And so it begins...

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

First sunny day and that’s it - neighbours are outside, usual continuous DIY, dog barking, constant barbecuing, and now they’ve upped the ante with music. This’ll be it now for the summer and I honestly think it’s going to tip me over the edge this year . My MH is currently at rock bottom and I have an injury which means I can’t move around much so I’m pretty much stuck at home. All I want is to be able to sit out in peace - if everyone had music blaring it’d be horrendous so most considerate people don’t or at least have it on quietly. We’ve lived here nearly 5 years and I feel awful as I pushed and pushed to move to a detached house - house is lovely but as with many newish builds, it’s on a small plot so gardens are really on top of each other. They’re a large family - 4 kids youngest is 18 but none showing any sign of moving out.
I know I’ll probably get responses telling me to relax and not be so uptight, but if you’re hyper sensitive to noise it really increases anxiety levels. Really wish we could all escape but moving is impractical and too expensive right now. It’s a gut wrenchingly awful feeling realising you’ve bought the wrong house, next to the wrong people and can’t do anything about it 😢

[AllTheOtherCats]

OP I'm with you. Same here. Every bloody summer.

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

Oh bless you for replying and understanding

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

What can you do? Apart from move to the middle of nowhere, which we just can’t at the moment.

[LagneyandCasey]

Sadly there are a lot of selfish arseholes out there. I totally get it. We moved house due to ours, it was that bad. I used to pray for bad weather so they would keep their dogs indoors. Are there times of the day when they're all out at work/college? I would make the most of those times.

[TheQueef]

Noise cancelling headphones.
Mine are a lifesaver so.etimes.

[AllTheOtherCats]

I've got the one out with his power tools EVERY time there's a hint of sun and the other side with screaming kids and blaring music on a trampoline.

[AllTheOtherCats]

I'm currently spending a lot of time on Rightmove!

[KatherineJaneway]

It's hard. I like people to enjoy themselves but the volume of music and noise is too much at times.

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

@LagneyandCasey yes during the week will be ok - it’s just the weekends that are awful; the very time when you want to relax after a week of work.

[Stronghold]

I really feel for you I'm sensitive to noise too. If you can afford then, the sony wh-1000xm4 are the absolute best noise reducing headphones I've ever had.

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

Lovely MNers. I’m actually crying now (told you I was fragile at the mo!).

[Laurie01]

I would put earphones in and listen to either classical music, or waves crashing, close your eyes, enjoy the sun but imagine you're elsewhere. A glass of wine would also be in order x

[IsThePopeCatholic]

Sympathies, op. I hate noise. Nothing worse than the thumping of music on a lovely sunny day.

[newnortherner111]

Headphones might be your answer. Assuming the music is only daytime and below whatever the maximum decibels without ear defenders.

Have you had any conversation, at least to agree a period say in the mornings without noise?

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

I have got some headphones. I feel a huge responsibility as I really pushed our move here and I know DH finds it awful too.

[Ihatesummertoo]

OP, I feel the same.

My neighbours are mostly decent people but the gardens are all crammed in.

We have yappy dogs, garden music, constant fing BBQs with friends over all the time.

Lawnmowers buzzing at all hours, early til late.

Hot tub parties with screeching teens.

And constant DIY all throughout the year.

And my neighbour one side has the most annoying loud voice and doesn't shut up.

I admit I'm sensitive to noise but it is overwhelming. I have limited mobility at the moment so can't get away easily.

Would love a detached house in the country but sadly not an option!!!

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

We’ve spoken before about bonfires 🙄. But I’m not sure we can ask about diy/being in the garden 🤷‍♀️. Also we will want to move at some point so I’m wary of not staying on ok terms. I know my expectations are probably unrealistic and I struggle with noise in general but I’ve turned into someone who prays for rubbish weather and that’s not right, is it

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

Gosh, so many people experiencing the same - perhaps we could all move to the same street and be lovely considerate neighbours together!

[Ihatesummertoo]

@AvonCallingBarksdale

We’ve spoken before about bonfires 🙄. But I’m not sure we can ask about diy/being in the garden 🤷‍♀️. Also we will want to move at some point so I’m wary of not staying on ok terms. I know my expectations are probably unrealistic and I struggle with noise in general but I’ve turned into someone who prays for rubbish weather and that’s not right, is it

Me too, I dread any nice weather and I feel like such a Grinch.

I wish I was more like my neighbours and not give a shit about noise or other people!

[AllTheOtherCats]

We should all club together, buy a patch of land somewhere beautiful and build our own estate! Heaven!!

[Gothichouse40]

Avoncalling,you have my sympathy. We have three sets of neighbours all playing their own music. Dogs that bark for hours on end, their owners seem to be deaf. I don't mind children playing or normal garden noise, personally I would ban music in gardens. I don't mind barbeques but hate chimineas and fire pits with a passion. We live in terraced housing and every time the neighbours burn stuff Im coughing for about 2 days afterwards. It affects my asthma. No one seems to just want to sit and be in their gardens any more. It's got to be constant entertaining or constant music. I dread summer. People don't realise mid terraced homes are too close together for chimineas and fire pits. Ive to close my doors and windows and even though we have good double glazing, the smoke permeates. I wish I could afford to move to a detached house, sadly I cannot. People don't seem to consider their neighbours nowadays.

[sqirrelfriends]

I feel your pain. There is a family about 5 gardens away who make so much noise. They constantly play shit music and the dad was actually encouraging the kids to scream this morning. I could hear him in his stupid voice egging them on. (From 5 gardens away, imagine how loud he was being, I could hear every word)

I long to have no neighbours

That being said, we hear fly hear anyone else, just the twatbags.

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

@Gothichouse40 you’re right, it is lack of consideration that seems to have died a death. Why though? Sometimes I think I’ll fight fire with fire and just be the same, but that’s just not me. We have teenage DC and they’d be really upset to move away to somewhere really rural. I guess we have to bide our time.

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

to everyone being so kind and also in the same situation

[AllTheOtherCats]

I think it's just good to know that not everyone is a selfish arsehole (even if they aren't living next door to you!) 😘