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DH has sweet smelling breath, and bedroom smells

419 replies

QuickNC789 · 07/05/2021 08:42

I noticed last night when I got home from work that DH’s breath smells very sweet. I also noticed it again this morning when he kissed me before going to work.

This morning our bedroom smells exactly like when you’ve been drinking the night before and wake up and you can smell the alcohol in the room.

I’ve read before that a pear drops smell could be a sign of diabetes. BUT he doesn’t have any other symptoms. In fact, over the last six months he’s been putting weight on as he’s had a really stressful time at work, gave up exercising and has been eating a load of chocolate and biscuits etc.

So I would definitely say he hasn’t got low blood sugar!

Can anyone think of what it might be instead please?

OP posts:
PurpleFlower1983 · 07/05/2021 20:15

He sounds like an idiot! His reaction to this is absolutely ridiculous, he needs to grow up.

Devlesko · 07/05/2021 20:18

Oh, the pharmacist is an idiot to say that.
If you feel it's an emergency A&E won't refuse you a triage assessment.
Maybe call for an ambulance, he can't refuse once it's there.

LookItsMeAgain · 07/05/2021 20:18

My suggestion on how you 'repair' this is to go to wherever he is and say something along these lines:
"I'm sorry if what I said has upset you. I love you and I'm concerned about your health which is why I raised my concerns to you. I realise that only you can decide to do anything about your health as you are an adult. If it's nothing, then it's nothing. However, if it is something, you'll know and it can be treated and we're all better off. So, I'm not going to let this ruin my weekend or let your mood affect my weekend. Are you coming down for dinner now or not? If not, that's fine but don't expect me to wait around for your mood to improve" or whatever you had planned for the evening.
You didn't cause this. By shoving his head in the sand, he's caused this mood swing and has 'ruined' the evening.

Crack open a bottle of wine, put your feet up and move on from this.

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kateluvscats · 07/05/2021 20:19

High blood sugars can also make a person agitated and anxious, some of his mental health issues may actually be down to his potential diabetes .

grapewine · 07/05/2021 20:22

@hellywelly3

The only people he’s irreplaceable to is you and his family. Absolutely no point risking his health for work they will have his position advertised before his funeral. He needs to give his head a shake
This is the truth. He really needs to get a grip, and you should stop feeling guilty for caring about his health.
AbsentmindedWoman · 07/05/2021 20:23

Diabetes is where your body cannot regulate your blood sugar on its own.

@LindaEllen Um, yes and the dysregulation means hyperglycaemia - either because you stop producing your own insulin (type 1) or you become so resistant you can't properly use the insulin you produce (type 2).

It's the hyperglycaemia of untreated diabetes that leads to DKA or complications. Hypos only really begin to come into things once insulin or oral meds enter the picture - they are a side effect of treatment.

@Konga is not wrong to say diabetes means high sugars.

AbsentmindedWoman · 07/05/2021 20:26

Can you buy a meter that does a one off reading of hba1c at Boots or the like?

I'm not in the UK anymore but you can get them here now for about $20.

Tistheseason17 · 07/05/2021 20:27

Amazon sell urine dip tests and you can get next day delivery.

alexdgr8 · 07/05/2021 20:29

well i suggest you need to keep a close eye on him in case he collapses.
could you call 111 anyway, tell them you fear his mental state is clouding his judgment.
you don't want to be explaining your inaction before a coroner's court.

Puntastic · 07/05/2021 20:31

you don't want to be explaining your inaction before a coroner's court.

Stop trying to freak OP out. She wouldn't be hauled up to, 'explain her inaction' FFS. He's a grown man.

SaturdayRocks · 07/05/2021 20:32

you don't want to be explaining your inaction before a coroner's court.

Let’s be sensible here. This really isn’t helpful for the OP.

ShoesEverywhere · 07/05/2021 20:32

You can buy ketone test strips for urine on prime for next day delivery.

It's the ketones that make breath smell like pear drops (I have a T1 husband) - hope all goes well x

normalsaline · 07/05/2021 20:33

you don't want to be explaining your inaction before a coroner's court

Grin don’t be so fucking ridiculous

TatianaBis · 07/05/2021 20:33

Is he always thirsty and peeing a lot OP? That’s fairly key.

I’m pretty gobsmacked by his childish reaction and your apparent acceptance of blame for ruining his evening. Is he usually like this?

Ninkanink · 07/05/2021 20:34

Well, I don’t know how to repair this now! We had planned a really nice evening and to be fair I went in there and ruined it despite knowing what the reaction would be.

Perhaps tell him kindly but firmly that he’s out of order to let this cast a cloud of what is meant to be a lovely evening. You need to stop taking responsibility for how he is choosing to behave. He can sort out his head and choose to still have a good evening. But if you’re pandering to it and getting all upset/feeling guilty and playing into how he’s feeling/acting, he will likely just get worse.

Tell him to stop it now and to come and chill with you.

Ninkanink · 07/05/2021 20:35

*over what is meant to be...

iklboo · 07/05/2021 20:35

you don't want to be explaining your inaction before a coroner's court.

The hyperbole of the year award goes to...

As an adult with capacity it's balls all down to the OP whether her DH sees a GP or not. The coroner wouldn't remotely find her liable.

111 won't take 'I fear for his mental state' either. This isn't Holby City.

Ninkanink · 07/05/2021 20:35

@alexdgr8

well i suggest you need to keep a close eye on him in case he collapses. could you call 111 anyway, tell them you fear his mental state is clouding his judgment. you don't want to be explaining your inaction before a coroner's court.
🙄🙄
alexdgr8 · 07/05/2021 20:36

i didn't say she would be hauled up.
but she would be a relevant witness in such a circumstance.
i am not suggesting culpability, but trying to emphasise the possible serious consequences of inaction. primarily his inaction.
are you suggesting that one just does nothing because someone is a grown adult. someone whom one cares about. and lives with.
i couldn't.

TatianaBis · 07/05/2021 20:36

If he’s constantly thirsty and peeing a lot, even despite the lack of weight loss, I would call 111 now and get an OOH appt tonight.

Failing that, I would go out to your local pharmacy as soon as it opens tomorrow and get a test kit.

alexdgr8 · 07/05/2021 20:40

As an adult with capacity it's balls all down to the OP whether her DH sees a GP or not. The coroner wouldn't remotely find her liable.

oh, so that's alright then. she won't be found liable, so she can crack on with her weekend, put her feet up, go for a run. just ignore him, because he is an adult, and has legal capacity.
well that's not how i operate.
anyway that is not the function of a coroner's court. it is not a criminal court.

Kittykat93 · 07/05/2021 20:40

Diabetic or not, hes being an arsehole to you. All you're trying to do is help him and show concern and hes now not speaking to you? I'd let him crack on.

Puntastic · 07/05/2021 20:42

are you suggesting that one just does nothing because someone is a grown adult

OP hasn't done 'nothing'. She's spoken to him, raised her concerns and offered advice. She's spoken to a pharmacist and gotten their view. She's buying testing equipment. She's done plenty. What would you do, try to have him sectioned?

Nicklebox · 07/05/2021 20:42

There is another post on here somewhere recently a young mum was feeling very tired and GP receptionist said it was because she had a baby and would not give a GP appointment mumsneters advised calling 111 who told her to go to A and E where she was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and was very ill. I would not let him leave this you need to get it sorted quickly i would call 111 and get some advice.

Charliebradbury · 07/05/2021 20:43

The nonsense about ruining the weekend etc is on him not you. You are worried about him and mentioned it, you are his wife that is totally fine for you to do. That said you can't force him to do anything. Maybe re visit in the morning.

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