What age daughters getting eye brows don't?? Just seen fb post.. Age 11 due to bullies..

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Just wonder as my dd doesn't shave legs nor mentions brows etc.. She's nearly 14.

Realistic I think it went well but every word I utter at the moment seems to irritate her ie myself voice 🙈🙈

Then so long as at home she is getting healthy self care messages in her field of view if not explicitly then I'd just park the worry.
I always reflect on my own kids if I see something that I worry might come to our door, but ultimately need to keep my Impulse in check as often I'm writing about something that might never happen (though it sadly has to someone else).

My mum showed me how to shave my armpits with her lady shaver when I was around 12. She said that antiperspirant worked better on smooth skin.

She also told me not to bother shaving my legs as once I'd done it the once I would spend the rest of my life doing it . I ignored her .

I also started plucking brows around a similar age due to mono brow starting and another girl in school bringing it up.

All this in the late 1970s

I don't have a daughter.

I still remember turning up on 1st day of secondary school, to hear a group of my friends discussing how they had shaved their legs. I had no idea it was something I was meant to be doing, I was horrified.

Did know about eyebrows though, as had seen sisters do it, an massacred mine quite early on. Girls at school took razors to theirs with disastrous results. My DD is younger than yours but I have said NEVER touch your eyebrows, if you’re considering it, tell me and I’ll take you to a professional.

Plucking and waxing hurt which is why most men don't do it. The rectangular brow in vogue now looks ludicrous.

My dd was about 12 when she first did her legs and eyebrows, she is nearly 30 now and shaves or plucks nothing, its all down to 'the patriarcy that women feel the need to look a certain way and we should not be buying into it' I am very proud of her, she is strong, clever and determined and very vocal

(I still 'groom' though

We use hair removal cream on DD's monobrow (just the middle bit) because she told us aged 8 she didn't like it.

My 13 year old daughter nicks my razor for her armpits. Doesn't shave legs or pluck her eyebrows yet. I think I was about 15 before I shaved my legs and similar for eyebrows. My 17 year old daughter doesn't shave anything but plucks a vertical line out of one eyebrow. Each to their own.

DD first had hers threaded at 13. Just shaped slightly and trimmed. She has inherited her Dad's eyebrows, thick, long, bushy. I actually suggested it as she was being teased about them at school and I saw her staring at them in the mirror a lot. She's only had them done 3 times in 18 months (£8 a go so hasn't broken the bank!) - so it's not become 'a thing' but the jeering stopped.

I am usually super strict about this stuff (no crop tops in public, no makeup for school) but when it's a simple & cheap thing that I can do which stops people laughing at her.. well..

Tbh from my own experience, I would say as soon as you see that they 'need' doing I'd encourage her to start, with shaving too. Or at least let her know that whenever she wants to, you'll show her how.

My mum never mentioned or taught me anything like that and it was only when people started noticing at school (changing for PE etc) and making mean comments that I felt so self-conscious that I had to start. My mum was very much "you're so young, you don't need to worry about this yet" etc etc but the reality was I was probably 13/14 and I was getting nasty comments.

I'd say just let your daughter know that you're there to help her if she did want to start doing these things, so you're not pressuring her to start right now but she knows it's not odd if she does want to.

She tried to cut her fringe so I think I will say something soon... Along lines of her experimenting with cutting her hair... If she wants to do legs etc can she ask me so I can tell her what's available
Re shaved armpits.. I'd rather have hair

Absolutely when they want to. Parents shouldn't really be telling them when they are allowed to remove or shape their own body hair.

Linda absolutely, this is why it's so tricky to mention it because I don't want her to think she has too.

If shes not mentioning it then either just accept that shes not bothered, which is fine, or you could ask her if she fancies getting her eyebrows done next time you are going, but tell her that they actually are nice eyebrows as they are, but just wanted her to know that she has the option.

As for shaving legs and pits etc, my dd was never interested, and I dont shave my pits, but I did tell her before she started secondary that actually a lot of women do, and its totally up to her and that to let me know if she wanted a ladyshave or anything.
I didnt shave when i was at school and got bullied for it but didnt feel i could discuss it with my mum, so i just really wanted her to know she had the choice, as other kids can be horrible

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I would love DS1 to get his eyebrows done (He's 21 now) but he's having none of it.

DS (16) shaved his eyebrows last year I did offer at that point for him to get them done by a pro!