Would you consider a day in bed a waste of time?

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I'm asking because it's what I seem to do with all my days off including most of my annual leave.

I'm suffering with depression. I'm probably menopausal, and I'm always tired and lacking motivation.
I do keep my house clean and I walk my dogs .
But I love just knowing I don't have to get up - that I can doze and watch tv and daydream, not have to get dressed or do my hair or out make up on. I'm not sure if it's a really bad habit I'm getting into it whether is my saving sanity time .

Thoughts please?

The perfect day off is one spent doing the exact things you want to do. What that actually is is irrelevant.

I couldn't. Even if I'm ill I have to be frogmarched up the stairs to bed.

I love walking my dogs on a day off, and pottering around the house. I am an avid reader, and love recipe books so often find that really relaxing to find something new to cook.

We all have ways that work for us, though, OP. If bed is your safe space, then go for it.

It sounds like you're going through a sort of hermit phase. Do you feel you need it to process trauma or something?

I would. But that's because I have been chronically depressed and also had post-viral CFS so wasted too many years of my life in bed. Even if you feel depressed, you will probably have a better day if you start with a shower, put on some clean lounging clothes and find a shady spot in the garden than if you stay in bed all day.

But if you do, no shame. And if you enjoy it - even better.

I did this for a while when I was signed off sick with depression. Took kids to school, did some exercise, back home to bed. I initially thought if I got enough sleep I'd eventually find myself not tired. It was a combination of depression and of course anti depressants that made me feel constantly tired. Choose cold turkey or weaning yourself off it. Be kind to yourself.

Yes processing trauma .

Abusive relationship. Loss of a baby girl mid term . End of relationship with no closure or warning. And I was totally invested

You don't need anyone's permission. Your time is yours alone to do as you please!

Could I gently suggest you speak to your GP though about the depression and menopause as hormone treatments, diets, medication, Supplements and so on can be utterly life changing. I've had clients who found menopause literally knocked them off their feet and made them feel pretty awful and so out of control. It isn't something that you should just accept, there is so much help out there these days. Even exercise and a big nutrition / diet change can work wonders but for depression obvs (which is linked to menopause in many people because of hormonal shifts) you need more help. I really hope you don't feel this should just be put up with as you deserve more from life than feeling rotten.

Cross post, just seen your update, I'm sorry you went through all that. Sounds like you need some time to process but I'd definitely invest some time in thinking about going to the GP and investing in your health too as that can really help your body process Major stress that you've been through

A day in bed is never a waste of time. I used to take a day in bed regularly (probably once a week) when I was young. A flask, a sandwich, a book or magazines, and a day of rest. Rest is so important to healing.

When I was older and had a massive breakdown after years of overwork, I couldn't do anything but rest. A day in bed became a week, a month, a year, two years. But gradually I began to heal.

I am very much in favour of a day in bed! I planned one for today but thought of something else I had to do, so maybe Friday. Take those days in bed - you won't regret them.

I totally get this too and a massive fan of duvet days for recharging when needed. Processing trauma can be exhausting. But for me, it can be a fine line between healthy rest and recuperation and lack of motivation with all the attached self loathing. But if you're good with it and it's helping you heal, go with it and to heck with what anyone else thinks

@DoingItMyself

A day in bed is never a waste of time. I used to take a day in bed regularly (probably once a week) when I was young. A flask, a sandwich, a book or magazines, and a day of rest. Rest is so important to healing.

When I was older and had a massive breakdown after years of overwork, I couldn't do anything but rest. A day in bed became a week, a month, a year, two years. But gradually I began to heal.

I am very much in favour of a day in bed! I planned one for today but thought of something else I had to do, so maybe Friday. Take those days in bed - you won't regret them.

That's a very comforting post.

Thanks so much - this has made me feel less guilty for my duvet days .

Today after a good few duvet days i got up , I mowed the "lawn" (it's not a
Lawn ! It dragged a steam chair outside and laid on it and read a book in the sun . I had a G&T . I sorted out a hose pipe to Cooke my dogs . I arranged the rest of the week off . I walked my dog 10,ooo steps when it was cool
.

Oh and I did some washing. I went into the village and bought some food because my car is in the garage and has been for a week now . I'm scared of my lack of money . I'm scared of my lack of security. After my marriage broke I've rented . It's. Quite precarious. I live on edge now my last relationship failed . Maybe I need those duvet days. Thanks all x

It sounds like you're needing time to heal some wounds. ❤