Boy tried to strangle my child

[purpleme12]

At after school care (nothing to do with school by the way) a boy tried to strangle my child.
Which is not the first time
But apparently today he did it once then apologised then did it agai he's only 5
Her dad kicked off then he got there
What is the right response to this? What should we do/say and expect?

I would be worried about what the child is seeing at home. So they don't go tot same school?

No they don't (thankfully)
Yes that is what her dad said too
I'm just wondering what the right response is for us and what to expect from the people looking after her

You need to ask what the setting are putting in place to prevent this behaviour from happening again.

I’d expect to know care providers plan to keep your DC safe . If you plan to take him back ? Was it a game that got a bit out of hand ?

No it wasn't a game

Ask to see the after school provider's safeguarding policy.

I would want to know how they plan to keep your child safe. Ask to see it in writing.

I'd be asking how they plan to safeguard your child and also for confirmation that they have reported the incident to social services so that they can look into whether the child which did it is in need of support.

I wouldn't be letting my kid go back into that environment.

If shes been strangled twice. You've already given them a chance

My no first thought would be worry for my child, my second would be for the other child. I'd say it was a safeguarding issue with regard to the other child. I'm sorry this has happened to your child.

Absolutely not!

I would be having a firm conversation with the boys parents also.

That behaviour is probably him mimicking what he has seen at home

What did the staff do when this happened??

What was the explanation why this happened??

I’m actually fuming FOR you

I would be asking how the childcare provider is ensuring this wouldn't happen again and would
be considering if this is the best placement for them.

I wouldn't speak to the child's parents though due to Safeguarding concerns.

I don't know this child's parents anyway

There is a little room adjoining the main room.i believe they keep the door open for this and this is where it happened today and her friends had to go get the grown up to tell them while this was happening

Move. I can understand I how it could happen once. Beyond that is absolutely unacceptable - twice in one session? They need to be supervising the children better. Ultimately though it’s not a school, they’re under no obligation to have the child so if they won’t ask his parents to remove him, I’d remove mine.

When her dad mentioned to the grown up that this boy shouldn't be here around children, they said it's not as simple as that there are proceedures and things that need to be followed
I don't know the process/what these procedures

If that child isn't permanently removed, my child would not be going back.

I'd go batshit to be honest. I would absolutely want the other child kept well away from mine from now on! Wtf.

I hope your cild is OK. How upsetting.

It's a safeguarding incident. I would ask for it to be reported as such.
Whilst you are not entitled to confidential information you are entitled to know how they are going to keep your child safe.
If the provider is affiliated but not provided by school you can talk to them for advice.

The provider's not affiliated with school no but they pick my child up from school

Thank you everyone for all of your messages
Really helpful
I appreciate them
She's at her dad's tonight

Was she injured, checked over medically? Safeguarding lead meeting, refer to behavioural policy, and make a formal complaint to the provider

I would've wanted her home with me tonight after that. Poor girl.

Yeah, I'd say this is sufficient to break any contract you may have with the care provider. I'd also call social services and ask for an investigation to take place. If a child in school did this it would considered an extremely serious matter