My last day off alone until September and dc is ill.

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I probably will sound very selfish and I know many others will be in this situation with pre schoolers, but I need to moan to someone.

I work 4 days a week with a Wednesday off. Wednesday is my day to catch up on all housework, shopping and ideally an hours rest before school pick up. For the last 3 Wednesday at least one of my dc have been ill and off school. Each time only feeling unwell and nothing to come of it. Last 2 weeks dc got sent home with tummy pains but had no sickness or diarrhea. Now, today dd has a headache and tummy ache and was up a lot last night so will have today off.

I haven't had a days peace in over 3 weeks and the summer holidays will begin next week.

Today I also have a medical appointment I have to now cancel as I cannot take dc with me. Ive rearranged this appointment twice already.

Sorry everyone, just needed to moan to someone.

totally understand how you feel.

Roll on September

You don't sound selfish, I completely get it. Parenting is lovely but exhausting and I find time off (even to do chores) makes me a better mum, so totally feel your disappointment :( hope your little one feels better soon x

Definitely understand, haven't had a day alone in years. Every time I try and book my youngest into nursery for an extra day so I can just have 5 minutes peace something comes up! And I'm going to up my hours in September so I think a day to myself is going to be a long way off. It's needed sometimes, it's not selfish.

I was going to have two days off to myself this week, the first since he beginning of covid, during which I’ve done the homeschooling/working thing until I’ve broken (and then some).

Then a bubble popped.

I know that feeling. I work in a school so when I am off the kids are off. I have one day every year where my kids school goes back and my school has an inset day. 2 years in a row now we have been in lockdown or child isolating on that day. I have my fingers crossed for 2022 as 3 years without a day off just me is killing me!!!!

Yup. I routinely work 10-12hrs days 5 days a week but I worked through last weekend and had really been looking forward to Thursday and Friday to relax before the holiday starts.
A totally selfish twatty parent in ds's class sent her child in to school on Monday whilst waiting for results of a pcr test. (they'd been isolating because sibling had covid). Obviously child tested +ve so D's is now at home and instead of seeing friends, going for a long walk and chilling at home I'm now home educating a small child.

Dh's term finishes before DS's term so that was our first chance - and possibly only - chance this year to go out on our own without a child.

I totally understand where you're coming from.

My last day off I had DD at home ill.
I woke this a.m actually contemplating ringing in sick as both dc are well and can go to school and I really could do with a 'me' day. It will be my only chance.

I totally get it too. Same thing happened to me on Friday, my last day "off" (because the plan was housework, food shopping etc) before the holidays and smallest DC had a high temperature...it's so frustrating.
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Can’t your husband have them for a day at the weekends do you can get a break? (Mine never did, so I had all that and worked full time, but wish now I had beem more assertive ☹️

This happened to me last month. I booked 2 days off because I needed some 'me time'. Baby number 2 is due next month and LO was sent home from nursery sick the day before I'm annual leave started!

very annoying.

the first full week I was gonna have by myself in 16 years ended with me taking DS1 to hospital everyday for AB IV because he had developed cellulitis.

obv I was worried about him. but boy was I pissed off at the utter wanker timing!

Do your kids know you're home on a Wednesday? Could they be feeling poorly because they know it means a day at home with mummy? Obviously when bubbles burst at the moment you can't do a thing about it, but a stomach ache with no D or V wouldn't be enough reason to get off school for me. Or at the very least they'd go to school and I'd collect later if they weren't coping as it's amazing what 'illnesses' kids forget about when playing with their friends.

I feel your pain. I went full time last year and I don't anticipate having a day alone until the dc leave home. Maybe never if dh retires at the same time as me! It's really difficult.

Does s/he need to be off? The symptoms you describe of headache and tummy ache don't sound like it. Can you send in first thing and see if they get returned to you? Would that allow you to get to your appointment at least?

Yes I get. I have just finished a course which I have been completing on my days off for the past two years. This week I am covering sickness in work. Tuesday is my last day alone before the summer holidays and I am looking forward to it so much.

It's not selfish to want a day to get on top of admin, shopping and cleaning. You can just imagine a man feeling guilty for using his day off for chores. He'd want a fucking parade. You are not selfish.

@toomuchfaster

Does s/he need to be off? The symptoms you describe of headache and tummy ache don't sound like it. Can you send in first thing and see if they get returned to you? Would that allow you to get to your appointment at least?

Unfortunately it's not just the symptoms of wanting to go home, it's also the main symptoms of covid in children.

And it isn't the school receptionist's job to babysit kids with tummy aches and headaches so mums can enjoy a day off or go to appointments, even without the risk of it being covid.

Thank you all for understanding.

@toomuchfaster if I send them into school I'm pretty sure they will get sent back home. Once my ds got sent home for a very minor nose bleed!
The amount of times they send my children home actually makes me feel like I am doing wrong sending them in if they feel the slightest bit ill.

Yes I wonder if they know you're home Wednesdays and want to be with you.

Everyone above.... guys..... just book a days childcare over summer!! One day 9-3 in a little sports camp or activity type thing will set you back about £35 in the most expensive area - I am in SW London and a football camp that takes from 4 is less than £25 for 9-5.

There is no need to only have 1 day off in 3 years!

@NeverDropYourMoonCup I can’t see anywhere after a quick google that the main symptoms of Covid in children are headache and tummy ache? The symptoms are the same as an adult - cough/high temperature/lack of smell or taste.

I get you. I have Fridays off and have been looking forward to having it to myself when DD started school. Except thanks to the pandemic, DH now works from home so not really on my own anymore.

@Kentuki

Everyone above.... guys..... just book a days childcare over summer!! One day 9-3 in a little sports camp or activity type thing will set you back about £35 in the most expensive area - I am in SW London and a football camp that takes from 4 is less than £25 for 9-5.

There is no need to only have 1 day off in 3 years!

With multiple children, that soon adds up!

But if my kids are in summer camp I work. It’s the only way I can spread my annual leave to cover the holidays. Occasionally I might book one day for myself but it’s rare as otherwise it leaves more of a headache for the school hols.

I have four hours every other Friday to myself since one DC school started to finish at lunchtime. Last three weeks I’ve had well, but isolating children cluttering up the place.

This week is my last chance but I’m trying not to think about it too much in case it doesn’t happen!

[quote Honeypickle]@NeverDropYourMoonCup I can’t see anywhere after a quick google that the main symptoms of Covid in children are headache and tummy ache? The symptoms are the same as an adult - cough/high temperature/lack of smell or taste.[/quote]
Experience of bubbles bursting. Every kid in the last three months that I've sent home and has subsequently tested positive has come in complaining that their tummy hurts and they've a headache.