A neighbour one - ball noise

[tenlittlecygnets]

We have a basketball hoop in our drive, between our house and next door. Ds (13) has played with it three times. Today he had been out there 5 mins when NDN appeared and told him to stop, as the noise was going right through his house.

WWYD? We say hi to NDNs but no more than that. I think he is BU as it's better for kids to be outside than on screens.

I get that the noise of ball bouncing is annoying but it had literally been for 5 mins!! They are much noisier - ndn shouts at kids, his kids are younger, ndn does lots of DIY - but we suck it up as that's part of living next door to other people!!

So, thinking of compromise - we will get a lighter ball and ds won't play for hours, but am going to say, sorry, it's not unreasonable noise. What do you think? Also, would you be ok with ndn speaking to your ds instead of to you?

It goes through you honestly I have headphones on just now listening to music and can still hear the 'thud, thud, thud' od my neighbours kids bouncing the bloody ball at the other side of my house.

They've spoken to him because they know it's unreasonable. Get the lighter ball and let the neighbour know.

It’s fine for them to speak to him. If he is old enough to be outside playing unsupervised then he is old enough to be spoken to.

The noise really does cut through everything. Definitely get a lighter ball and try to time it for when they are out.

I'm with your neighbour. It's bloody awful to listen to that repetitive thud. Maybe it was 5 minutes but the neighbour has no idea how long it will go on for

Wow. So, what, Ds isn't allowed to play basketball at all?!

So how it is reasonable for ndn to use a chainsaw or drill?!

Can.you.attach it to.the back.where it.doesnt join ndn or have a freestanding one

It's the vibrations.

It's beyond annoying.

It is freestanding!! In our drive, by our house wall. I wouldn't attach a goal to anyone else's house!!

Could you move it away from their side of your property? On your description it would feel unreasonable but just because you have tolerated noise doesn’t mean they can... try the lighter ball, try moving the hoop. Or just ignore them and carry on...

Threads like these make me really happy we have neighbours that live in the real world.

YANBU op.

It’s a dreadful noise. Last year during lockdown I was WFH and my abiding memory is my neighbours basketball thudding on the ground and crashing in to the fence.

My desk was positioned by the window that is adjacent to the shared fence. It honestly drove me crazy. Such an antisocial noise.

My son loves kicking his ball repeatedly in our garden and it constantly thuds against the wall and patio. Anyway we replaced the ball with a foam one and now no noise! I know it's not quite the same when shooting hoops but it will solve the noise issue.

Funny, my sister was moaning about a boy 2 doors down who plays basketball "from half three EVERY DAY". My response was - a child is allowed to play in his garden, get over it. I may be more blunt to my sister than others 😅 but my point still stands

It'll be incredibly annoying if it's right outside their house. It's a total nuisance if you've got small kids napping or you're working from home etc.

The noise of a basket ball particularly is loud and travels more that other types of balls I think.

I notice when kids play with basket balls outside where as I don’t hear other types. Not sure why.

Maybe go round and say “my son Mentioned you told him to stop playing. We’ve ordered a lighter basket ball so it won’t be as noisy when he plays. Well make sure he only ever plays for short periods at reasonable times of the day”.

Unless he was aggressive or rude I wouldn’t mine that he spoke to my child.

Agreed with PP - it’s such an absolutely awful noise. So so annoying. I also WFH and there’s a child two blocks over who bounces a ball, three stories down in the yard. It goes through my skull. Much more annoying than kids shouting or hedge trimmer noise etc. Can’t imagine what it’d be like having it in the shared driveway of your house!

The neighbour has been honest in telling your son how annoying it is, and it goes right through his house. You could move the net into your back garden, or your son could play basketball at the park if he’s 13.

My NDN’s teens have a hoop which is very well used, I get that it’s a bit noisy but it doesn’t bother me, but nor do parties or trampoline noises or children squawking. I generally like the sound of other people being around and living lives, even though I’m actually very quite and antisocial myself 😂

Do you have grass in the back OP and if so could you move the hoop there? Much less noisy - ok it’s not as bouncy but still good practice.

It's a very annoying noise, and I know as I've had nearly eleven years of it with my NDNs' athletic children. But he's entitled to play in your garden.

I say this as someone who loathes noise.

it is an annoying noise. Our next door neighbours son had a basketball net in his front drive and would be constantly out there playing when his nan looks after him. Funnily enough his mother took it down when she was looking after him because the sound of him bouncing the ball was stopping her from sleeping (shift worker).

We had put up with the noise because it is a family friendly estate and unless you live in the sticks some noise is just part and parcel of life.
The only thing that was unreasonable was that they spoke to your child instead of you. I wouldn't have liked that, they could have chapped the door and if they have young kids asked that he not play at their nap or bed times, you would still have the right to say no of course but he had no right telling a child they can't play on their own property.

I live opposite a secondary school. I barely notice the sound of dozens of kids yelling and playing football, but one child shooting hoops drives me mad! Luckily the better courts are further from my house, if they started playing basketball next to my house every day I think I Would move. It’s a very intrusive sound.

Basketball is too noisy. Especially very close to someone else's house. Save it for the park.

It's a pain that they are noisy, and since they've been round to you to complain about noise I wouldn't hesitate in the future if they're annoying you with their noise to ask them to be quieter. But in this instance, fair enough & get rid of the BB.

Betty, ds can hardly take his basketball goal to the park...

Have bought him a foam ball. I'm not getting rid of the goal! I hadn't realised that basketball was so universally loathed...