Getting like my mother - you?

[Susannahmoody]

I just tucked a tissue up my sleeve - exactly like my mum does! I always swore I'd never do this.

And now when I look in the mirror my mother stares back at me!

Anyone else?

I swear I’ll never do that (tissue up sleeve)!

But I am turning into my mother in every other way so....

I also remember my mother turning into her mother (my grandmother). We are all so alike in so many ways. I’ve learned so much from them (obviously, as they were my mother and grandmother and there for my primary teachers in life) but it isn’t just things like recipes and how to clean - I’ve started to use the same expressions, my interests are becoming similar to theirs as I age, I think my attitudes are shifting to become more like theirs.

Yup, I am turning into both my mother and my grandmother!

Skipping DM and turning straight into my Granny!

I know how spell ‘therefore’. Really. Fat fingers and bloody autocorrect.

Yes I've become intensely organised. Today I had to follow up with her on something as she hadn't got back to me and it was like it was her talking to me ten years ago. Scary but I've become very efficient!

Yep, to the annoyance of family I now pass on little ditties and rhymes like my mum used to

I will insist on reciting old sayings,whole poems ,songs etc even when told not to.

I know every word of the"owl and the Pussycat". Just like my mum before me and can't help myself , will recite the whole thing .

And yes, tuck the hanky up the sleeve. When I undress at night I have to pick up little balls of tissues everywhere

Christ I hope not.

I'm like my mum in some ways (and also like my dad) and I like to hear it

One example is laughing at my own jokes - as a teen my sister and I would groan "muuum that's not even funny" but she would always say "I don't care, I think it's funny" and I am the same way nowadays

Yes to this.

I love gardening and have started to take visitors for a 'walk around the garden' pointing out plants I am particularly proud of. just like my mum

I hope not.

I remind my friends regularly to please tell me if I start displaying the same lack of empathy that she has.

My Mum was amazing, intelligent, adventurous and lived life to the full. Unfortunately, I'm more like my Dad, I'd love to be like my Mum.

Luckily DD is showing similarities to my Mum so those amazing genes have been passed on.

I’m proud to turn into my Mum.

I now tut/slowly shake my head at the same as the tutting to show disapproval.

I often say to DD ‘do you want a wee cup of tea hen’ (my mum always said that.

I will do an extra load of washing (from somewhere) because it’s dry/sunny.

I get up early because I need a wee cup if tea.

I make a noise getting out of my spot on the sofa.

If we go out for dinner, it’s getting earlier - so a table booked for 6.30pm instead of 8pm (which is now too late to eat).

Just yesterday morning I was getting ready for work, doing my hair in the wee mirror on the table, when I paused and put my hands up to my face. I realised I was looking at an exact replica of my mother’s small, brown hands in my own. She died 16 years ago and the sight of my mum hands made me lurch with missing her.

No. I love my mother, but have put a lot of energy into assuring my life is as unlike hers as possible.

Haha yes. My grandma, mum and I all looked like the same person at different stages of life. When I was born my dad's brother said I looked 'Like a little old lady.' and followed it with 'Ooo she looks just like you Mrs A.' to my grandma 😂.

Grandma died 25 years ago, and now mum looks like Grandma, I look like mum and DD2 looks like a younger version of us.

Yes I'm definitely turning into my mum in many ways.

@pictish

Just yesterday morning I was getting ready for work, doing my hair in the wee mirror on the table, when I paused and put my hands up to my face. I realised I was looking at an exact replica of my mother’s small, brown hands in my own. She died 16 years ago and the sight of my mum hands made me lurch with missing her.

@pictish That is both beautiful (your love shines through) and sad.

I put quite a lot of thought and energy into ensuring I don't behave or act at all like my mother if at all possible. I dread turning into her. The thought of my children feeling about me the way I feel about her is one of my biggest fears.

I sound like mine when I laugh, and when I cry.
It's quite depressing. She was not a very nice person.

Yes! I am getting like my mum and Grandma (and Aunt - which is a real worry!). I now have my mum's swollen feet and ankles. I used to tease her for her 'cornish pasty feet'. Karma is a bitch. I have them now! I was always very much like my Grandma (my brother used to tease me about it) but hopefully I am not so anxious to be 'slighted' or take offense in anything people say. Whenever we (mainly I) took photos at Christmas she would have a right face on her because of some slight she had imagined. Life is too short!

A few years back I was in a hairdressers (rare for me even pre Covid!) and saw my Aunt's face looking back at me. NOOOOOOOO!

Yep, I can remember a tutting mother wondering round the house throwing open curtains and windows, insisting on knowing why we wanted to live in the dark (we were teenagers 🤷‍♀️). I now do exactly the same thing. Curtains open! Lots of light and air getting in.

It is better. She was right 🤫

I hope not 🤣 my child doesnt deserve that

I look more like her as i get older. I hope I have her sense of humour, positive attitude and resilience. She's been absolutely amazing over the last 3 years since having a devastating stroke which has turned her life upsidedown.

I am nothing like my mother. I don’t look like her (I think I look like my grand father/father’s family) I made a conscious effort to not do what she did. If I make a decision it is based on what would my mother do then doing the opposite

@pictish

Just yesterday morning I was getting ready for work, doing my hair in the wee mirror on the table, when I paused and put my hands up to my face. I realised I was looking at an exact replica of my mother’s small, brown hands in my own. She died 16 years ago and the sight of my mum hands made me lurch with missing her.

I had aomething similat. My hands look exactly like my mums now. It's almost like seeing a piece of her. I find it comforting in a nostalgic way.

Well I’ve got my first loaf of rye bread in the breadmaker so yes.

Wheat loaves just aren’t heavy enough now, you need rye.

I’m skipping the heavy drinking bit though.