Ruckus with neighbour last night, would you avoid or go and make peace?

[Awkwardispute]

Last night a neighbour two doors down was having a party, they were watching the match indoors but had loud music blaring out from his car on the shared drive area for hours - so loud it was practically just booming bass and inaudible. His guests also took to standing in our porch (which backs on to our living room) to make phonecalls and being generally very antisocial.

Eventually at gone midnight me and OH went outside where some other neighbours were gathering (equally pissed off at the noise) and we were gesturing to him to turn it down but he just shrugged. He turned it off for no more than two minutes then when we went in he put it straight back on at the same volume.

Unfortunately at this point OH lost his temper and went out shouting that if he didn't turn it off he'd rip the stereo out of the car and break it, he's had enough, the noise is upsetting our child etc. He swore.

This is out of character for OH who is generally conflict avoidant, but after putting up with it for hours he ended up having a meltdown (he has autism but the neighbours obviously don't know that)

The music went off and we were finally able to go to bed but I'm feeling quite awkward about it all today. We've never had any problems with the neighbours in all of the years we've been here.

WWYD? Avoid the neighbour (not easy) or have a chat now everybody has calmed down?

When I lost it years ago and went and banged on the noisy neighbours door, someone suggested I apologise. I laughed.

I would have also gotten the water gun out on the people on the porch. When the workers from an office block opposite kept coming under the entrance porch for a cig, despite posters, told one of them I was going to follow them home, stand outside their door and see how they liked it.

I do have a personality disorder though with traits such as confrontation and not giving a shit if I upset people.

I do have a personality disorder though with traits such as confrontation and not giving a shit if I upset people.

Is it BPD? My friend has that.

Such traits might well be an asset to a degree, I'm very much the opposite to my detriment. I'd love to not give a shit and to tell people how it is - when deserved ofc.

I would hope your neighbor would apologise. However in my experience entitled people like this do not.

It is outrageous. If it happens again go mental with them at the start.

@Awkwardispute well spotted!! It can also be a curse because of the not giving a shit attitude.

The only reason I mentioned it was to prevent the keyboard warrior type posts. 😂

Don’t apologise. The neighbour is an antisocial twat so if anyone should be apologising, it’s him.