Need a new car but DH won't do anything about it...

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Not sure what I need, advice, a place to vent, don't know.

In a nutshell, last year we got a new car, a really really fancy new car that cost a lot of money. It's one DH has lusted over for a long time and after lots of research etc we got it. I don't really care that much but it's nice enough. Not what I'd choose but I'm not bothered and was happy for the money to be spent.

Then I discovered I was pregnant with number 3, totally unexpectedly. Immediately upon finding out I said we'd need a different car as we need something more practical. I want a car that fits 3 car seats across the back, which the current car doesn't.

DH made unenthusiastic noises and basically hasn't agreed to buy a new car. He hasn't said no, but I haven't been able to make any progress with it.

The baby is due in 6 weeks time and we haven't got a car that fits all of our children!

I don't want to go out and buy a car myself, I could as I have access to money but we've always treated money as joint money and made every decision as a joint decision. We also don't need 2 cars and we're trying to move house so ideally I'd like to sell our current car and buy a different, more suitable one. We could buy 5 suitable cars if we sold the unsuitable one

I know this seems like a stupid problem but I really just am at a loss. how do I make him understand this is actually got to happen, even if it means getting rid of his dream car?

Just put a car seat in the front passenger seat. He can squeeze in between the two kids at the back. Once he is uncomfortable, he will take action

You're not a doormat. He's being a selfish knob.

If it's your money you have earned or have had left to you or saved buy the car. I don't see why he should sell his new car after such a short time. You would lose money on it.

His selfishness aside, you could def get 3 seats across if you have the top tether option. We have a (smaller) honda civic sport & did the following - the trick is to use seats that use the seat belts, not Isofix - gives you more wiggle room and still just as safe.

Maxi Cosi base & seat (version that uses the seat belt, not the Isofix version) for baby on one side
Narrow high back booster in the middle for eldest (Eg Britax Romer adventure)
Diono radian 5 for your middle child on the other side (uses top tether & can be rear faced or front faced to 25kg)

Our third child came 5 weeks early...!

Ask him how he thinks you will ever be able to go anywhere once the baby is born?

Apologies I've not read the full thread so unsure if someone has mentioned that it may be with speaking to the garage you got your car from to see if they can advise if 3 seats can fit in the back and what makes,etc.