Page 2 | Tell us a secret that no one else knows? (2)

SleepingStandingUp · 2021-06-08T12:07:31+00:00

Follow up thread. Tell us a secret no one knows.

ofcourseanamechange · 08/06/2021 20:39

[quote Whysolong7]@ofcourseanamechange what are your thoughts on the other 6?

Have you thought of leaving the DH?[/quote]
I don't know said 'Tapas 7 person' well, seems like an ok person, it all happened a long time before I started working with them. No, I won't be leaving him, we are good together and he is a good man.

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SleepingStandingUp · 08/06/2021 21:02

No, I won't be leaving him, we are good together and he is a good man. Yes you often hate him @ofcourseanamechange?

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FelicityBeedle · 08/06/2021 21:12

I want to scream whenever DP tells me about his new job. It’s a great achievement but I don’t need to know every minute detail

Feduphairymclary · 08/06/2021 21:17

One of my DSS is actually DH's nephew not his son. His ex told him when she left him. DH brought him up as his son anyway. BIL has always known, but half heartedly denies it. Nobody else knows.

Cottoncandyandpeaches · 08/06/2021 21:37

I know of a couple where she left her husband and kids for him and had another child
What nobody but me knows is that she shagged another man (more than once) behind the new fellas back

She goes round acting like her shit doesn’t stink when it really does

boygirldogcatmousecheese · 08/06/2021 21:50

I planned our 'surprise' second child

Hawkins001 · 08/06/2021 21:56

@ofcourseanamechange

I often hate my husband, who has a small penis ( although I don't hate him because of this) I want to have an affair, I work with one of the 'tapas 7'

Holy smokes, did they reveal anything about the circumstances of what happened ?

Horst · 08/06/2021 22:00

A couple of years ago I convinced dh to get a vasectomy. Not because I’m 100% on no more children ever. Just so he couldn’t have children with someone else or at least without a whole lot of cost and effort. Also because I don’t trust him so by getting him neutered I know no ow is going to come knocking with a baby/pregnancy.

I as a young teenager used to meet up with men who would take me for drives and buy me alcohol, One particular man is now in jail for crimes against children but not against me as nobody knew/worked it out even though he used to take videos.

I believe sex is love and no sex means no love so if a bf wasn’t wanting sex it meant he didn’t want me so I’d cheat on him.

ofcourseanamechange · 08/06/2021 22:03

@Hawkins001

No!! It's not talked about at all. I'm not sure what the situation at work was like soon after it happened. I'll ask around.

Houseofvelour · 08/06/2021 22:12

@tabitharose

This is truly awful, and I'll never forgive myself. I often worry I'll get dementia and blurt it out.

I hit my two year old stepson. Three times.

He doesn't seem to remember thank god and we have a fantastic relationship now.

I hope he remembers, tells his dad and his dad leaves you and keeps his son safe. This is horrific.

Hawkins001 · 08/06/2021 22:21

@ofcourseanamechange

*@Hawkins001*

No!! It's not talked about at all. I'm not sure what the situation at work was like soon after it happened. I'll ask around.

Much appreciated thank you, I'll await with intrigue.

andpeggy1 · 08/06/2021 22:40

I've never told anyone this. The only people who know about this secret are myself and the person involved.

When I was 15/16 I was in a serious online long distance relationship with a 30yr old man from Canada . We met on an adult dating site, I joined it because I was a horny teenager and wanted to have some fun online. I originally lied about my age as the website was for 18+ but the more we started talking on a deeper level rather than just a sexual one, the more I grew to like him as a person and started falling for him I had to confess. I was 16, just about to sit my GCSES when I told him my real age. He was shocked and wasn't really sure about what we should do about this. But he admitted that he had fell for me too and it was something he couldn't ignore.

We started talking online via msn messenger, webcams and microphone head sets and then progressed to hours long Skype video calls. We would talk every day. We would send each other cards and gifts in the post to which I use to work in a little shop, and he would send them
To me there so my parents wouldn't ask questions about getting post from Canada. We would have online date nights and dinner together.

We were genuinely in love, we connected on such a deep level and together we started saving money for when I was genuinely 18 to run away and move to Canada so we could be together. We planned what our house would be like, where I could go and look for work, when and where we would get married, planning on children and how many. The whole lot.

6 months before my 18th birthday he confessed that he met another woman at his gym and that he started having feelings for, and that he couldn't let this opportunity pass by, especially as I'd started having cold feet about literally just running away and moving in secret.

We ended things and I was absolutely heartbroken. He was my first proper love. He never took advantage or groomed me because I knew exactly what I was doing and what I was getting myself in for. I wasn't naive about any of it.

He ended up marrying the woman he met at the gym and they look so happy together.

I'm happily married myself to a wonderful man only 3 years older than me. and wouldn't change this for the world, but I often wonder what could have been?

Dizzybrunette445 · 08/06/2021 22:51

I used to put cooking oil in my sister's Foundation and she wondered why she kept getting god awful spots lol. She used to pick on me as she was older so it was a bit of revenge lol.

Dizzybrunette445 · 08/06/2021 22:53

*cooking oil may be wrong germ but it was some sort of oil we had it didn't smell like much could've been sunflower etc but ha it really made her a pizza face loool

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 08/06/2021 23:00

@Seafog

I regularly let the air out of people's tires, if they are rude to me.

This is actually appalling behaviour and could cause an accident.

Chattychattylanglang · 08/06/2021 23:40

I had a year long affair with a neighbour ten years younger than me. Best year of my life.

scatteredpolaroids · 09/06/2021 05:53

DP's best mate drunkenly told me that he has feelings for me, but the next day was full of remorse. He will never act on them but he also knows I'm not interested. It has been awkward ever since. Recently I found out that best mate is now trying for a baby with his own partner, which I know because she excitedly told me in confidence.

This is not a stealth brag. I feel very uncomfortable knowing what I know, but can't tell DP or indeed anyone IRL about any of this.

gelatodipistacchio · 09/06/2021 09:02

Placemarking

bubblebath62636 · 09/06/2021 09:23

I caught my mum having sex with her sisters partner. I did tell my aunt but she was adamant I must be mistaken. My mum begged me to pretend I didn't see anything.

I also have a sneaking suspicion my mum slept with my ex. We met online, he walked her home one night, took ages to come back. The next day he went to the shop, I caught him looking at me guiltily. He ghosted me and blocked me on eberything. I pretended to my mum it just didn't work out, she asked for his number.

Surfingwaves · 09/06/2021 09:25

@bubblebath62636

I caught my mum having sex with her sisters partner. I did tell my aunt but she was adamant I must be mistaken. My mum begged me to pretend I didn't see anything.

I also have a sneaking suspicion my mum slept with my ex. We met online, he walked her home one night, took ages to come back. The next day he went to the shop, I caught him looking at me guiltily. He ghosted me and blocked me on eberything. I pretended to my mum it just didn't work out, she asked for his number.

Shit! That's awful

Manipediplease · 09/06/2021 10:21

@Houseofvelour, no need for judgement. Especially when @tabitharose is remorseful and has a good relationship with him now.
@tabitharose, don't beat yourself up. At least you know it was wrong and didn't do it all the time.
I grew up when being hit was seen as normal bit don't agree with it. I don't begrudge them though, we all live and learn and no one is perfect.

Manipediplease · 09/06/2021 10:24

@andpeggy1, he should have known better. You were lucky he wasn't a bad person. Glad you have your happily ever after.

Manipediplease · 09/06/2021 10:33

When I musterbate, I think of my grubby neighbour. I imagine him being a stud beneath the external grubbyness. He looks like Boris Johnson, but worse.

Horehound · 09/06/2021 10:37

@ofcourseanamechange I really wouldn't go around your workplace fishing for details. It's a horrible case and I'm sure they don't want to be reminded of it. It could get back to them you're snooping about and it won't make you look good or well thought of. Just leave it.

boygirldogcatmousecheese · 09/06/2021 12:19

@Manipediplease yours is my favourite 😂