How to support a friend who is about to lose custody of her DC?

[Dauphinois]

For a range of reasons a friend of mine might be about to lose custody of her child. The social workers report is pretty damning, and is arguably slanted, though not factually incorrect. The court hearing is next week.

She's very vulnerable and low about it all. How on earth to we support her to accept the court ruling and move forward in a positive way? The child hasn't been living with her for the best part of a year now, but understandably she only viewed it as a temporary arrangement and has always been convinced she'll get him back. I'm just not sure she will now

@Kanaloa

I would try and impress upon her how important it is that she stays together for the contact. Every other weekend and the odd evening may not sound a lot, but it could be less, and showing that she can be responsible and together for these times is building trust between her and her son. She should think of it as fortunate that she is still able to have this unsupervised contact and try to build a strong foundation to where there’s a possibility of more contact again.

I agree with that. If the child is happy during the time they spend together that will make a lot of difference and as he gets older he'll be able to please himself where he goes and when.

I agree with that. If the child is happy during the time they spend together that will make a lot of difference and as he gets older he'll be able to please himself where he goes and when.

And if he doesn't want to spend as much time with her as she wants, he shouldn't be guilted into anything.

If she has a history of dodgy men then Id recommend she does the freedom programme.