Desperate for a hand hold

[Feellikeimsinking]

Name changed for this. Had the most horrendous news today, and really struggling to process it. Currently in limbo waiting for a further update. Don’t have anyone irl I can talk to.

Hope you're ok @Feellikeimsinking.

Have you got anything you can do to distract yourself with, or anything you'd like to chat about on here that might act as a distraction until you receive a further update?

Here to hold your hand, want to chat about anything ?

I'm sorry. Could you make yourself a nice cup of tea and a biscuits? Perhaps a short walk for fresh air if it's not raining where you are?

You need to distract yourself.... a good pile of ironing? Clean the bathroom? Anything to stop yourself thinking for a few moments.

I'm sorry you've had bad news.

I am so sorry that you have had horrendous news today. I am here to hold your hand and chat if you want to. Might be a little distraction.

Keep your hands busy if you possibly can. Xxx

You poor thing. I agree with having something to distract you. Change the sheets on your bed, do anything to keep busy
I hope you get better news soon

@Someaddedsugar I’m just so all over the place, I feel sick to my stomach. I know it’s not an illness and that it’s just a physical response to the shock.
I’m even struggling to get my head around what needs to be organised for the dc for tomorrow. Think I’ll just make sure they all have the essentials for tomorrow and not worry about the rest of the week.
Couldn’t even manage a drink. Just feel so bloody helpless and with covid restrictions there’s nothing I can do. Just on tenterhooks waiting for the phone to ring. I feel simultaneously both wired and exhausted, it’s such a horrid feeling

Write a list of what you need to do/sort for tomorrow. Tick off each item as it's done. Keep telling yourself you will get through this.

Shock is a terrible thing. Try to make lists for the week - if you need help just ask us here for help. Better to avoid any alcohol while you're feeling like this. You poor thing

I'm sorry that you are dealing with bad news - get on with sorting things out for tomorrow - I bet you can do that without even thinking...handhold here, take care.

@HollowTalk

Shock is a terrible thing. Try to make lists for the week - if you need help just ask us here for help. Better to avoid any alcohol while you're feeling like this. You poor thing

@HollowTalk yes I’m not drinking alcohol, it was a cup of coffee I couldn’t even manage to get down. I would love nothing more than a strong G&T at the moment but I think it would only make things worse even if it seemed to help in the short term

How many children do you have? Will they be going to school/nursery tomorrow? Are they with you at the moment?

Why not put their clothing out for tomorrow. That's one job that's better done the night before. Will they need packed lunches or to take anything to school with them? If you focus on something practical you might find it helps.

Shock is a difficult thing to deal with @Feellikeimsinking.

As long as the essentials are done make sure to be kind to yourself. Maybe you could make the week easier by ordering some ready meals and having a few film nights - it might be a welcome distraction for you and the DC?

Do you have a list of the essential things they need this week? It might help if you can tick them off so that you know they're done and sorted and then you don't have to think about those things anymore

Is there anything anyone on here can help with? Anything we can chat about that might keep your mind away from the news?

I'm so sorry 💐

Do you want to talk about it? Maybe we can offer a bit more specific advice?

How old are your DC?

Once they're sorted for tomorrow. Stiff drink don't do any harm if you fancy one! Unless there's any chance you'll need to drive tonight!

I hope it's not, but if someone has died, the Bereavement section here is amazing. And if it's news of a serious illness then the Life Limiting Illness section is equally good.

Thanks, think I’ve got everything sorted for tomorrow although I did try to dry a load of laundry without putting the dryer on. oops 😬
Dc have been fed by their aunt, so that is one less thing to worry about. I’ve got some bits and bobs in the fridge I can snack on. Really don’t feel like eating but know I need to

Lists are good.

I'm sure if you are bit more specific about the problem someone might be able to offer really good advice.

Another hand here. I found it helpful to do something repetitive and non-essential just before bed, when I had a similar situation. I did crochet; for some reason, keeping my hands busy stopped my brain being so wired.
Fingers crossed for you.

At least that's tomorrow's essentials dealt with!

Can you order a takeaway to pick at if you fancy it? Might be easier than having to prepare anything yourself.

Have you got anyone who can stay with you tonight to help with the DC in the morning?

@nimbuscloud

Lists are good.

Agreed. Even if they don't make sense, if they're about things that are 'irrelevant' right now. Even if they're outcomes or potential next steps - getting something down on paper can get it out of your head

(((hugs)))

Lots of good wishes going your way

Hope all will be ok for you
Hand hold 🙏❤️

Would it help to get some fresh air whilst it’s still light? Is there anyone in real life that you can confide in?

so sorry to hear.
sending you lots of love & strength x