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Feeling strange

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WhoisRebecca · 03/06/2021 07:59

I am feeling really on edge all the time at the moment and I’m not sure why. I’ve had a tough time with teen dd and I’m finding my job stressful as well. I feel jittery and anxious all the time - as if something bad is about to happen. It’s that kind of feeling you get before a job interview but I feel like that all the time. It’s really horrid and I don’t know what to do.

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dreamingofsun · 03/06/2021 08:17

Thats similar to how I feel and nothing really bad has actually happened to me. I'm wondering if some of its due to the pandemic and lock-downs....its sort of taken away the confidence we had in basic principles of life.

Mind you, the feeling was worse last year when i had a job i hated. Can you change any aspects of your job to make it less stressful for you?

Clawdy · 03/06/2021 08:18

I have quite a few days where I wake up with panicky uneasy feeling as if there's a dreadful day ahead, even when there's nothing going on. I've tried breathing excercises, and sometimes it helps but not much. Interesting to see what others on here recommend.

dreamingofsun · 03/06/2021 08:23

i find yoga helps a bit, though i also do this for flexibility

Lostinacloud · 03/06/2021 08:24

It’s a result of the psychological ‘abuse’ from the media and government which has been relentlessly pressed upon all of us since March last year.
The endless, will there be, won’t there be, will it happen, won’t it happen and constant interference in our day to day lives will have taken its toll. And purposely so imho! Deliberate confusion and continuous change causes uncertainty, anxiousness and reliance.

Merchymor · 03/06/2021 08:26

I may be way off the mark here but I feel it's worth saying...

Anxiety is a little publicised side effect of perimenopause.

So if anyone is around 40 or up it could be that.

Just a thought!

Dogoodfeelgood · 03/06/2021 08:27

I was feeling the same and bought a whole pile of books about life and mindfulness, anything that took my fancy in the store - I’ve found just sitting and reading perspectives on how to live a good life has totally helped my anxiety, I was WAY too in my head and had forgotten myself almost. I would recommend doing this! :)

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WhoisRebecca · 03/06/2021 08:31

I don’t think there’s any way to make the job easier at the moment. I’m a teacher and it’s full on all the time. It’s half term now though and I should be switched off, but I’m finding I can’t.

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WhoisRebecca · 03/06/2021 08:31

I’m 40, coming up for 41, so peri is possible.

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dreamingofsun · 03/06/2021 08:38

peri didnt make me jittery/depressed. I've just ordered a book on mindfulness from the library as that seemed a good idea DOG

Merchymor · 03/06/2021 08:47

@WhoisRebecca

I’m 40, coming up for 41, so peri is possible.

Lots of my friends who aren't normally anxious people have experienced this as their hormones start to dance around and it can start as early as 40 or even before for some people.

Worth keeping in mind.
Meanwhile, good diet, exercise etc can help if you have the time for it.

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WhoisRebecca · 03/06/2021 08:49

I’ve been struggling with my weight and feeling absolutely exhausted as well.

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Socksorter · 03/06/2021 08:56

Same here, feeling of dread and anxiety, possibly is hormones though or just the last year catching up on everyone. Its stopping me wanting to mix, which just makes me feel lonely.

peridito · 03/06/2021 09:08

Rebecca just want to say that I think teaching must be one of the hardest jobs that exist .You have to be on your toes every second plus ...well ,it's just impossible I think to cater for so many individuals .To have that responsibility on your shoulders all the time .To be physically on your feet so much .

And if it's secondary ..I bet they gang up on you . And it's been such a hard 12 months with teachers on line teaching and class room teaching ,both at the same time .

Honestly no wonder you are wound tight ,of course you can't just flick a switch because it's half term .

Not much help but I just wanted to offer huge sympathy and massive respect for what you do .

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WhoisRebecca · 03/06/2021 09:13

Thank you @peridito. It’s been very hard because my own dd has had significant MH issues and is going through the ASD pathway at the moment. Her behaviour can be extreme as she is emotionally disregulated and I just can’t give 100% to her and to work. I feel like a limp dishrag.

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Tiredmummy06 · 03/06/2021 09:30

I also feel this way most days now. it's come from nowhere and it's really debilitating. I find it's much worse at weekends when I'm not working. the sense of panic and anxiety is there every morning for no reason, I also feel sick to my stomach sometimes.

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WhoisRebecca · 03/06/2021 09:38

It’s horrible, isn’t it! I’m sorry that so many of us are feeling this way. Books on mindfulness might be good but I don’t think I could take it in at the moment.

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Pinkmagic1 · 03/06/2021 09:41

I feel exactly the same op and could have written your post.
I am 42 and have also had a very hard time with my teen's mental health. I lie in bed unable to sleep, worrying about his future.
I was also made redundant last year from a career I have been in since I left college. I was lucky to walk straight into another job, but it is in a completely different sector.
I don't know what the answer is, I wish I did. I do find taking time to do my hobbies helps, even though sometimes I have to really push myself and sometimes even feel guilty for taking time for myself.
I have always had robust mental health and been a very resilient person so it has really thrown me.

MerylSqueak · 03/06/2021 09:42

I feel the same way. I think it is in part peri menopause but it's interesting to see that others are feeling the same way.

Chimchar · 03/06/2021 09:44

I feel the same. I put it down to anxiety.

I notice that spending time involved in something helps me to get out of my head... cooking or baking, a hobby, a film or tv show. Walking is my thing. I walk until I feel calmer. I do notice that I'm having to walk further and further though.

Some simple guided breathing exercises can help too, just to get your head together enough to do something. There are lots on YouTube....the kind where you watch a ball expanding and contracting type ones.

I hear you. It's tough isn't it? X

Tiredmummy06 · 03/06/2021 09:48

I did speak to my GP about it and he prescribed beta blockers for the times I feel really bad. they don't really work though. it's just so strange that something like this can sneak up on you. I've never experienced physical symptoms of anxiety before, assuming that's what this is. I sympathise with you all and in a way I am glad I'm not alone. felt like I was going mad.

LindaEllen · 03/06/2021 10:07

Hey,

I felt like this for 12 years before I finally accepted I had a problem and made an appointment with the GP. I was put on sertraline, and I've been on it since January, and honestly it's changed my life.

I'm able to just chill out. It's fantastic. Things just wash over me that I'd have really worried about before. I haven't cried for 4 months (and I used to get teary quite a lot).

It's changed me for the better.

Don't waste as much of your life as I did feeling like this. Get help now :).

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WhoisRebecca · 03/06/2021 12:32

I’m going to call the GP. I’ve taken sertraline before and it did help.

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peridito · 03/06/2021 17:47

Glad you've decided to do that Rebecca .It sounds as though you have more than you can cope with on your plate at the moment .

Hope things improve for you .

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WhoisRebecca · 04/06/2021 19:14

Got my prescription today. I felt like the way I was feeling was intolerable so it can’t hurt.

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peridito · 04/06/2021 20:04

Good luck Rebecca ,I do hope it helps .And if it doesn't then go back to your GP .

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