people are saying you come across

Smartiepants79 · 31/07/2021 21:46

👋🏻 @HeronLanyon 😆. I’m going to look out for you from now on!!

Pebbledashery · 31/07/2021 21:47

@Shirleyphallus

Yeah I’ve now read the posts from the last few days and it seems like MN has got the measure of you. Perhaps you need to start listening to how people are saying you come across
What Shirley said. :)
Panickingpavlova · 31/07/2021 21:48

Op unfortunately it's not a theme re the you need counselling it's not personal it's random on Internet as in rl the people I know who push all this actually need most the help themselves.

Mumsnet is a great place for advice and has different areas like relationships where most goady posters don't go or sometimes obot where threads last for 30 days and people are kindergarten them on the main boards.

Most of us have been through what you have... I hang on because one amazing poster with great advice in among the dross comes along and really helps Flowers

Futureself · 31/07/2021 21:48

Op. You are taking it too personally. I saw your thread the other day and thought you were getting a hard time. Sometimes there are some mental replies to threads. I like to read because some posters are so witty, it's worth it just for the laughs Flowers

WorraLiberty · 31/07/2021 21:52

< Devastated >

blacksax · 31/07/2021 21:53

You haven't exactly been backward in coming forward with your own opinions though, have you?

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