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Toddler wore my glasses and now I am worried

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WaltzingTilda · 17/04/2021 09:48

My dd(3) briefly put my glasses on (about 5 to 10 seconds I guess but not sure) and I am so so worried if she would have damaged her eyesight because if this and would need to wear glasses Sad. I remember I used to do this for fun when I was a young child and since my teenage years I've had to wear glasses. None of my family wore glasses until they'd passed their 40s. Now I am worried if my dd would have to wear glasses be because she wore my glasses for a few seconds. An optician at specsavers once told me that a child's eyesight can get damaged if they wear glasses when they don't need to. I am freaking out now. I don't know why I am posting tbh, I am in tears now because of this. I hate and always have hated wearing glasses and the one thing I don't want for my dd is glasses. Does anyone know how long after wearing glasses does a child's eyesight get damaged?Sad

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Newmama29 · 18/04/2021 09:17

God as a kid I used to wear my mums, grans, papas glasses all the time & they were all blind as a bat, I’m in my late 20s & still have perfect vision. She’ll be fine OP

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WaltzingTilda · 18/04/2021 09:41

@Twistered thank you for understanding. Yes, i panicked and just wanted reassurance that's all. It's not like I rushed my dd to A&E Eye hospital.

@Newmama29 thanks for replying, it's reassuring to read 👍

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BillMasheen · 18/04/2021 11:38

I don't know why posters are telling you to seek a referral from your GP for anxiety. Very cruel

No. A lot of us, me included have had anxiety. We recognise the emerging thought patterns in other people. It can take over your life in an insidious way. But often it is very fixable. Once you know about it.

It would strike me as immensely cruel to NOT share this information. To see the suggestion as cruel says a great deal about your subconscious attitude to mental health.

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nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 18/04/2021 14:33

I wish people had told me my level of anxiety was batshit. I might have sought help sooner and wouldn't be in such a bad situation now.

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WaltzingTilda · 18/04/2021 15:51

Oh gosh, I only wanted reassurance re subject, not a psychoanalysis Smile..but unfortunately on mn you can't get the one without the other, luckily I know how to sift through. Cheers everyone fir your reassuring responses -much appreciated Flowers

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nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 18/04/2021 18:18

Psychoanalysts don't tell you what they think. They generally stfu and let you figure it out. We're far more annoying blunt. That's why you hardly ever see therapists on MN. You have to be able to keep your trap shut and as a collective, we just can't. Grin

Blindstupid · 18/04/2021 22:14

Well you’ve done a massive turn around OP. Makes it even more likely the thread wasn’t real.

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WaltzingTilda · 18/04/2021 23:24

@Blindstupid I haven't done a turn around at all. I was seeking advice re something specific not about my mental health. But if people think they are helping someone by giving a diagnosis based on one instance that they know of and to a person they've never seen, then so be it. Its my prerogative to accept or not. I was only looking for an answer to my specific question. So not accepting advise re my mental health when I asked a question on a toddlers eye health is by no means a turn around. The thread is real.

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WaltzingTilda · 18/04/2021 23:26

I am going to leave this thread now, as I have received many reassuring replies and links to articles confirming its nothing for me to worry about. Thanks all, much appreciated Flowers

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Blindstupid · 19/04/2021 10:06

I’m pleased you’re feeling better OP. My turn around statement was relating to the fact that your situation is very bizarre, you still suffer ongoing pain and you seem to be doing nothing about it, which is not normal. Your severe over reaction is actually mammoth and has remained so all the way through the thread for quite some time. You disregard it when many people are telling you not to worry. Yet suddenly near the end of the thread you do an absolute turn around, almost instantly, believe people when they say your dd will be ok, going against everything you vehemently believed and shot people down for originally. My comments were in no way related to your mental health. They were purely about your sudden, oh yes everything’s fine now. However, I believe those posting about your anxieties and mental health were not being malicious (and, no they didn’t diagnose btw)... they were trying to make you see your reaction was severe to the most extreme ridiculous degree. Most people would not react they way you did over something so trivial and minor. And the answer to your specific question was answered very, very quickly yet you would not accept the answer.

I wish you and your dd well.

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WaltzingTilda · 19/04/2021 10:52

I am sorry if I came across as not accepting the initial replies saying everything will be okay. Believe me, each post that said it will be okay made me feel better. Every single one. Every subsequent post just reinforced what was confirmed earlier. I agree, it was a massive overreaction and I am quite embarrassed about it Blush and it probably stems from my own eye issues. I agree, not doing anything about the pain is not normal. But Moorfields and every optician I've been to since don't have an answer as to what is causing the issue , they've done tests and they can't figure out the cause of this eye pain, so I don't have the time or money to keep chasing this any further. I am with my toddler and dh I have no family or friends close by so it's just us three and its all full on. Even me going to the toilet has become a spectator sport Hmm so I don't really have any time to do much else really. Also, I don't really trust medical professionals much since this eye incident, and I suppose my thinking is if no one can see an obvious cause for concern I shouldn't get myself into a situation where more damage could be caused and nothing resolved.

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Blindstupid · 19/04/2021 10:59

Honestly OP I’m sorry you’ve had such bad negative experiences .... but you need to get to the bottom of your pain and suffering. No matter how much time and effort it takes, you need to be strong and assertive, especially where eyesight is concerned. It’s so precious.

I would go back to your GP and assertively ask for a second opinion somewhere as what you are experiencing is not normal with no suitable explanation. You also need to fully understand what they do tell you about your condition, and don’t leave until you absolutely know and understand what you have, what your treatments are, and future prognosis.

If you don’t get to the bottom of your problems, you’ll end up projecting all your fears and mistrust on your dd.

Please, please try again Flowers

IbrahimaRedTwo · 19/04/2021 11:08

My dd(3) briefly put my glasses on (about 5 to 10 seconds I guess but not sure) and I am so so worried if she would have damaged her eyesight because if this and would need to wear glasses

Just when you think you've seen it all on MN, along comes another level of off the charts thinking....

Twistered · 19/04/2021 11:10

Any need fs

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