I had a thread about my dad, but need answers to this, my head is all over the place, especially due to this heat, so need objective advice.
Dad is within last days of life (he was predicted to pass by end of last week, but is strong).
He is unresponsive, hasn't drunk or had any fluids, since Saturday (no drip or hydration at all).
A sort of friend of dad's has texted me to say she wants to go and see him, along with a few other friends of his.
I did think dad would like his oldest friend to pop in, but these are not that old.
My mum is against it, and to be honest I'm worried that we will have acquaintances there when he passes and have their grief as well as ours, plus they WILL expect to be given food and drinks and mum has enough on her plate running ragged looking after dad, looking after their two dogs and having nurses and carers in throughout the day.
If I'm there I could make a drink, but don't feel like playing hostess to be quite honest.
It's actually distressing to see him as he's gasping for air, I don't think they understand this, plus mum wants to just be with us (family).
I think dad's oldest friend popping in for a couple of minutes would be nice, but not a crowd.
What do I say/do?
- [Message from MNHQ: please see OP's sad update before responding]