URGENT ADVICE NEEDED ABOUT HAVING 2 CHILDREN

[Zofloralover1]

So basically me and my partner haven’t been together long and I’m currently 7 weeks pregnant and I already have a 4 year old from a previous relationship. I found out I was pregnant and we were so happy planned to keep it then last Friday we had a big argument because he’s insecure. He accuses me of stupid things like being in love with my ex or that I followed a footballer on Instagram hoping I’d get a tummy tuck and boob job out of it. Crazy I know but he understands he needs help with his anxiety and trust issues and is currently receiving help so it’s good he understands that there is a problem. However since this argument Weve not been on good terms and because of this I’m so undecided on what to do with the baby whether to keep it or not as I can’t stop thinking about all the negative things that could happen such as ending up with two children on my own if it doesn’t work out and not being able to have the freedom of a social life. Not saying I want to go out every weekend but I need a balance and I’m scared of ending up unhappy. But on the other hand I want this baby and I’m scared of regretting a termination. I’m battling myself in my own head and I guess I need some friendly advice.
What is it like having two children as a single mum? Is it doable? Will I cope? I’m just so scared can someone please help me

Stop begging him Op, he was a nasty piece of work before you got the tablets. There is no future with him. You've only known him a short while, he's hardly qualified to partner in my view. Look after yourself and be kind to yourself.

@Zofloralover1 This ex partner is just trying to mess with your head. I was with someone who messed with my head and I went on to have the baby. If I had known then etc etc !!!! My ex was never what you could call a parent. Never paid child support. Did nothing for the child. He was an excellent trouble-maker. Many years later he still does things he thinks will mess with my head. I am on to his games so whatever he does now does not surprise me. Anyone listening to him is just a fool. Do not set yourself up to live the life I have lived.

@MotionActivatedDog

I know your all saying it’s a lucky escape but I feel like I’ve just lost everything all at once

You’ve just won the lottery OP because you’ve found out before it’s too late exactly how abusive and cruel he is. You need to block him and remind yourself of how unbelievably nasty he is being every time you even think about going begging him to take you back. Please take the second tablet and get the hell away from this scumbag. Your 4 year old does not deserve to be exposed to someone like him!

I agree He’s manipulative little shit and your begging him ffs op . You’ve honestly done the hard part . Look you started this thread so you had doubts none of us know you or him . You don’t want children with someone like this you won’t be happy with someone like this and you deserve better . I think you are actually very brave and strong for realising this isn’t what you want , don’t go back or you will be forever miserable.

He's abusive so chances are you'll end up being a single mum with custody arrangements. Do you want to have a child in this way?
I wouldn't rush into any decisions just yet.
If you proceed with the abortion though just know he will try and make you feel guilty. If that's the decision you make then don't let him guilt you.

Sorry OP I missed your update.
The way he's behaving now should show you you don't want to bring a child up in this relationship.
He's hideously manipulative and abusive.

Thank you so much for all your comments, I agree with every single one of them and deep down I knew myself it wasn’t right, sometimes it just takes a bit of advice and support to do the right thing you know? Since my little breakdown earlier I’ve got up out of bed, made my little one tea, tidied the house, gone for a walk to the shop with him and back home, bathed him, pjs on and he’s currently in bed. Feel a lot more positive now and can’t believe I downgraded myself to the point I was begging, if anything doing that and all your kind words has made me realise even if he did turn around and agreed to sort things, that’s not the kind of person I want to be with or have ties with! If anything it’s delaying me from meeting the love of my life who will sweep me off my feet one day hahaha. Second lot of tablets will be took on Friday and although I’ve pulled myself together and feel positive, I know when that baby passes i won’t feel like this. Ex partner knows second lot of tablets are Friday too so makes me wonder if he’ll even get in touch to see how I am?? Probably not!

makes me wonder if he’ll even get in touch to see how I am??

Block him. You don’t need to know if he gets in touch. He is irrelevant to your life now.

So pleased to read your update, and like that you have realised that he would have delayed you meeting your true love. Absolute truth, there.

I am so glad to see that you've had time to think and settle it in your mind.

Onwards and upwards!

So glad you've made the right decision fir yourself and for your son,you don't want this man in your lives for the rest of yours.

Seriously, well done. You won't regret it in the future when you're free of him. You have had a very lucky escape, truly.

You’ve made the right decision. Thank god your not tied to that nasty piece of work.