OH or parents don't take photographs.

[Saladcreamormayo]

Does anybody else have a OH that never takes photos? Whilst scrolling through my photo albums on my phone I have noticed there a very few photos of me with my children and those few are posed and I've asked to be taken, so no in the moment snap shots of me with my children, and on days out or holidays you wouldn't even know I'd been there! Where as I have loads of lovely pics of my OH having fun with the children. Also loads of lovely pictures of my parents with the children but they also never take photos so they have none of me with my children either. I obviously take the odd selfie of me with them but it's not the same. I have mentioned to him in the past and my parents about them not taking pics and that I wish they'd take some of me with the children for them to look back on in years to come but they still don't bother. Also if my OH takes the children out for the day on his own to the beach or a zoo etc he will not take a single photo No idea why. If it wasnt for me there wouldn't be a single photo in existence of my children. I even bought him a new phone with a decent camera hoping he'd take pics but no nothings changed. What can I do to encourage him to take pics? Does anyone else have a OH like this?

I don't have many photos of me with my dc - which is fine, I was a single parent so there simply wasn't anyone there to take them! However I was birth partner to my daughter when my grandchild arrived. I remember taking photos and thinking "no one will take one of me in this moment" put the thought to one side because it really wasn't about me! Of course my daughter's father turns up an hour or two later and I dutifully man the camera when he asks for Grandad shots... not one of me. I still regret that I didn't speak up, totally my fault sadly

Op, speak up. No one needs a photo every hour for Facebook or Instagram but just one every now and again for the album really matters

@Saladcreamormayo can you maybe speak to him about it? Just explain you’d love some more “non-posed” photos of you with the children. Show him a couple of examples that you’ve taken of him with them so he knows what you mean.

Maybe ask him to try and take at least one photo on each family outing? That way he can get out his phone when an opportunity presents itself, snap a photo and then put it away again; and he doesn’t have to feel pressured about taking a “perfect photo” - some of them may come out blurry and rubbish, but the law of averages says that you’ll at least get a few more decent ones!

@phillipa12 I am so sorry about the loss of your daughter, those 2 photos you have of you with her must be extremely precious to you.
@Dyrne I have asked him many many times to take pics of me playing or reading etc with the children but he still doesn't do it. I've shown him the lovely ones I've taken of him with them but he's not interested as photos are not important to him so he doesn't seem to understand why a photo would be special or important to anyone else. My parents are the same also and I've asked them to take some for me but it still has never happened my mother just says she just never thinks to take one. I have even stopped sending them pics I've taken of the children to encourage them to take their own photos of them but they don't. It hurts when I see other grandparents taking photos of their grandchild when out & about and mine are just not interested enough to do so. I know many grandparents who love to show me photos they have taken of their grandchildren as they are their pride & joy my parents have never done this with their grandchildren I find it quite sad.