Sorry, wedding invitation one...

[PurpleFadesToGreen]

I've received a wedding invitation from a close family member , it's addressed to FtG , DH and family.

Now I have 4 children, 2 of whom have left home .

Are they inviting all of us?
Or just the 4 at home?

They do not have adresses for my older DC, so won't have sent invitations to them separately.

I know, I'll have to clarify with family member, but it's a pain.

assume nothing

‘and family’ means your family surely? Just because some DC have moved out, doesn’t mean they’re not your family. So I would assume all. But absolutely clarify. Could you ask your DP to subtly find out, rather than you having to ask directly?

Your aunt cant remember your children’s names. So check with her.

Yes, I will ask, but why not make it obvious 🤷‍♀️

It means me chasing after the aunt to clarify and it makes me feel uncomfortable, a bit beggy??

Oh well, tomorrow's job.

Just bloody ask them 🙄

@PurpleFadesToGreen

Yes, I will ask, but why not make it obvious 🤷‍♀️

It means me chasing after the aunt to clarify and it makes me feel uncomfortable, a bit beggy??

Oh well, tomorrow's job.

I know!

DP had a conversation that went along the lines of:

DP: can I check, who's the invitation for?
Groom: everyone
DP: yeah but who's everyone?
Groom: All of you, you muppet
DP: right, so I'll tell SpindleWhorl, yeah?
SILENCE
Groom: I'm just checking with Bride
SILENCE

And it was like this for each.single.individual.person.

In my family that would me all the kids and their partners. But check.

You can word it in such a way as it doesn't sound beggy. Call her and thank her for the invite. Then say with mild disbelief, "when you say PFtG, Dh and family, you surely don't mean Derek, Julie, Carol and Lisa too?" Then she'll say, no not at all, I just meant Carol and Lisa. Or she'll say yes, of course they're all invited.