Do you let your dc eat in their bedrooms?

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Or always at the table? Or a combination
Just wondering what others do about this

They dont like the table but I dont like crumbs/food etc in bedrooms
Ages 10 and 12
Tia

@UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme
Even if it really distressed your children?
Why would you do that to them?

IHaveBrilloHair what distresses the child in question? Is it genuinely not being allowed to eat in their bedroom, or is it having to eat with other people (eating noises, social chit chat or whatever)?

I haven't read all of the replies, but most people with ASD/ traits will be able to eat in places other than their bedrooms without distress. I'd certainly look at alternative options like eating alone in the living room or eating at the table at a different time (depending what was actually causing the distress) before allowing meals in bedrooms - meals in bedrooms very rarely going to be necessary to avoid distress unless there is only one room downstairs.

Definitely not upstairs. Meals always at the table unless we're doing a cinema night, and snacks grudgingly ok in the living room!

Never. We have never even had the discussion. So grim to eat upstairs. I never do it, I don’t think I ever have done and the rule is drinks only upstairs

@BillieSpain

DD eats at home for every single meal. All home made, from scratch. That is what matters.

"From scratch" Poor thing, does she never get to eat out or at her friends?

Yes, Dd has ASC and cannot cope with sound of chewing..this has got worse as she got older. Always at the table when she was young.

Thankyou for all the replies I guess I have to ascertain how much of this is just they don’t want to vs how much one dc may be affected due to possible asd and eating around others

@Untilyournexthairbrainedscheme.
I did what made DD comfortable, and made sure she'd eat.
We have a small home and other than the eating area of the lounge, there's two bedrooms, and one is mine, so of course she ate in hers.
Raising children with ASD is hard enough without criticism from people who have no idea.

[quote IHaveBrilloHair]@Untilyournexthairbrainedscheme.
I did what made DD comfortable, and made sure she'd eat.
We have a small home and other than the eating area of the lounge, there's two bedrooms, and one is mine, so of course she ate in hers.
Raising children with ASD is hard enough without criticism from people who have no idea.[/quote]
Hear hear! No experience myself but how parents of children with diagnoses/disabilities/needs put up with the ridiculous sanctimonious 'everyone has to do what I do' judgment I do not know!

Fine if you don't want to eat upstairs, it is your home and your choice. But it is not 'grim'. We as a family are not grim, we are a socially responsible group of people who sometimes eat a bag of crisps upstairs!

All meals eaten at the kitchen island, I’m more relaxed about snacks being eaten upstairs but rubbish must be put in the bin. I once noticed dd2 had open snacks left around her room and told her she needed to sort it out and stop eating upstairs if she wasn’t going to bin them or else she’d have mice in her room.
Dh and I don’t eat snacks upstairs in our room though, I don’t know why but I find the idea a bit gross personally!

IHaveBrilloHair ye gods woman I didn't criticise you - I didn't direct a single post to you or even especially notice your posts until you directed an @ post to me by name, and asked me a question, which I was polite enough to actually answer. You aren't being criticised.

I said in my general comments, not even close to yours on the thread until you singled me out, that I find it a battle worth fighting because it avoids needing to try to police the way teens look after their rooms - no need for battles over tidying and cleaning bedrooms - if there's never any food upstairs there's no need to go into their rooms against their wishes to keep them hygienic and prevent mice, ants, mould etc.

That was in no way a criticism of you, it was a comment on a thread with many, many contributors and like most post mainly intended for the OP.

@BillieSpain

DD eats at home for every single meal. All home made, from scratch. That is what matters.

😂😂😂

colouringcrayons find a pist where I've criticised parents of children with disabilities or in any way engaged with the poster who's post to me you decided to quote out of some White Knight syndrom impulse, before she directly addressed me with an @. I haven't used the word "grim" anywhere, so why youre singling me out I don't know. None of us eat upstairs. You do - thats up to you - your crumbs, your teenager's bedrooms to keep an eye on.

@Iploughthefieldsandscatter what is so funny? Since Covid all children eat every meal at home where I live, I cook 24/7. I do not stop. I don't give a shit where she eats it. DD is 13 and eats in her room if she feels like it. I just make sure it is healthy, good, nutritious food. That is what I care about. Her being healthy and well fed.

No plates are ever left and we are all on one level. She is a teen with a massive amount of homework and a massive appetite. I think small DC's are obviously different.

I don't understand why you think my post was so hysterically funny?

All food is eaten at the table including snacks. I’m anal about this after an ant infestation in the living room last summer due to DC eating snacks like crisps in the living room and dropping bits down the side of the sofa or whatever. I just couldn’t be arsed with it so everyone has eaten every morsel of food in the dining room since and we haven’t had any ants since.