Can I ask an embarrassing question about the 'Is there any chance you could be pregnant' question?

[roujelips]

I've never had sex so my answer has always very truthfully been no, but how are you supposed to answer? If you are on the pill or using condoms, there is still a chance you could be pregnant, so does that mean just answering yes if you've had sex since your last period?

I am slightly mortified that I am asking but I couldn't ask anyone IRL!

I've never had sex
Well then you can, in all conscience, simply answer no. Why are you overthinking it like this?

In my experience, if you say no, they will suggest ways that you might have got pregnant until you explicitly say you have had no sexual contact over the preceding x years. Even if you say you haven't had sex they will point out that you could have got pregnant without penetration. I don't know if this us the case for everybody or if I am giving the impression I lack understanding

Hmmm, I've only been asked a few times if I'm sexually active afterwards and when I say no, they just stop there.

I just wanted to know how you're supposed to answer.

I just say no whether I know I've had sex that month or not. I assume contraception will work unless a test says otherwise. Nothing to be embarrassed about OP.

It’s a silly question if you are a true certain genetic variety of intersex person as for them, immaculate/spontaneous conception can occur (as in no man sperm needed).

It's a general question, OP, so nothing to worry about.

I think some PPs on here are reading too much into it.

Whenever I've been asked it over the years, I know if I'm trying or hoping to be pregnant or waiting to test, or not.

A 'no' has never been queried with follow up questions.

Not unless sperm can get in through a sash window...

(And just to add the only time the conversation was expanded to explain how I knew I couldn't be pregnant was times when I was on a very dangerous drug for pregnancy where I had to prove two forms of contraception, any other time just "no" has sufficed with no further questions)

I generally say ‘not that I’m aware of’

I took the ‘I’m married’ response to be a bit of a joke. Eg I’m married therefore not having much sex, haha.

I say "no".

They say "ok".

We continue with whatever procedure it is.

Op, these are one-off encounters with people who ask hundreds of people this question and will have forgotten you by the time you get home. They're not going to be attributing any of the significance that you are to your response.

I thought the same @StiffyByng!

I remember the first time they didn't ask me ☹.

If someone chooses to offer “I’m married” in response to “Could you be pregnant?”, then she does mean “I’m having regular sex with a man.” Otherwise, in the context of the question, why say it?

If she was married to a woman, or in a sexless marriage to a man, there would be no point in her saying “I’m married.”

You took the words out of my mouth @30degreesandmeltinghere - I did say it once and got a totally blank stare.

[quote Mmmcheese89]@roujelips I understand it potentially being frustrating. I don't have sex with men, haven't had sex with anyone at all for seven years. I use a LARC implant to manage another health condition and I'm forced to do a pregnancy test before it's changed every couple of years. So basically medical professionals think I'm either lying or that a bloke is breaking in my house and impregnating me in my sleep without me noticing.[/quote]
No one thinks or cars if you’re lying. It’s called safe medicine, following procedures, being aware of litigation.

I remember asking a young woman with abdominal pain if there was any chance she could be pregnant. She said no, absolutely not. I tried to clarify by saying “so you’re not sexually active at the moment?”, and she said “yeah I am, but I really really don’t want to be pregnant”. She clearly believed that the fact that she didn’t want to conceive , was in itself a reliable contraceptive!

I tie myself in knots over "are you sexually active?".

I still don't know whether "yes" means "I have had sex at least once in the past" or "I am in a relationship where we have regular sex".

@SallySycamore

I tie myself in knots over "are you sexually active?".

I still don't know whether "yes" means "I have had sex at least once in the past" or "I am in a relationship where we have regular sex".

It means that you have sex, and have done so in the past few weeks.

@BuffySummersReportingforSanity

I'll just say "well I'm married, so it's technically possible, but it's very unlikely." No one has ever asked further.

I think they just want to know you aren't actively trying or haven't been fucking unprotected lately.

Hahahah

That’s my answer. Could you be pregnant. I always joke. I’m married….

By the way OP

If you ever have embarrassing questions. I’ll answer the best I can. No one should ever be afraid to ask a question. So if you ever need someone to ask a question too. But don’t want to ask it on a forum. PM me.

Thanks, that makes sense.

I think I got a bit confused about it because you're teenagers when that wording first comes up and you're either sexually active or a virgin!

If they said "currently sexually active" I'd have understood better.

@WildOrchids67

I had that question when I got my vaccine earlier today. I've had sex 3 times in the last week, with condoms. I just said it was very unlikely that I was pregnant. Possible, but very unlikely.

@WildOrchids67 there’s no need to boast 🤪

I usually say my husband has been neutered (snip) so very unlikely.

@PuzzledObserver

If someone chooses to offer “I’m married” in response to “Could you be pregnant?”, then she does mean “I’m having regular sex with a man.” Otherwise, in the context of the question, why say it?

If she was married to a woman, or in a sexless marriage to a man, there would be no point in her saying “I’m married.”

The PP said she answers ‘I’ll just say "well I'm married, so it's technically possible, but it's very unlikely”’, which doesn’t sound entirely sincere!

I always answer honestly that Im a fully plumbed woman of child baring age thats sexually active... I however am also infertile (as is DH, double infertility sucks) and it took 10 years to concieve through IVF.

Because of my long infertility history doctors stopped asking me the 'could you be pregnant?' question, they also never ask about contraception or anything pregnancy related but back in november I went to my doctor for a heart condition and the doctor looked at my notes and said 'ah, well you wont be pregnant so I'll prescribe xyz'.

I have PCOS and the main symptom is wild cycle lengths, I was aware I hadnt had a period in over 6 weeks (not unusual) but something told me to do a pregnancy test as the medication was a strict 'do not take' if pregnant and 2 strong lines later it seems I can get miraculously naturally pregnant - so its always a possibility.

I make no apologies, new man!