Anyone else just feel totally overwhelmed / burned out?

[SinkGirl]

I’m having a really tough time at the moment. I just feel completely overwhelmed by everything and the thought of doing the things I need to do sends me into a panic.

Two week half term currently (twins attend a specialist school with different term dates). I have a very part time job and a very small business - I have a stack of forms for things I need to fill in (school, EHCP reviews, DLA for mobility as they are approaching 5, sleep clinic) and various things for work and my business. House is a total shit tip.

My fatigue is shocking at the moment (I have ME and gynae issues). I just want to hide under a duvet but obviously that’s not possible.

Do other people feel burned out like this? Last year was obviously brutal for everyone, we had the twins at home most of the year plus tribunals for their education and I just feel like I’ve been going non stop and now I’m collapsing.

Fully intend to have a couple of rest days when they are back at school two weeks today but somehow need to get through the next two weeks!

Yes I do. And I don't even know where to start explaining it.

Yes absolutely and it’s actually scaring me - I’ve never felt like this before. I am desperate for a break away.

So sorry you’re feeling this way too. I can’t really explain it either - nothing specifically worse now than before, I just feel like I can’t move. It’s horrible.

I’ve had this and I know how awful it is. When I’ve had this I write myself out a timetable plan for tasks for every day. So all tasks that are less urgent such as cleaning or less urgent things to do with your business put in your diary for a few weeks time. Semi urgent jobs can be pushed to next week. And then prioritise all urgent jobs and put in your diary to do 2 or 3 a day. Wish you the best of luck.

I'm with you!! It's just awful at the moment and relentless.

I've got two weeks off.

I'm getting away to see my children (not seen either in real life for 18 months due to lockdowns, work and the fact they are 6 hours away).

Also doing one "thing" a day, this week, to keep on top of things.

I need to re energise over this two week break. If I can.

Yes I have felt like this. Work has been very busy since the first lockdown and hasn’t let up. I’m usually fine with working stupid hours, but it’s become very tough recently. I’m overweight and have very little motivation and I just feel as though everything is getting on top of me. I’ve just taken a week off and I’m dreading going back to be honest. I think I need an actual holiday away but who knows when that might happen.

I should say, this isn’t like me at all. I love work and thrive on being busy. I think it must just be the cumulative effect of all the stress of the past year catching up. You are not alone and I hope you manage to take some time for yourself soon.

I feel the same op

Seems like a lot of us feel this way at the moment!

I have been on the verge of a panic attack the last few hours and I honestly don’t know why. I still have propranolol from a period of intense anxiety last year (related to the tribunals we went through) - haven’t had any anxiety since that time so I have no idea what that’s all about.

Think I’m struggling seeing all my friends on their half term days out and I can’t take the boys out on my own which feels really shit. We do have someone coming to help on Thursday and Saturday so I can take them out but I’m so wiped out even the thought of that is filling me with dread. It’s horrible feeling like this, especially when I can’t pinpoint the issue.

I hope it passes soon for everyone. How rubbish.

I'm feeling completely overwhelmed at the moment too. Tired to my bones

Overwhelm here as well. There is so much to do in the house, it's disgusting and I don't know where to start.

I started a new job in March, and while I'm back in an office which is what I wanted and one of the reasons I moved jobs, it's draining every stitch of energy out of me to cope with all the New Stuff That Has To Be Learned.

DH getting increasingly irate that I don't do anything round the house and I don't know exactly how to explain that it's not that I don't want to it's that I don't know where to start because it's too overwhelming

Totally. Off work for a week w stress

Yes. I'm at the bursting into tears every moment I'm alone stage. Trying to sort a CAMH's thing out for dd which is pointless, work is busy and I've found our our family have had other people in their house but wouldn't let us stay (even after tests). Bit of a kick in the teeth.
I don't want to get signed off as I love my job and team but it feels like a need a few weeks to even start to get back to feeling OK.

@NothingIsWrong

Overwhelm here as well. There is so much to do in the house, it's disgusting and I don't know where to start.

I started a new job in March, and while I'm back in an office which is what I wanted and one of the reasons I moved jobs, it's draining every stitch of energy out of me to cope with all the New Stuff That Has To Be Learned.

DH getting increasingly irate that I don't do anything round the house and I don't know exactly how to explain that it's not that I don't want to it's that I don't know where to start because it's too overwhelming

I feel the same. Started new job in April. Was really shat on by new boss and it's drained all the enthusiasm out of me too. And I'm ill eith Covid like symptoms (not Covid but all the same presenting symptoms) so am feeling utterly shit to boot

Yes, and mine stemmed from EHCP twattery.

Yes - utterly overwhelmed at the moment and I know the best thing to do is just tackle the mountain of things I have to do, but I feel like a rabbit caught in the headlights.

I'm not normally an anxious person by any means, but I'm really struggling with worrying about even the smallest of things right now.

Yes me too. I burst into tears at work on Friday no real reason but like everyone's said it's like a pressure cooker at the moment. So very tired.

@Hen2018

Yes, and mine stemmed from EHCP twattery.

I honestly think that’s it. I feel quite traumatised (I realise that sounds OTT) and haven’t properly recovered since. It all kicked off again last week and I had to put in a massive complaint so maybe it’s triggered all that stress again. I don’t know.

And I guess we are all just broken down from a very tough year. Those of you who’ve started new jobs and stuff, I don’t know how you’re managing. I feel like I need a few months off life to recover!

Me too. Too many long, stressful , emotionally tiring days without a break. I’m exhausted, resentful, snappish and tearful. I am totally on the edge.

I did try to speak to one of the high heid yins but got nowhere, and got put back in my box sharpish. I don’t know what to do. I’m sad so many of us on here feel the same way. Life should not feel like this.

Same here!

I hear you op. I hope that you get a break or some downtime soon? Do you sleep OK? I looked at myself in the mirror and I have massive bags under my eyes..
I work part-time from home but I do all the pickups, my dh does drop offs.. He works ft and we also run a small holiday-let so its very full on..
I am up at the crack of dawn everyday to work so 5.30/ 6am, my dcs are very good but there are 3 of them and the youngest is 3 so I'm still finding it very full-on.. my youngest finishes so early from preschool and there's no add on hours.. We don't have any family support so my dh and I never get a break but we do help each other and give each other time.
The one thing I would focus on is sleep, I am currently trying times a week to get 9 hours (thank God after years and years of constant night waking my dcs now sleep all night) and anytime I sleep for this length I feel a million times better! Is this possible for you @SinkGirl?
Also I have starting taking b vitamins and iron as I'm anemic so worth looking into a good multivitamin, I also get out for runs even a half hour helps with energy but actually if you don't sleep well I don't find running helps so sleep is number 1 priority. Everything is easier with you are armed with adequate rest.Best of luck

Sleep is not good (actually it’s not as bad as it has been at the moment as twins have been so tired from school but we had the 2am - 4:30am awake period last night and I can’t get them out to burn off energy - can’t even take them in our own garden on my own, it’s really shit).

I’m deficient in basically everything - folate, vitamin D, probably anaemic right now as periods are horrific so trying to get on top of all that. Definitely feel better when my folate and vit D are higher so hopefully increasing those will help.

It’s just crap isn’t it - we all need a break. Not easy to get right now! When they go back to school I will try to have some rest days!

That's very tough @SinkGirl , it's no wonder you are tired! Definitely get a decent multivitamin , it's not going to make up for lack of sleep but it will help a little. Are your dcs distracted by tv at all? Could you possibly rest on the couch and make the room safe so you could rest a little?

I'm not sleeping well either :(

I've got my 2nd vaccine later today. I was so excited for the first. Scared that this time I'll get side effects and feel even worse.

I haven't slept at all tonight. (UK time.)