Would you consider a day in bed a waste of time?

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I'm asking because it's what I seem to do with all my days off including most of my annual leave.

I'm suffering with depression. I'm probably menopausal, and I'm always tired and lacking motivation.
I do keep my house clean and I walk my dogs .
But I love just knowing I don't have to get up - that I can doze and watch tv and daydream, not have to get dressed or do my hair or out make up on. I'm not sure if it's a really bad habit I'm getting into it whether is my saving sanity time .

Thoughts please?

If all is upto date then why not!

Id feel depressed lying in bed all day.

It would make me feel worse. But if it works for you, it's fine.

I wouldn't lie in bed all day but I do love a day when I have to do little other than walk the dog and watch tv or read.

I think odd days is fine. It's what you need, it helps you.

But I would be concerned if this is every weekend, every day of AL, and would suggest to me that you needed to go back to the gp re your depression

Not a waste for me either. I was depressed, on medication and I slept a lot. I worked nearly full time and I’d have to sleep when I got home for an hour or so. Did very little, seems similar to you.

However, three years on, my life has changed, job changed, partner changed, much more settled and it isn’t a daily thing now for me. But it took a while and I know it was right for me at the time (which was around 12 months).

I still enjoy a quiet day, my bed, tv, books, but I’m more active than I was.

Yes. I can't do it unless I'm seriously seriously ill. I think I might have done it once or twice in my adult life if that and maybe 12 hours after each c-section.

I'd consider it a roaring success

I do get up to walk my dogs . Then Go back to bed 😂.

It's every day off unless I have something planned . If I have something planned I get up and do it . Like next week I booked a day off to go walking with my dd . So I'll do that . And I'll enjoy it .
Just if I've nothing to do , no where to go , no one to see - it's bed .

I think it's fine to do it if that's what appeals most. Bit I think if that's repeatedly what appeals the most, then it's time to take a look at your overall physical health and well-being.

Personally, unless I was really ill or having a day of non-stop sex then a day in bed would be a massive waste of time. I hate napping as it makes me feel awful.

I need 1 every month or two; I clock up 25 steps most days and head melted with kids...I save hallmark movies and snuggle in.
It's what gets me through the next few weeks.
Everyone needs a recovery period, not all built the same

25000...25 are my lie in days lol

I would but DH and DS wouldn't

No, if you’ll feel better and recharged by it then absolutely not a waste of a day. You only have to justify your actions to yourself OP

Years ago when I was in my 20s, one of my friends used to have a holiday day off work to spend it in bed sleeping

I think some people are missing that you do this pretty much every day off and most of yout annual leave. It’s a lot of time to spend in your bed. And it’s not quite healthy op.

The less you do the less you want to do. I think you’re getting yourself into a vicious circle down. Long lie ins or the occasional day in bed is one thing, but this is something else.

If it’s every annual leave then no, it’s not healthy. If it’s some of the time and to recharge then fine.

How do you manage to have a proper nights sleep though?

Honestly i am so exhausted right now i would love a day to just stay in bed, watch tv, read a book and not have to get up and do anything. Im not depressed i just feel like ive reached the end of all my reserve energy but im a mum to 3 under 6 and DP works long hours so it isnt going to happen.

I dont think its a waste of a day occasionally if you need it but im not sure id make a regular habit of it.

@EachandEveryone

How do you manage to have a proper nights sleep though?

I presume she's resting rather than sleeping all day.

Plenty of people spend their days off reading, watching tv and resting, just on their sofa rather than in bed. Not sure its that much different really if that's what you're doing. If you're just lying there for hours on end staring at the ceiling because you can't face the day, that's different. But if your days are enjoyable and rejuvenate you they are not wasted.

I love bed and lazy days! If I am off and DP is working I will often get up and make a cup of tea, then go back to bed with the cat - I potter about on my phone and get properly up about 11.30. I teach so have long holidays, but usually I would do something in the afternoon - meet a friend for lunch, go shopping, go for a walk, or just go and get a coffee by myself.

Often at weekends if we don’t have much on I’ll have a long bath with a book in the afternoon. I honestly don’t see much difference to staying in bed.

Often at weekends if we don’t have much on I’ll have a long bath with a book in the afternoon. I honestly don’t see much difference to staying in bed.

I think if you actually spent every weekend in bed and most of your annual leave you’d soon see the difference.

As a one off (like once a year) it would be ok for me but I'd be annoyed if I did it all the time. I like getting stuff done though and feel frustrated if I waste lots of time.