How do the likes of Stacey Solomon and Mrs Hinckley do it?!

[Anythingelseintheboxpandora]

Toddlers and small children.

Immaculate, calm houses.

How?! My house is a fucking riot!

Hinckley lol. I mean Hinch clearly.

I assume they have paid help.

They have cleaners and you only see a snapshot of a certain corner of their rooms.

They don’t. You only see a small insight into their lives and the vast majority of what they put on Instagram is prerecorded. This is absolutely not real life.

You'd be a fool to think what you see on Instagram is a reflection of real life.

They don’t do it, their cleaners, nannies and assistants, stylists etc do it.

They have help plus it must make life a heck of a lot easier having a big house with lots of space to store stuff.

In a smaller house no matter how organised you are it's much more likely to look cluttered and the mess has less space to fill making it look more overwhelming.

They usually show the clean bits of their home, but also fairly regularly show you areas that are far from pristine. The volume is just heavily weighted towards the Insta ready stuff as that’s what people follow for

I have a friend whose house is almost always immaculate but she has three children. What her Instagram posts don’t show is that she has a nanny/housekeeper who works 12 hours a day, the children are all out of the house and at school/preschool/extra curricular clubs for at least 7 hours a day, the cleaner comes two days a week for ‘deep’ cleans, the ironing lady takes their ironing away at least once a week and they also have a gardener. They spend their weekends riding their horses at the grandparents houses so not much opportunity to mess the house up then either. She (and her husband) work very hard to be able to pay for all those things though!

I follow both of them on Instagram, and they both regularly put photos up of things that aren't pristine, to show what real life actually looks like. Notice for example that Stacey never shows the older boys' bedrooms - they're probably absolute tips like in 'normal' houses!

And whenever Stacey organises a room or a cupboard etc the 'before' picture is obviously messy.

I don't show the messy parts of my house on social media either, and I certainly don't live in a palace!

Just because something looks perfect on Insta doesn't mean it is, and it also doesn't mean they have outside help either.

Stop comparing your (real) life to snapshot and people's recorded, edited and planned videos of their lives. Thought even teenagers knew this.

Even you could make your life look perfect online.

@LindaEllen

I follow both of them on Instagram, and they both regularly put photos up of things that aren't pristine, to show what real life actually looks like. Notice for example that Stacey never shows the older boys' bedrooms - they're probably absolute tips like in 'normal' houses!

And whenever Stacey organises a room or a cupboard etc the 'before' picture is obviously messy.

I don't show the messy parts of my house on social media either, and I certainly don't live in a palace!

Just because something looks perfect on Insta doesn't mean it is, and it also doesn't mean they have outside help either.

I think that’s because the older kids don’t wish to appear so for privacy reasons, as opposed to their rooms are shit holes and she’s embarrassed

What a weird world we live in where people post photos and videos of themselves cleaning. Weirder still people watch them. 🤷‍♀️
I might start one ‘fat granny hoovering’ I’m gonna call it.

it's literally their job to have a clean house. If it's how I earned a very good wage I'd be all over it as well, and have no qualms about using childcare.

I have a really clean tidy house and 2 under 4 year olds.

There’s sometimes mess but it gets cleared up before moving onto making another mess so seems manageable

I work part time so feel like I have time to keep on top of it without the need for paid help

I don’t like clutter so we don’t have much ‘stuff’ which makes keeping things tidy and ordered much easier

We also keep to a smaller quantity of toys than what I’ve noticed friends have

I cant believe that SS took a faux succulent plant to hospital with her for her Instagram shot. What an absolute joke. I really wouldn't take anything you see on there seriously. It's not real life.

I had to unfollow as that level of perfection I just can't achieve.

They both admit they are not perfect. It's easy to judge from a photo. And I think mrs Hinch deserves more credit. She clearly struggles with anxiety and that is why she cleans and the messages people leave her are so unkind.

It’s not real life! What we see probably is quite far from day to day reality. It’s also their job. They get paid to present this image.

I live in a semi hovel mostly , and I don't care.

Who cares?!

I don't want to be like either of them thanks very much!

I’m a SAHM with 2 toddlers, one goes to nursery twice a week and my house is clean and tidy with the exception of the playroom which is obviously well used. It’s tidied at the end of the day when DS’ go to bed but I don’t throughout the day.
I keep on top of the cleaning & tidy and I’ve always been very organised.

Whilst childcare & cleaners aren’t necessary, I think having a good sized house with lots of space & storage helps. Our lounge would look cluttered if it had toys in.

For starters they can afford a lot more help than we can. I’d love to have a personal cleaner and cook. I’d have more time for my kids if I did x

I suspect the husbands are supporting the wives as the breadwinners. So even if it’s not paid help it will be spousal help for sure.

@Hangingtrousers - and neither do they 🙄
@RUTheShitploppeeOrShitplopper has got it spot on, and I agree, my teens know that what you see online is not real life. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t get to you, but they know it’s all fake!