I'm sorry if this is in the wrong section but I've didn't know where to put it. But if background.
My daughter is 2.5 years old. She has always been a terrible sleeper since birth. It now comes to light she has a neurological disorder to which she's just started medication for.
Anyway night times are worse than a newborn. She will not self settle, she constantly wakes all night crying, screaming, wanting mummy etc etc checking if I'm there or not.
I have tried everything in the book, except leaving her to CIO but did that recently as I got to the end of my tether and she fell out of her cot twice and hurt herself.
Long story short she is now is a cot bed.
Right, the reason for the post.
My mum died just after Christmas. She was a hands on nanny, spoke to her at least twice a day, saw her four times a week (lived nearby) bubbled when covid happened.
Recently my daughter has been asking for her nanny. She knows nanny is in the sky now but I can't help but think the loss has finally hit her and that's adding to an already shit time at night.
How do I navigate this with her? I'm sleeping on her floor at the moment. It's killing me. We talk about nanny often and look at pictures and she fine during the day about it.
Also her grandad on my husbands side (not nanny's husband) has cut all contact for no reason so she has lost two people who were in her life.
Husband can't help at night as he works nights. I work full time during the day so I am pulling 24 shifts with very little rest.
I don't know what to do. I hate co sleeping and feel at this age it would be going backwards but similarly I can't sleep on the floor forever.
So how do I address these night time issues without cocking things up every worse than they are
Sorry for the long post