Living well is the best revenge

[DelilahTheParrot]

I came across this the other day, “living well is the best revenge”, and it struck SUCH a chord in the context of a difficult friendship situation I’m in right now. I think a “friend” is trying to push me out of a group, and am trying to imagine how different ways I could handle it might play out. This has reminded me that rather than burning bridges, my friendships with the others in the group will be stronger if I’m being positive about what matters to me rather than negative about what doesn’t.

Rather than bore you with the details of that though, it made me wonder.

What similar quotes / phrases / sayings have really struck a chord with you and changed the way you think about things. A mantra maybe, or just something that helps you to keep perspective and focus on life. And why?

I saw this when I was really in a bad place - ‘if something is no going quite the right way, jut shout, ‘plot twist!’ And carry on. ‘
Somehow it made it all ok

The one that has really struck a chord with me, that my therapist told me, is “other people’s opinions of you is non of your business”

It was like a blanket lifted from my eyes, and I haven’t cared about what other people think of me since - very freeing!

This too shall pass.

It always does in the end.

Tha. Good one FlappityFlippers and am also off to Google Marcus Aurelius, he sounds the dude

When someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time.

‘Comparison is the thief of joy’.

"Fail to prepare, prepare to fail"

I know it's not a saying based on emotion however it's stood me well as I would quite often leave things to the last minute to the detriment of my family, work and mental health so eventually I decided to take control and be more organised.

Also - “nothing changes if nothing changes”

Painted on a canvas by DH, no idea where he got it from, but I look at it in the kitchen every morning and it strikes me every time.

Ok so I seem to have a few!

The “7 P’s”
“Prior preparation and planning prevents a piss poor performance” - said to me by my lovely dad all through my life and has stood me in good stead.

“You only get out of life what you put into it” - said by our primary school head teacher at every assembly

@FlappityFlippers1 on the same theme

The people that matter don't mind
The people who mind don't matter

What would you do if you weren't afraid?

@BrownEyedGirl80 I like that and have an addition I saw in early Covid times:
'This too shall pass: it might pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass'

My Gran always said "what's fir ye will not go by ye".

'if a job' s worth doing, it's worth doing badly'

• A bit of a twist on the classic, but it was said to me by a colleague. It really stuck with me, as I felt held back from doing various things (mainly sport and exercise), because I was rubbish at them.

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"You only get one life. This one."

What advice would I give to my daughter?

I imagine my problem being told to me by my daughter when she is grown up (she probably won't want my advice but anyway!)

If I would give my friend or daughter advice if they were in my shoes that's probably what I need to do.

No ifs and buts and self deprivation

Also a mantra I have 'you are strong, you've survived worse than this and it made you stronger'

Dad died in my house of a sudden heart attack when I was 24 I gave him cpr called 999

At 25 my widowed mum had breast cancer (survivor 😁)

At 26 I had a miscarriage

8 months after my DD was born (me 27)
My husband left me (classic script, sleeping with co-worker)

I was on my 3 months unpaid maternity leave my first Mother's Day and birthday as a new mum were within 2 months of him leaving

I supported him as a more stable earner through most of our 20's

I was single 2 years then went on my first date in 10 years got carried away had sex with him and a few more times booked my coil fit but nope I'm already pregnant. Decided to have an abortion. Mentally painful

So many hardships but EVERYONE has issues to overcome.

So far my 30's are a big improvement 😁

@NotQuitePerfect

the days are long but the years are short - wish I’d realised that 30 years ago

The one that always resonates with me is ‘If you want to know what a person is, look at what they do and not what they say’.

I love both of these.

It's not a quote but when I was seriously ill I came to appreciate the pleasure from achieving a step towards a small goal is the same as the pleasure from achieving a step towards a big goal.

Don't look back, you're not headed that way.

Never try to be cool. Head for the warm people. Life is warmth. You'll be cool when you're dead. - Matt Haig

[quote FusionChefGeoff]@FlappityFlippers1 on the same theme

The people that matter don't mind
The people who mind don't matter[/quote]
Love this

[quote Pudmyboy]@BrownEyedGirl80 I like that and have an addition I saw in early Covid times:
'This too shall pass: it might pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass'[/quote]
I like that.

“May the bridges You burn light the way “

I was once told by a shity friend group I was “burning bridges”
Because I wasn’t letting them away with treating me like shit anymore and my mum said that saying to me it stuck with me ever since xx

"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent" - Eleanor Roosevelt. Someone quoted it on here once and I had a minor lightbulb moment!

Hope you manage to navigate your current Wendying, OP.

Burn the bridges!

“If you find yourself going through hell, keep going”
A quote from Winston Churchill that helped me through the darkest 6 months of my life last year. Gave me a resolve I didn’t know I had.

Not so much a quote but when I worked in customer service my line manager told me to imagine the customer is having the worst day of their life. They can't scream at their boss, their spouse or their friends so instead they scream at the stranger on the phone. It completely changed my attitude to angry customers and my empathy helped improved most interactions. I stopped going home in a bad mood too.