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Did anything go wrong on your wedding day?

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TheChild · 27/07/2021 18:11

I'm getting married in the morning Gin and, like you do, I'm having a pre-wedding "what might go wrong" thoughts.

So just to make me EVEN MORE nervous, did anything go wrong at your wedding, or anyone else's wedding that you attended? I have never been to a wrdding with any fuck ups (that I know of!), so I'm hoping mine won't be the first one I experience Grin

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justlonelystars · 27/07/2021 19:40

My great aunt (in her 90s) collapsed and an ambulance needed to be called. This was in between mains and dessert so things were very delayed (of course we didn’t care about this and just wanted her to be okay!) but our wedding planner kept things on track with timings. Great aunt went to hospital but was thankfully all okay!

chilledteacher · 27/07/2021 19:40

Bridesmaid went to the wrong church, waited for ages for her to turn up. Had to get on with it without her, she arrived during the photos, had the right hump for the rest of the afternoon and left before the first dance. Needless to say we haven't met since...that was a long time ago!

Thatwaslulu · 27/07/2021 19:41

The best man and DH caught my eye when I was saying my vows (and the registrar had mispronounced and mucked up the sentence I had to repeat) and made me giggle uncontrollably through my vows like a prat. MIL died on our wedding day (she was in hospital and had cancer so it wasn't unexpected, but nobody told us until the next day). DH got drunk as arseholes on our wedding night, he got undressed (starkers) to go outside the hotel room onto the balcony to have a fag, came back in, got fully dressed again and came to bed. What a day. It was a long and happy marriage though.

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Letsnotargue · 27/07/2021 19:41

At mine the flowers were completely wrong. I was so disappointed as I’d given them photos of what I’d wanted and they’d swapped some of the orchids for white carnations (which I’d specifically said no to as I hate carnations) and they’d seen the flowers that morning and just decided to use the beautiful anemones as buttonholes instead of in my bouquet.

My hair fell down in the car on the way to the venue.

PIL turned up at the venue before me (I was getting ready there). I’d asked them not to so I could have some time to set up the cake and get things sorted but they turned up bold as brass and did the whole ‘you haven’t seen us, we’re not really here’ thing.

New H stood on my dress on the way out of the ceremony.

We hadn’t practiced our first dance and had different ideas on how we would actually dance (where our arms were etc) so most of the dance is us not so subtly fighting over how to dance.

BIL filmed the ceremony and then refused to give us the video. We got divorced 4 years later and still hadn’t seen the video.

Congratulations for tomorrow, and as long as you end up married, the rest of the day can go down in history as a funny story.

Mummysgonetobed · 27/07/2021 19:42

I completely missed an entire couple off the whole day. No place set for them, no food, nothing. Luckily we had a master of ceremonies who was bloody amazing and I didn’t even know until a few days later as he dealt with it all for me.
Also our food was crap but we made up for it with bacon butties in the evening.
Hope you have an amazing day, congratulations.

Mummysgonetobed · 27/07/2021 19:43

Oh and also the chair cover people brought the wrong colours with them. Luckily I saw it as they were setting up and they had time to go and get the right ones!

Benjispruce5 · 27/07/2021 19:44

Congratulations!
Mine was 25 years ago. I suddenly realised that everyone was too busy to help me secure my veil and headdress as they we’re securing hats etc. My bridesmaid were little . A minor oversight but it did bring a slight panic at the last minute. The other issue was that I had a banging headache all day and didn’t touch a drop of champagne!!Angry

meow1989 · 27/07/2021 19:45

I was completely nonsensically worried about giant hogweed burns prior to my wedding. I even told my lovely earth mother type bridesmaid to stay away from fields Blush

On the actual day nothing I recall went wrong though I did knock dh buttonhole off when I hugged him after walking down the aisle before the ceremony. We and my close friends burst out laughing and it was wonderful for easing my nerves!

Oh, the other thing was when I was getting ready I got a call to say the gazebo where we were having the bar had blown away! Bar relocated into barn and no harm done.

Tulips15 · 27/07/2021 19:49

my DB snapped his cruciate ligament the day before his wedding- picked up box of confetti.
I took him to A&E, his leg was bandaged, given morphine and crutches
....Many jokes about the wedding night ,were in the best man speech.
( He ended up having surgery a few days later and off work for most of the year! fine now!)

Starlive23 · 27/07/2021 19:49

My husband's grandad collapsed while I was walking up the aisle! Taken straight to hospital along with in laws. Thankfully he was fine and joined us for breakfast the next morning but it was really stressful!

sadie9 · 27/07/2021 19:50

When I got out of the car in the dress, it was pouffy so it brushed against the inner hinge of the door and there was oil there!
So I ended up with a small patch of oil on the side of my dress.

Daisymae15 · 27/07/2021 19:53

M&D had a row. Dad wore glasses that made him look like a gangster. Priest called us the wrong names. BMs speech was a flop.
DH lost his wallet with all our honeymoon money.(don't know why he took it) And left the price on his shoes.
The funniest part was my DGM asking loudly why I was marrying someone else. She had dementia and the last male she had seen me with
was the boy who lived next door to her when I was 12.

inappropriateraspberry · 27/07/2021 19:55

The vicar got my name wrong! Not for the vows, thankfully, but during some talk before I came down the aisle. Completely wrong, not even a similar name. My DH tried to correct him, but the vicar ignored him. Luckily he'd just got muddled and obviously checked his notes before the important bit.
Also, the DJ played my list of 'don't plays' like cha cha slide, and other crap that I can't stand! He did play the other stuff as well though, and everyone was dancing, so didn't complain.
I think one of my bridesmaids was sick, (drink) but didn't tell me.
TBH, it was a great day - those I cared about were there and they all had a great time, as did we. I think it would be odd if you had a wedding without something going wrong!

Clevs · 27/07/2021 19:58

I left my flowers behind.

dolor · 27/07/2021 20:00

Well yes, the fact that I got married. Grin

GingerbreadZinc · 27/07/2021 20:00

Congratulations OP, I hope you have a lovely day tomorrow.

Totally outing, but my brother gave me away and we'd just done the walk down the aisle, were singing the first hymn and his boss rang him! Luckily the singing drowned his phone out, but you can see us chuckling away on the video.

Also, my mum nearly chucked the cake topper away - she had to go back to rescue it.

At my brother's wedding, the best man dropped the rings down the grate and the verger had to go in & rescue them the next day!

Off to name change now!

Boood · 27/07/2021 20:02

Little things nobody else would have noticed.
The plan was to collect the plain cake from the shop, take it to the venue and decorate it with piped cream and berries there. Completely failed to consider the need for any kind of piping implements, and we were short of time, so bridesmaid and I kind of splodged the cream on with plastic spoons and stuck berries on top. It looked amazing, considering.
Had very detailed plan for getting ready. Sat around yacking instead and forgot to put makeup on, so had to do it in five minutes just like on a normal day.
We weren’t really aware at the time, but the venue fucked up getting the speakers sorted for the music- they weren’t where they were supposed to be. Somebody was dragged in on their day off to sort it, and the lovely organiser lady was quite red-faced and puffy-eyed when I saw her later, so it must have been quite stressful for her. Bless her though, she did sort it and didn’t let us know there was a problem at all.
And finally I completely forgot to tell the bridesmaids about the home-made confetti, so we didn’t have any.
Most of these fuckups were the result of me planning everything to the nth degree, but not wanting to bore/burden anybody else with carrying the plans out, and being too excited to do it myself. The bits that didn’t require intervention on the day went really well 😂

TwoZeroTwoZero · 27/07/2021 20:03

Nothing. It was a lovely and very relaxed day.

TheWindOnTheMoon · 27/07/2021 20:08

My dad was an alcoholic, turned up roaring drunk on the day, completely wrecked my wedding, insisted in driving his car, crashed it into DH's uncle's car, & damaged it. Step mother refused to eat anything at reception, and walked out after an hour or so, saying she had doctor's appointment to get to Confused

My aunt, in wheelchair, couldn't get into venue as lift was broken and had to miss wedding altogether.

MIL has never forgiven me for everything that went wrong, because apparently it was all my fault Hmm

Could have been worse I suppose, but not much.

miltonj · 27/07/2021 20:08

@IndanthroneBlue

Thankfully after a beautiful ceremony but two of my guests, a married couple, got into a physical fight at the reception, the hotel called the police and both were arrested with the woman released to go to hospital. Totally ended the night so we didn't even cut the wedding cake.
Wow what awful behaviour from the couple. I hope they tried to make it up to you.
SpiderinaWingMirror · 27/07/2021 20:10

Got married in the utterly skint days of 1991.
Reception at my mum and dads. Mum did the catering herself.
Hired chairs- wrong ones arrived.
Hired table for cake, wrong one arrived.
Idiot work colleague who smoked 30 cigs a day had an asthma attack and was carted odd in an ambulance.
Paid money I didn't have for a photographer who went bust.
Pleased to say it's been a very happy 30 year marriage!

NoYOUbekind · 27/07/2021 20:13

I've been to some hilarious weddings

  • the one where the venue lit the little tea lights that were meant to be favours and one of the floral arrangements went up in flames in the middle of the speeches
  • the one where the drunk gay best friend pushed the very expensive singer off the stage to sing 'their' song (badly)
  • the one where the bride was so drunk (although it was probably mostly nerves) the groom had to hold her up for the first dance, you could literally see her toes bouncing off the floor like a puppet on a string
  • the one where the bride's dad had died three months before so the mother of the bride and sister sat with a face like a slapped arse all day then left super early - that one actually made me really, really cross
  • the one where the step mother of the bride was so pissed she fell of her chair and then fell over again at Loch Lomond (Scotsnet members will know what that means...)

I do love a wedding. Yours will be brilliant OP, congratulations and have an amazing day.

Horehound · 27/07/2021 20:14

Photographer wanted is to walk down a road covered in pine needles. It was autumn so the ground was absolutely covered in them and the trees were all autumny colours too..nice photo.

But then I spent an hour trying to get all the fucking pine needles that had got trapped in my lace dress!!

The photographer just annoyed me on the day which I hadn't expected.
The tables were set to the wrong people's names so there was a little mix up first of waiters delivering food to the wrong people.

My bridesmaid/SIL/friend of 12+ years who had married to my brother 6 months previously and was with him for 12 years...she broke up with my brother 3 days after my wedding. So that was nice of her ruining all our professional photos and sending him into a suicidal downward spiral. I'm still really hurt by it all.

Jubilate · 27/07/2021 20:14

No obvious disasters, just people not knowing their place.

And a pissed, newly divorced MIL who told DH's work colleague that they'd have made a better couple, much to colleagues delight who proceeded to tell everyone she met for the rest of the evening.

Mumdiva99 · 27/07/2021 20:18

My daughter got a blister walking to church so it was crocs or barefoot....she walked down the aisle in front of me in bare feet.

My son had a strop after the ceremony and disappeared when we wanted to have the few group shots taken. Then he came back.and had another strop because he'd missed the canapés! Lol. We got a photo with him in eventually.

So for all the planning you can only control what you can control. You can't control the way your kids are on the day. I loved our wedding. The kids look back on it and loved it too. (And I think DH did too.....at least I told him he did.)

Have a brilliant day tomorrow. As long as you want to be married then the rest is just a one day party. If it goes without a hitch - amazing. If there is a hitch then no matter it's just a tale to tell in future.