So fed up. Anyone else?What can I do on a day off alone?

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I’m hating work. Feel exhausted by it and losing interest. My friends are all coupled up and cant go on holiday. Partner is working flat out for the next month.I feel shit about things and need to give myself a shake.

What would you do with sometime off? It seems depressing and sad taking days off to spend it alone.

I would read, go for a walk, shopping or even take yourself out for the day to a nearby town or city. How about a spa day? I'd love that.

Hike / bike / Boulder session.

Meet a friend near their work for a quick lunch.

What wouldn’t I do?! Go for a long bike ride, stopping for lunch and cake. Go for a trip to the beach with a book and some music and a picnic. Drive to a town I’ve never been to before, with independent shops, and have a look around. Have a lie in, go for a long run then home for a shower and do some decluttering. Climb a mountain.

I have a toddler though so having 10 minutes for a cup of tea is a pipe dream some days, and my expectations are low. But I have a few days off alone next week and those are my plans!

Sorry you are feeling this way. I think you need to reset your thinking. If you plan a day with some beautiful things it will be just what you need. What do you enjoy? I have some places that just make me happy. National trust gardens are generally on the list. I would start the day with a swim. Ideally with a cold plunge pool as that really gives me the good feels. Maybe an hour of yoga followed by a good book.

Think what makes you happy. Do it.

Visit a castle and soak up the atmosphere without having to make conversation with anyone.
Visit museums and galleries.
See if anyone was available for meet ups even if they can't manage a full holiday, casting my net wide.
Spa day with a good book.

I'd have a peaceful breakfast in the garden once everyone else was off to school/work. Then potter around the garden admiring my flowers/ doing so light weeding.

After that I'd go to the gym followed by whatever I fancied for lunch,

In the afternoon before the hoards returned I'd either have a lovely bubble bath or watch a film that no one else ever wants to watch.

Go for a walk followed by a swim.
Visit a new place.
Go to a cafe for cake and tea, with a book.

In reality though, I'd probably end up snoozing on the sofa and watching crap on TV at the moment (think I need a break too)

Big shopping centre? Something the dp doesn't like to do. Or swimming is good to do on your own. Go early and treat yourself to lunch out. X

Watching for ideas. Our company have given everyone a day off in a couple of weeks and I have no idea what to do with it as everyone else I know will be at work

Guided kayak trail
Open water swimming
Visit a castle
Go for a ramble
Treat myself to lunch

Read a book
Nap

For me, teach myself new knowledge
Go for a bike ride,
Catch up on any bits I need to complete
Try out new ideas or projects.

Wow my whole life must be depressing and sad then because I’m single and live alone….except it isn’t. As others have said, just do something you enjoy! Go and wander round the shops, get yourself a nice lunch, bike ride, walk in the countryside, museum or gallery, do some painting/knitting/DIY, the list is endless. I also don’t see how your friends having partners prevents them going on holiday with you, I’ve been on holiday several times with a partnered friend and she managed not to bring her bf…

It's not depressing and sad to take a day to do exactly as you like, what a ridiculous idea.

TV, read, walk, lunch, snooze, all exactly to your own schedule without having to think about pleasing anyone except yourself.

Do you have audible? I can't rate it enough. I'd download a book on that to listen to and get outside walking or cycling. I hate being out by myself but if I'm listening to something I forget all of that.

If you are sat in work hating it, what would you be rather doing right now - do that

I don't really understand why people seem to struggle so much with finding something to do with a random day off, particularly now when there is so much available which hasn't been for so long
Off the top of my head, Cinema, theatre, art gallery, spa, leisurely lunch, go for a swim, get your hair done

I love taking a day off by myself just doing what I want and I don’t even have kids yet.

Some days I take the day off and sleep late, have a long shower, do my hair for a change, watch Netflix, read a book. Some days I get up early, go for a swim, take the dogs for a walk somewhere, go find a nice place for lunch and treat myself to a cake.

I can't understand why someone would need ideas to fill a random day, especially if they always work 5 days and fulltime hours. There is always looking round shops, go for coffee and cake alone. (this is not a bit 'sad' as most 'friends' would be counting up the calories in the cake and would ruin the enjoyment) There is going for a walk/gym.

There is gardening, painting, house maintenance, decluttering, cleaning. Often when people are socialising at the weekend, meeting friends and family, taking dcs to activities, there is little timr for the bigger household jobs, decluttering, painting etc.

Absolutely not pathetic to take a day off to be alone! It's my dream lol. My partner is taking our son to see his mum so I can have the weekend to myself soon and I can't wait. I'm going to cook spicy food no one else usually eats and play Minecraft but appreciate that's not for everyone :P

Thanks everyone. It seems I’m just a miserable sod then!

I work full time but have little to no interest in doing any of these things alone. I spend everyday working at home alone.

Thanks for the ideas

Following for ideas - all the suggestions above sound fab. I have a bad habit of wasting any free time scrolling idly through stuff online and then feeling frustrated that I haven't really done anything fun or different. Gallery/lunch out/ National Trust stroll (without the company/questions of small children) all sound great!

I totally get not wanting to do these things alone. Do you have people that you can call that you don't often get round to doing? It can be such a lift to speak to the right person.

I'm also a big fan of listening to something. There are some amazing podcasts and I could walk for hours listening to some.

I think it's probably important to plan and schedule well so that you don't fizzle out of things to do.

Other idea - can you borrow a dog? Dogs are such a good companion!

If you want to be out amongst people how about doing some voluntary work for that day? You could link it to your interests if possible.

I'm also working at home, I have no partner so am alone most of the time apart from a teenager still in his grunt phase. .

Being out alone, where there is a buzz from people about is very different from being stuck at home alone.

I have a day off coming up where I'll be on my own as DH will be in work and the kids will be at school. So far I've booked a hair appointment for first thing in the morning and thinking I will take the kids to the park after school as we usually can't do that. Not sure about the rest of the day yet but possibly browsing the shops, sanding and repainting the window ledges or going for a run.