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Siblings sharing same birth date

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Grabachair · 29/04/2021 09:22

Anyone else?
My daughter will be 3 on Tuesday and I will be having a section to have the baby on the same date. Due to complications, the date cannot be changed as the hospital wants to bring the baby as soon as possible and that’s the earliest date available at my current hospital unless I choose to go to another hospital which I have been given the option of.
If I go to a different hospital, quite a distance from
me, the section will be done over the weekend or even today if a slot is available.

Currently I am booked for the 4th. Just feel bad for the kids as they will be sharing the same date. Of course I appreciate about twins/triplets etc having no choice.
On the other hand, my son is a bit jealous that my daughter and new son will be having their birthday on the same date!
Don’t know what to think about it all really.

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supersonicginandtonic · 29/04/2021 11:43

I wouldn't mind the same day but I would make sure they had Individual celebrations. I'd do one party the week before and the other the week after. That way they can still have what they want.

badlydrawnbear · 29/04/2021 12:02

I share a birthday with a sibling for the same reason (essential but planned a few days ahead c-section), but I am much older. It's not an issue, and your DC will be young enough that after the first year they will not remember it ever being different. Good luck for the birth.

Chatanooga1 · 29/04/2021 13:07

I found that my children would often have their birthday on a school day so it was always a low key affair and we had a bigger celebration/day out on the weekend.

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Subordinateclause · 29/04/2021 13:12

I'm surprised at people saying it's better than a few days apart. My birthday and my brother's are in the same week and it's never been an issue. I think I'd prefer that to the same day and I'd be thinking about going to the other hospital if it were my own children who would end up sharing a birthday.

JellyNo15 · 29/04/2021 13:15

My two share a birthday, it was great when they were little. They had a couple of parties but usually we went away for a few days, like centre parks.

karmakameleon · 29/04/2021 13:19

I think that for most people who they accept that they are allocated a birthday at random and that it’s not something that they can change or that really matters. My sister and I are a week apart and it wasn’t a problem. My sons share and again they don’t care, it’s the only way they’ve known.

I know one person who wishes he could change his but he was born in New Year’s Day and no one ever wants to celebrate his birthday on the day even though they’re all free, which I can understand is a bit annoying.

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Grabachair · 29/04/2021 14:44

Thanks so much everyone. My reluctance of not going to the other hospital is that I have no experience of it and my current one, I already had two sections there and know how good they are first hand. Also I have been warned that baby might need neonatal care when born and will then have to be transferred to my current one. So a lot of faff just for a date. I am having daily monitoring so things could change at the last minute anyway.
I just feel birthdays are so special and in our family we make a huge deal out of it. Everyone have their own day and we celebrate it fully. Ha, never thought I might have two children sharing the same birth date so that’s one of the most special things which will happen to me and my husband!

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FizzyApricot · 29/04/2021 14:47

Agree, better to share a date than be a few days apart. I would make sure you give them opportunities to have their own party when older though.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 29/04/2021 14:48

I’d love the same day birthday for my two- so much easier and very special imo

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Grabachair · 29/04/2021 15:00

Thank you. I am starting to think how special it is.

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emmathedilemma · 29/04/2021 16:00

I know a few people who share a birthday with siblings, I even know someone who shares it with 2 of his siblings (none are multiples) and it doesn't seem to bother them. I think when they're little it's nice to be able to do something together without the other getting jealous (try explaining to a toddler why they don't have presents to open and the other one does!) and once they get older they'll naturally want to do their own thing. It just means the expense of presents and parties all hits at the same time.

Andylion · 29/04/2021 16:50

I do remember chatting to a nurse when the littlest one was in hospital and telling her that he shared a birthday with his big brother. She told me about a family they had in where the two boys shared a Christmas Day birthday. That’s taking it too far!

Justin Trudeau shares a Christmas Day birthday with his brother Alexandre.

Beetlewing · 29/04/2021 17:14

This happened to me 9 years ago but I was allowed to shift the date to three days earlier.

AtLeastThreeDrinks · 29/04/2021 17:32

Sibling friends of mine have birthings on consecutive days (sister and brother, 3 years apart) and from when we met as teens always had really fun shared birthday parties for all their pals. I think it's nice and a lovely 'present' for your daughter! And completely agree that it's less hassle them sharing a birthday than having them a few days apart –one set of decorations, one party etc etc. Just as long as they both feel celebrated and special!

AtLeastThreeDrinks · 29/04/2021 17:33

Birthings = birthdays!

SavannahLands · 29/04/2021 18:03

My Daughter and Nephew were born in the same hospital on the same day just 12 hours apart, in neighbouring delivery rooms, with the same Consultant delivering them, he was laughing and jokingly asked when the next Orgy in our tiny town was going to take place, as another baby had arrived from there in the early hours of that morning!
DH had a bit of fun at work showing around a photograph of him holding the two babies one in each arm on the maternity ward later that day, and announced we had had twins!

BingBongToTheMoon · 29/04/2021 18:07

Brilliant. Eldest will be 21 & youngest 18 on the same day!
Cost you a fortune lol.

Londonnight · 29/04/2021 18:11

I have the same birthday as my sister, she was born 10 yrs after me

SavannahLands · 29/04/2021 18:15

It's defiantly better than being born at Christmas though, one of my Girls was often left upset by people who sent her a duel Birthday and Christmas present, and could not be bothered to send her a Birthday card but simply wrote 'Happy Birthday' on her Christmas card. Also difficult to arrange a party with School friends on the day because everyone's busy with their own celebrations and visitors.

mommybunny · 29/04/2021 18:30

Much more important OP to have the care you need for yourself and your baby than to avoid your DCs having the same birthday. I can see why you might want to try to avoid it but it really is no big deal. I’m a twin myself with a DD who was born 2 days before my 40th birthday. It’s just a happy time all round!

Good luck with the delivery.

user1498572889 · 29/04/2021 18:40

My friend and her brother have their birthdays on the same day. As they got older it has made made for some fantastic parties and they never minded.

LondonStone · 29/04/2021 18:47

My step-dad has two daughters born on the same day! There’s 5 years and a son in between them so total coincidence.

As far I know they love it! They’re older now but I don’t think it’s ever been an issue.

ChikiTIKI · 29/04/2021 19:07

Definitely I would stay with same hospital in your shoes. It has the better neonatal unit and thats so important. Also I assume your previous sections went well? If you went to a different hospital there might be different things about the section such as different type of sutures and different enhanced recovery procedure, pain meds etc. At least with the one you're at you know what to expect in that regards.

Hope it all goes well.

You'll have some new special birthday traditions which will evolve over time and it will be loads fun. Also imagine the mega joint 18th and 21st party they'll share!!!

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Grabachair · 29/04/2021 19:36

ChikiTIKI yes my current hospital is exceptional. I have had a great standard of care in all my pregnancies. I have had the same two consultants for all 3 pregnancies, same midwives for all the pregnancies and my past two sections although emergencies went really really well and I recovered without any problem. That’s why I am reluctant to move just because of the date and plus if I have to transfer back then is it worth the worries I will have in a new place?.
Because of the weekend and the bank holiday, this is the nearest available date. The next date will be the 10 which they won’t let me go to.
I am of course thankful that I am being given the choice of going to another hospital which in itself is a huge deal and I appreciate that in my consultant.
Actually my daughter’s due date and this baby’s due date is the same and we always knew that there’s a chance I will be having the baby on the same day but we thought I could request for a day earlier. I didn’t figure in the bank holiday!

Thanks for all the replies and lovely stories.
I have enjoyed reading them and I feel quite excited now. Thanks for all the good lucks too. I am worried this time as I worry for my two children if anything happens to me.

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Montsti · 29/04/2021 19:51

It’s difficult when you’re having an elective c section as technically you are choosing the date (although in this case it is out of your hands)...

I had a similar issue but my obstetrician was able to move things around and so dd3 (Friday) was born 3 days before ds birthday (Monday)..dd2 is 2 weeks later. It’s not ideal...