What does it mean if a man is doing this.

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He's 47
I'm 33.

Been chatting since we met last summer.

We've arranged to meet up next weekend. But he's abit up and down. Hot and cold. I know he's abit guarded after his last relationship ended. But!

He keeps talking about other women. How they come onto him. Get the wrong idea. He blocks them. They are weird.

Last night he was saying how he has learned that women prefer men who are not allover them. They seem more attracted to you then. So he's learned to do that.

He does like alot of women's profile photos and stuff. So I think he likes to feel he has ladies around him.

But he's been wanting me for months and I'm only just coming round to the idea and now he's claiming all this stuff I'm confused.

I asked him if he only has feelings for me or if he's looking or talking elsewear. He insists he's only interested in me and really isn't interested elsewear. He has said his feelings for me haven't changed. But he's nowhere near as affectionate or allover me as he used to be. So I'm confused.

Is he outright confessing to me he is always looking for what else there is.

Or is he lying because he's insecure and wants me to feel he could have others?

Also he's making me feel like he's uninterested one day then the next he's talking about how excited he is to meet and all the places we can go and how close he feels to me.

One of his old school friends has seperated from her partner this week. He's always liked her photos and since her split he's liked all her statues about the split. He's even commented on it and put several kisses. This was last night. He seemed to have been online all night too. She lives two hours away from us.

What's going on??? Does he really like me or is he taking me for a huge ride. He also told me last night it's not looks it's a big heart he wants. Well I've been here with my big heart for months and I still feel I'm not fully his main focus.

Help!

@CandyLeBonBon

A twat. My 16 y/o has more emotional intelligence. He's a game playing loser.

"Off you fuck cunty chops" would be my parting gambit but I appreciate I am a grumpy old bastard these days!

I actually think that’s fairly restrained.

@CandyLeBonBon
Haha love it.

Yes it's not an age thing is it. It's just someone who is saying one thing and doing another. There is no hope. I guess I've questioned if it's me. If I annoy him. If my age means I'm not as respected by him as a 47 year old lady he's known his whole life. But then that's not fair as I'm mature too and don't feel I should be treated any differently. I'd be interested to know how he speaks to the ladies nearer his age that all so badly want him and take him the wrong way.

Just ditch him

What does it mean if a man was doing all that? Pretty simple really, it means he’s a dick and a loser and you’d be pretty stupid hanging around thinking a dick and a loser is anything but a dick and a loser.

Run away fast, very fast, and don’t bother thinking you are the one that will change him, because you won’t.

Its not anything to do with insecurity. He is using you as an "option", he isnt really interested in you and will continue to waste your time. Get rid pronto! Life is far too short for this crap

You're gradually letting him have more and more control here.

Take it back and block him.

God if I was your age again I'd be thinking of the opportunities out there, not about this lazy arsehole.

Nah, come on. Honestly the longer this goes on the more you will suffer.

Speaking from experience here.

He's playing games.
He's also got you so confused that you're monitoring his social media to see what he's been liking and what time he's gone to sleep. That's not healthy or normal.

My advice is to cut and run.
Love isn't supposed to be uncertain or that much hard work.

Attention seeking peacock sounds like a good assessment.

Too Much Drama there.

Am I right In thinking that you have never met this asshole
If so run-why would you even waste your time

Ugh what a dickhead. I can’t believe you’re giving it so much thought!

I reckon he’s sniffing around a younger woman because he knows women his own age are (very generally) older and wiser and wouldn’t put up with his shit. He’s hoping your perceived immaturity and inexperience will mean you’ll tolerate it, and you’re proving him right!

Sack him off ASAP and find a normal man.

There's a guy im working with atm like this. He flirts with girls and when they rebuff him he gets quite nasty with them after that. He is in a relationship and lives with her. He is sexist and mansplains constantly to women. He's been classed as arrogant by every person he's come into contact with so far.

Peacocking that's a brilliant way to describe him! I'll thinking that when I see him for shift later.

Run for the hills!

He's old enough to be your dad and spends his time dicking around on social
Media.

You can absolutely do better

*He's old enough to be your dad and spends his time dicking around on social
Media. *

Technically yes, but only if he fathered her eye he was 14.

@iklboo

Exactly he's too old for her and certainly too old to be dicking around on social media perving on women.

Why do so many middle aged man feel entitled to a young woman?

Gross, I'm 40 and wouldn't touch this guy with a very long pole.

Yeah I just admit the way he speaks about women getting him wrong just sounds like a man who can't actually get any.

It is crossing my mind he thinks I'm young and easily led. But I do have more to show for myself such as a mortgage and stuff. I'm certainly not a dumb person. He perhaps had a mask and let it slip.

He woke up at 12 and text me to ask if I'm ok. Said his heads banging and he only slept for 4am. He was online at 6am. Should think he's gone back to sleep now.

Thanks for your replies.

I know I need to leave him to it now and I know I want someone stable and happy to focus on just me. Whatever game he's playing I'm not following.

He’s taking the piss. Don’t get involved.

It means his a wanker

How on earth have you ever managed to convince yourself that this 47-going-on -14 year old prick will ever add anything to your life? Why would it be your job to fix some woeful "insecurity issues" of someone who is still hanging around the popular girls from school in the hope that one of them will be fucked up enough by their divorce to finally pay him some attention? Just run away and don't look back. And work out why you think this is what you're worth.

He doesn’t like or respect women, he just sees them as a challenge to conquer. Don’t give him the satisfaction of conquering you.

I really could not be bothered with that kind of carry on, OP. Leave him to it!