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to think life is a bit pointless

54 replies

citrusc · 02/05/2021 10:01

I know it sounds terribly depressing and I'm not!

It just makes me stop and think. You're born, study, work, die. You're gone, forgotten, replaced. We're all in this cycle. For some it's a bit more rocky, for others not so much but it's pretty much the same for everyone.
We're all chasing things, it's never ending, there's something and then it just ends.

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Ecruelworld · 02/05/2021 11:49

I agree. When anyone asks what the purpose of life is I think that there isn't one. Our only true purpose is to produce more humans who also have just that one purpose. In a few generations we will be forgotten unless we have written a book, featured in a book, starred in a film or had a performance of something recorded.

user113424742258631134 · 02/05/2021 11:53

Life is completely pointless, not a bit pointless.

Almost all of us will be forgotten and erased very soon after we die. Even those names or works that "live on" are not remembered for the person they were.

Like Jane Austen. We know her name, we might dissect her works and known facts about her life, but nobody knows or remembers the person she was. We don't truly know how she felt about her experiences. She's gone, she doesn't exist anymore.

Moondust001 · 02/05/2021 11:54

I disagree. I don't care whether, or for how long, I'm remembered. And I'm not chasing anything. But I want the human race to be better than it is, believe it can be, and want to play a small part in contributing to that. I don't think anything is every pointless.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 02/05/2021 11:54

You're not entirely wrong.

ssd · 02/05/2021 11:57

Learning, earning and yearning

Not much else really

Amboseli · 02/05/2021 12:04

@Ecruelworld 100% agree.

The human race is here for now, but we won't be here forever. And the earth will manage just fine without us Smile

JustGiveMeGin · 02/05/2021 12:06

Yes it is completely pointless.... however it is enjoyable in parts, I'm glad I got to have my children and if they have children I will hopefully get to enjoy them too!
I won't be leaving any kind of epic legacy but I'm okay with that. I would quite like to be a ghost and haunt people that have pissed me off in life though Grin

neroforte · 02/05/2021 12:06

the only people who will live a meaningful life are those who reject the standard example you gave in your op.

SunnySpills · 02/05/2021 12:09

@ssd

Learning, earning and yearning

Not much else really

A pretty accurate summation right there.
timegoesbysoslowly · 02/05/2021 12:10

Agree, what's the point. It's the look off the draw, most will have average lives, some will have terrible lives, some fabulous lives. But at the end off it we all die.

I know it wouldn't work but would we all be happier if we all had the same. A simpler life and not everyone trying to keep up with each other and worrying about what people think off us.

There will always be rich or poor and ok but if we didn't know any better would we miss it. All live in same houses with electricity and running water, given a living wage. But then they're will be folks who can't follow the rules !

Ilovemaisie · 02/05/2021 12:10

I have struggled with this over the years. I am not a religious person but actually sometimes feel jealous for those who have a faith because it gives them a purpose to aim for if that makes sense.
The last few years though I have enjoyed seasonal events and making them special. At the beginning of 2020 I planned to spend the year being more aware of nature and the passing seasons. I had a lovely book that went month by month saying what festivals (cultural and religious) happen that month, what the weather will be, what animals and plants will be around that month, what to plant if you have things to grow.
Unfortunately.....yeah covid. Kind of messed that plan up. Not so nature to see from my London flat !!
But I did try to focus on the passing seasons. I made spring decorations at Easter time, Halloween stuff at Halloween etc.
It kind of focused me on where we were in the point of the year and what to plan and look forward too. Normally there would have been fetes and festivals to attend and I am hoping that they are returning this year. Some might say it's the same stuff over and over each year but I like to try to think "I will enjoy this event that is happening now - this year" and live in that moment I suppose.

LaLaLandIsNoFun · 02/05/2021 12:10

Utterly.

bluekitcheny · 02/05/2021 12:13

@neroforte

the only people who will live a meaningful life are those who reject the standard example you gave in your op.
Yes and the system is set up that it's very difficult to live a life that goes against the grain.
Ecruelworld · 02/05/2021 12:25

ilovemaisie I love this idea. It fits the quote by the Spanish philosopher George Santanaya “ There’s no cure for life or death save to enjoy the interval*. There might be no purpose to human life other than to procreate but seeing as we are here we can try to make the most of the time we have and enjoy it.

Ilovemaisie · 02/05/2021 12:28

Ecruelworld ooh I like that quote. I haven't heard it before.

roguetomato · 02/05/2021 12:29

I don't think that way. If one of my ancestor wasn't there, I wouldn't exist. Same as my dc.

lljkk · 02/05/2021 12:32

I can make a positive difference today.
Today is all I got so I'll work with it.

Ecruelworld · 02/05/2021 12:32

ilovemaisie. My late DF used to come out with it all the time. I often think about it but just had to look up who said it originally so I could put it in my post.

Ilovemaisie · 02/05/2021 12:34

roguetomato yes true. This might sound cheesy but in the TV drama Battlestar Galactica an important line about their destiny is "all of this has happened before and all will happen again".
We are here because our ancestors were here. Our descendents will be here because we were here. So while we are here we should just enjoy what we have and make sure we leave a good place for the next generation.

RosieLeaLovesTea · 02/05/2021 12:36

Yes I was thinking about this only yesterday. My nan died 5 years ago of severe Alzheimer’s. My grandad died approx 2 years after her. My other grandad has been gone 19 years. My other nan is alive at 92 but mentally frail with memory difficulties. I was thinking that in one generation no one will be around to remember them. It’s horrible when those thoughts creep up.
@Ecruelworld thats a good quote.
I am glad I had kids because I am making efforts to raise them to be good people. That’s makes it feel more worthwhile.

Arbadacarba · 02/05/2021 12:39

You're gone, forgotten, replaced

But that can be a comforting thought if you're worrying about something or feeling guilty over what you did or didn't do. Also, if you tend to feel annoyed about vacuous celebrities, corrupt politicians etc. who seem to have succeeded in life - in 100 years' time, no one will remember you or them. Very few famous or public figures are remembered by the masses beyond their era.

Chatanooga1 · 02/05/2021 12:42

I’m looking forward to dying. The world is a different place to that if my youth and when the last of my dogs die I shall be following them.

That’s not a morbid thought, I’m cheerful at the prospect.

cyclingmad · 02/05/2021 12:47

Agree but since I don't know what happens once I die, im just gonna enjoy this world, explore it and see things and do things that make me happy. A job makes that happen. I dont have to procreate if that's our purpose as there are plenty of other people who do.

Arbadacarba · 02/05/2021 12:48

I feel the same, Chatanooga - I don't like the way the world has changed. I don't crave a long life.

BranstonBeansAreSuperior · 02/05/2021 12:51

Totally agree. Its near my bday and I always feel a bit shit around this time. What have I accomplished? What have I done? I'm was a young mum uni dropout who's a disappointment to everyone around her. Same job for years, low level disability support. Don't own anything unlike many peers my age. Every year the same

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