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Do you let your dc eat in their bedrooms?

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RibenaSky · 02/06/2021 17:30

Or always at the table? Or a combination
Just wondering what others do about this

They dont like the table but I dont like crumbs/food etc in bedrooms
Ages 10 and 12
Tia

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OwlTwitterings · 02/06/2021 17:31

No food upstairs is the rule here. Meals are at a table and snacks can be table or sofa.

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RibenaSky · 02/06/2021 17:33

@OwlTwitterings

No food upstairs is the rule here. Meals are at a table and snacks can be table or sofa.
This is what we have been doing but it’s causing quite a few issues and I want them to eat at the table
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BettyUnderswoob · 02/06/2021 17:33

Always at the table, except for Saturday night when we have pizza in front of the telly as a treat.
NEVER in bedrooms.
I think dinner should be a family time.

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IHaveBrilloHair · 02/06/2021 17:33

I did, but Dd has ASD and needed to eat on her own often.

copperpotsalot · 02/06/2021 17:34

We're in a flat so not upstairs as such but she is allowed to eat in her bedroom.

I wish I'd not let her as her carpet (1 year old) is an absolute state.

I left my ex (not her father) and he was incredibly controlling on many aspects at home so when we got out I think I went a bit far with letting her do as she pleases to make up for it.

MarshaBradyo · 02/06/2021 17:34

At table

anothercovidxmas · 02/06/2021 17:36

Sometimes in front of Tele but otherwise at the table or picnic blanket outside. Eating in bedrooms is grim.

Assuming they manage to sit at a table at school and don't have a tantrum to eat where they fancy, I can't see an issue with enforcing what you want?

BillieSpain · 02/06/2021 17:38

In a house on one level.

Usually in bedroom. Table for family lunches, once a week.

Room really not grim!

BillieSpain · 02/06/2021 17:39

DD eats at home for every single meal. All home made, from scratch. That is what matters.

IHaveBrilloHair · 02/06/2021 17:41

I sometimes eat crisps in bedGrin

NotAnotherPushyMum · 02/06/2021 17:42

No, no food in bedrooms unless someone is ill.

nancy75 · 02/06/2021 17:42

I’ve just been in my dd’s bedroom, I’m not 100% convinced it’s not the spawning ground of Covid & all other known diseases, it’s such a state. Not a chance she would be allowed to eat in there, we would have rats within a week.
We eat dinner together at the table, snacks in the living room, no food upstairs

Mumof1andacat · 02/06/2021 17:45

Meals at the table, lunch (sandwiches etc.) and breakfast can be on the sofa but generally at the table. Small snacks upstairs (sweets or drink)

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 02/06/2021 17:46

yes.

it's got out of hand during lockdown because of lack of strength to be strict.
also it was kind if tricky to say no to younger ones when DH was working and older kids were studying so actually had to eat in the bedrooms because of zoom meetings/studying.

oh well, worse things have happened.
they bring down all the cups, plates, cutlery and clean up after themselves so it's no skin off my nose.

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RibenaSky · 02/06/2021 17:46

@IHaveBrilloHair

I did, but Dd has ASD and needed to eat on her own often.
Ah, one has suspected asd and I did wonder if this was part of the upset
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RibenaSky · 02/06/2021 17:47

But I wasn’t sure why eating at table would be an issue ? Maybe I’m wrong and need to look into that as part of it

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ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 02/06/2021 17:48

we do eat together at the table a lot though

Teessider · 02/06/2021 17:48

Yes I'll allow a sandwich up there or sweets/ crisps.

Proper evening meal always to be eaten downstairs at the table though

CarlottaValdez · 02/06/2021 17:49

We do all food at the table except popcorn or something with a film. And DS has some fruit after dinner which he has watching TV while I run his bath.

Different rules for me though - I eat crisps in bed quite often with a drink.

KurtWilde · 02/06/2021 17:49

Mine eat snacks in their bedrooms but meals either in the living room or kitchen depending on what we're having.

PaperMonster · 02/06/2021 17:50

Now and again both myself and my daughter will have tea in our bedrooms, but it’s not a regular occurrence.

Juanbablo · 02/06/2021 17:51

Meals at the table. I don't mind the odd snack upstairs if they are watching tv in bed or some sweets if they have a sleepover. Dd is a pain for yogurt pots in her room though!

Gatehouse77 · 02/06/2021 17:51

Generally, no but as they've got older we've relaxed for things like revision and if they've been on a Zoom call with friends but it's rare. Although ours are 21, 20 and 18 we still have a family evening meal with those that are around, still menu plan together and still share out the cooking.
For us, it's when we chat about the day, anything that needs discussing and plans for the upcoming days. It's very much a social event as much as the eating itself.

IHaveBrilloHair · 02/06/2021 17:55

RibenaSky
It can cause real distress to people with ASD to have to eat in front of others, or have to see/hear others eating.
Dd can do it, and will on occasion, but she's learned coping mechanisms and it's still very much her choice.

ZenNudist · 02/06/2021 18:00

No. They do take food into the rest of the house then i get annoyed.

I allow the occaisional pizza meal in front of the t.v. or popcorn. I do eat elsewhere but dc not allowed