Can I ask an embarrassing question about the 'Is there any chance you could be pregnant' question?

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I've never had sex so my answer has always very truthfully been no, but how are you supposed to answer? If you are on the pill or using condoms, there is still a chance you could be pregnant, so does that mean just answering yes if you've had sex since your last period?

I am slightly mortified that I am asking but I couldn't ask anyone IRL!

@mam0918 oh wow congratulations

Always say no but clarify I’m on the pill or say there shouldn’t be but I am on the pill etc

[quote namechange6754]@mam0918 oh wow congratulations [/quote]
thank you :)

I just say no and I have pretty regular sex and we only use condoms.

I've always interpreted it as "have you had unprotected sex recently". If my period was late or something, I'd probably say yes but that would be the only circumstance.

So OP, I don't think a HCP would automatically assume that you were not sexually active from you answering no.

To be honest, when I had the implant fitted I’d have always answered either no or else explained that I’m on LARC and so it was highly, highly unlikely.

I think a lot depends on the context of the question - I had regular medical treatment over a period of three years where I’d be asked this question at the start of the appointment each time - if pregnant I’d have been denied treatment so answering ‘yes’ because I’m a woman of child-bearing age (even though I have the implant) would’ve been a waste of everyone’s time - they wanted an accurate assessment of genuine risk of pregnancy. When I had my implant removed I’d have a frank conversation about where I was in my cycle, last positive test etc before each treatment. The only time the doctor agreed we should skip a round was when I was expecting my period that day but had tested that morning and not received a positive - we rescheduled for two weeks later when the answer would be clear either way (and as it transpired, I was/am pregnant).

'Have you seen a star in the east lately?'

It depends on the context. If it is something where 90% plus certainty would do (vaccination, medication, fairground ride) I would just say no.

If I was presenting at hospital with pain in my abdomen, I would say something like ‘my last period was x and I have had sex since then but we used a condom’.

For those thinking that because you've just had a period you can't be pregnant - er, no. You can, and it led to a very awkward conversation....

Also re context, sometimes (OK, not the OP’s particular situation today), if asked by anyone you’re describing some symptoms to, it just means, ‘have you considered that possibility as a cause?’

I just say v unlikely due to vasectomy and coil. Every HCP has always decided that means not pregnant and have never asked me to do a test or postpone whatever it is I am getting.

@WildOrchids67

I had that question when I got my vaccine earlier today. I've had sex 3 times in the last week, with condoms. I just said it was very unlikely that I was pregnant. Possible, but very unlikely.

I was asked and I'm 60!

No dreams involving archangels
Married with lively children that divert too much energy for these things.

My body gave the game away on pregnancy very quickly and I'd never be one of the women who gets a surprise with little notice. I was the type who looked ready to drop at 10m.

Women that don't realise they're pregnant until late on tend to be very young or menopausalwhere pregnancy is not on the radar. (I've known a couple at the young end).