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Siblings sharing same birth date

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Grabachair · 29/04/2021 09:22

Anyone else?
My daughter will be 3 on Tuesday and I will be having a section to have the baby on the same date. Due to complications, the date cannot be changed as the hospital wants to bring the baby as soon as possible and that’s the earliest date available at my current hospital unless I choose to go to another hospital which I have been given the option of.
If I go to a different hospital, quite a distance from
me, the section will be done over the weekend or even today if a slot is available.

Currently I am booked for the 4th. Just feel bad for the kids as they will be sharing the same date. Of course I appreciate about twins/triplets etc having no choice.
On the other hand, my son is a bit jealous that my daughter and new son will be having their birthday on the same date!
Don’t know what to think about it all really.

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Babdoc · 29/04/2021 09:48

This is not a problem unless you make it one! Good excuse for a big double celebration. And probably cheaper than organising two separate parties/events when they are older.
My DD was more annoyed at her birthday being too close to Christmas- nobody was available for parties.

dotdashdashdash · 29/04/2021 09:50

You don't really choose birthdays. My friend and her sibling have the same one, and another friend has kids with birthdays a day apart (e.g. 6th and 7th of May).

None have an issue with these things.

Don't sweat it.

MySocalledLoaf · 29/04/2021 09:52

My second was due on my first’s birthday, but was premature in the end.
I think the same day is better than a few days before or after for the one that has to go second.

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trevthecat · 29/04/2021 09:55

I think it's great. I would definitely be happy. My son and godson have the same birthday (obviously not the same as your situation) and it's been lovely for them to have joint parties etc. Good luck

Spanglebangle · 29/04/2021 09:56

DD is only 3 she will never remember not sharing a birthday. It will be normal for both of them.

MummBraTheEverLeaking · 29/04/2021 09:56

It'll be fine, my mum and her sister have birthdays on the same date 8 years apart and no problems at all. There was another birth in the family that narrowly missed that date too so clearly that's a popular one for us!

confusedofengland · 29/04/2021 09:57

My sisters have the same birthday. I have a different birthday, exactly 3 weeks later. It's never really been a thing for any of us, it's just how it is. If anything it's nice.

Congrats in advance on your new addition.

k4523 · 29/04/2021 09:59

My brother and I have the same birthday, 2 years apart, really doesn't matter to us

KirstenBlest · 29/04/2021 10:02

It's probably better than having the birthdays a day or two apart.
You and your baby's safe birth are the priority.
Best wishes for your daughter's special 3rd birthday present.
Flowers

MargaretThursday · 29/04/2021 10:07

I had a discussion with my (teens) dc the other day. Two of them were due on the same due date, although were actually born around a fortnight apart.

I commented that I really didn't want them born one day apart because then they'd have each thought the other had it better.
One would say "as soon as my birthday is over it's forgotten about" and the other would say "I get no anticipation for mine, it's all about the other one".
They thought it would have been "cool" to share a birthday, but one of them did say that they might have chosen an official birthday and celebrated then.

karmakameleon · 29/04/2021 10:09

I have two that share a birthday and neither of the two that share has ever had an issue. The middle one, who doesn’t share, was a bit upset the first year as he felt a little left out but his birthday is a few weeks later so it wasn’t the end of the world. Now no one cares and it’s just the way it is.

I do remember chatting to a nurse when the littlest one was in hospital and telling her that he shared a birthday with his big brother. She told me about a family they had in where the two boys shared a Christmas Day birthday. That’s taking it too far! Shock

TokyoSushi · 29/04/2021 10:09

I think it's quite nice, it's up to you to make it into a good thing!

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Grabachair · 29/04/2021 10:10

You are all so lovely, thank you so much Flowers

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RampantIvy · 29/04/2021 10:13

Good luck. I hope it goes well Flowers

3JsMa · 29/04/2021 10:15

My DD due date was on her brother's birthday,14 years apart.
I was delighted and so was he.However,she chose to be born 2 weeks earlier,on my DB birthday.

GrumpyHoonMain · 29/04/2021 10:16

Would it make you feel better to have the baby earlier? In your position I’d go for the earlier dates if offered - not because of the kids’ birthdays but for my peace of mind.

ComDummings · 29/04/2021 10:18

If you make out that it’s an exciting and special and fun thing to share a birthday they’ll follow your lead. As they get older if they want separate parties you could do one the weekend before and one the weekend after and keep the day itself as a family event and do a little cake each and presents at home or out for a meal together etc. But for now just make it feel really special that they share a birthday, they’ll love it!

HosannainExcelSheets · 29/04/2021 10:38

You don't get to choose birthdays. My eldest 2 have the same birthday, but two years apart. My youngest has the same birthday as her cousin (same age too). It's just life, and you get on with it. I actually quite liked having all the party faff done for the year in one weekend when they were little.

leftistbimbo · 29/04/2021 10:57

My brother and I are 3 days apart, and our birthdays are the week before Christmas. It’s always the best week of the year with all the celebrations, and we don’t know any different! As long as they get pretty much equal attention and gifts, I don’t think they will mind.

CloudPop · 29/04/2021 10:57

@MySocalledLoaf

My second was due on my first’s birthday, but was premature in the end. I think the same day is better than a few days before or after for the one that has to go second.
Agree - having them a few days apart is a pain.
Nanasueathome · 29/04/2021 11:01

I’m old now but I have a sister and brother
My birthday is 28th, my sisters’ birthday is 29th and my brothers’ is 31st, all January
I always say I was deprived as a child as I could only ever have my birthday cards up for one day

barnanabas · 29/04/2021 11:16

I know a few families that have this situation - it seems to be more common than you'd think!

No direct experience, but I have twins and one other child. When they were little, the non-twin used to struggle a bit on the twins' birthday (we have hilarious video footage of her desperately trying to install herself in key roles in the proceedings, which she now finds funny as a teen). Obviously, the twins have never known any different, and there are both benefits and drawbacks to having the same birthday (and twinship in general, though that's a whole different topic!). We have always made them a birthday cake each, and we do alternate years for each of them to go first (e.g. with who we sing happy birthday to first - they both get their own song; who has their party first, if they are having separate ones).

My sister's birthday is a week after mine. Like my twins, we sometimes had joint celebrations and sometimes had separate ones. It felt like a bonus that we could choose.

Basically, I'm trying to say, I think it will be fine. But if it would feel better to have the baby earlier for other reasons, I hope you get to do that.

eddiemairswife · 29/04/2021 11:36

My brother was born on my 5th birthday. The date didn't bother me, but his sex/gender(?) did, I'd wanted a sister. I vowed that when he was old enough I would put him down the drain. Decades later he is still around. I didn't like him as a baby or a child, but we started to get on when i went away to university.

ittakes2 · 29/04/2021 11:38

I think the same day is better than a few days apart.

garlictwist · 29/04/2021 11:39

My sister and I have the same birthday - I am 2 years older. We always had joint birthday parties growing up. Now it makes it easy to remember when each other's birthdays are! A few times we have unwittingly bought each other the same gift and the same card.

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