Sorry, wedding invitation one...

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I've received a wedding invitation from a close family member , it's addressed to FtG , DH and family.

Now I have 4 children, 2 of whom have left home .

Are they inviting all of us?
Or just the 4 at home?

They do not have adresses for my older DC, so won't have sent invitations to them separately.

I know, I'll have to clarify with family member, but it's a pain.

Just the 4 at home.

I would assume all of them but not their partners if they have any.

I would also assume all of you (but not partners).

All of them.

All.

When I say close , its an Aunt getting married , should have written that, sorry.

But which kids (Or my GD) haven't specifically been mentioned.

If it's a close family member, probably best to ask. But I would assume all four of the DC.

If I got that invite from a family member it wouldn't have crossed my mind that DS1 who has left home wasn't invited. I would however check if his DP was invited.

Can't you ask?

I would say all your children.

I just don't want to make the assumption and be wrong , can you imagine rocking up with all us and them expecting only 4...

Whole family.

If they have done things properly, it’s only the minor children still living at home. They would have contacted someone and obtained the addresses for the children who have moved out.

Despite these guidelines being easier than ever to find thanks to the internet, fewer people seem to bother researching them when addressing invitations. So I would definitely ask.

Close family I would assume all the kids but no plus one's fit the adults

Whole family.

I'd assume it's just those at home, if they were inviting those that have left home I think they would have asked for their addresses. Definitely ask just in case.

DP had a save the date card once with no names on at all. No envelope, just the save the date card through his letterbox from his relative.

Trying to find out who it was actually for was like pulling teeth.

I don't know why people can't write out names.

I would assume you, your DH and all your children but you've also mentioned a grandchild (I think?) so that's where things get tricky, especially if any of your kids have spouses or long term partners too.

If it’s your aunt then yes I’d assume all your children, wouldn’t think an aunt would miss out some of the children even if adult?

I would have assumed just the ones at home. Once you move out you are no longer a part of the household. If my parents were invited to a wedding I wouldn’t assume I was as well, even if it’s a relative. I would have thought I’d get my own invite if I was invited.

Just double check with the couple though. They need to know how many are coming anyway.

How on earth is anyone on here going to be able to give you the correct answer. Ask the person who sent the invitation

I think only the named people on the invite

As it’s addressed to the family, I don’t think it means the current household and means the entire family.

I would assume all children, still at home or otherwise, but not partners. I would, however, clarify with the person who sent the invitations to be sure.

In my family, from a close relative and with the circumstances you outlined, that invitation would be for everyone.