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You are cordially invited to my pity party

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CuckooCuckooClock · 09/04/2021 17:58

Welcome!
I have no friends, my family hate me and I am a drunk!
I have decided to spend the evening with a chilled Chenin blanc, some oatcakes and jarlsburg and anyone lovely enough to join me.
Criteria for entry: you must have a miserable life too. No joy allowed.

OP posts:
One2late · 09/04/2021 21:51

[quote Workinghardeveryday]@One2late
Then seen this about ketchup on kfc!!! What is this wizardry?!!!😂[/quote]
Hahahahaha

One2late · 09/04/2021 21:52

Can we keep this thread please. For days when I fight with my husband. We fight a lot.

One2late · 09/04/2021 21:52

Everybody has too much grape juice I can see

Mysterian · 09/04/2021 21:54

Funny how sad songs can help. Maybe because you're more in 'tune' with them they have more effect on you, which feels good.

Chocobudbrownies · 09/04/2021 21:55

Thank you so much everyone, that's really sweet. When I speak about it (not very often obviously) it's like people try to say too much about it. All I've ever wanted is for someone to turn around and say "fuck, that's really shit".

One2late · 09/04/2021 21:56

@UnsolicitedDickPic

I'll join if I may. Lockdown has triggered DPs longstanding anxiety/depression; he's fucked off somewhere on his bike for the evening because apparently he's 14 and one of the fucking Goonies instead of nearly 41 and a father of two.

DD has been poorly all week, bored as fuck but luckily has just discovered the skin tag on my inner thigh so has been grabbing it all afternoon. Stuck in the house since Sunday.

I'm fat, my career is frustrated, and my in-laws turned up when I was in my old maternity pjs with unshaven legs, expecting to come in even though their arsehole son isn't here and we're still in fucking lockdown.

Oh, and NO WINE. WineSad

Hahahahahahah o know your post was how you're feeling shit but it made me chuckle. I fucking hate in laws the jealous bastards
UnsolicitedDickPic · 09/04/2021 21:58

@Chocobudbrownies

Thank you so much everyone, that's really sweet. When I speak about it (not very often obviously) it's like people try to say too much about it. All I've ever wanted is for someone to turn around and say "fuck, that's really shit".
That is really shit. Not sure how I'd cope with that so the fact you're here, and getting on with it, might not feel worth celebrating but it is. Here's to you, and your DD. ThanksWine
UnsolicitedDickPic · 09/04/2021 22:00

@One2late They only come here when they want something. Took them three months to drop off DDs Christmas presents. I swear she bought them in March and wrapped them in Christmas paper in a mad panic.

Workinghardeveryday · 09/04/2021 22:00

@One2late
And you have every right!!
Sounds like you have had a right shitty time.
Don’t know what to say to make you feel better other than as cheesy as it sounds, tomorrow is another day and life could change and be great for you. There is no reason why it wouldn’t!
You say you went from man to man to be wanted, could it be fear of being alone? Is very different, but as going to say make an effort to meet up with people and stuff to lift your mood but it’s impossible now with shafting Covid.
But Covid won’t be affecting our lives forever with restrictions and stuff.
Fuck don’t know what to say after a bottle of red apart from here for you hun!! Xx

One2late · 09/04/2021 22:01

@marthastew

I'm having fish and chips and white wine. 2 out of 3 kids with SEN. No money for anything even though I work all hours. Have spent today looking at kids meeting up in the park to play and my kids haven't had a single invitation to meet up and play with anyone.

All the happy people can sling their happy hooks.

I would also invite you and we would watch movies and eat shit while the kids played. I have a cat they would love...sadly no children...doesnt look like I'll have any either...hey ho that's what you get for fricking around all your life. But back ot you my love...screw the dockers who didnt invite your babies!
Chocobudbrownies · 09/04/2021 22:02

Its been close at times, but here I am. I agreed to be a witness and im just waiting to hear back from the CPS.

In other news, these brownies are great, I couldn't remember the word for dentist so I just texted someone talking about the "teeth man"

Chocobudbrownies · 09/04/2021 22:05

@SandysMam Flowers for you. I totally get the brave thing. I mean it's not like I have much of a choice. people see me, But don't see what I'm like when the doors closed and I'm in my head. I'm sorry you're going through so much shit, it's all just shit isn't it?

Alfiemoon1 · 09/04/2021 22:05

Teeth man ha ha

Workinghardeveryday · 09/04/2021 22:05

Everyone on here has such awful things happened to them and I feel awful for all these stories!!
Here’s me going to whine about being CEV and locked in a house home schooling 3 kids since last feb not seeing any family or friends ever but that is actually ridiculous moan given all these other posts!!
💐to all of you, I think you’re all great and I should stop being a tit feeling sorry for myself fa! Seriously!

One2late · 09/04/2021 22:06

@MrsBobDylan

I'm in. I'm a complete fucking face-ache today.

Primary woes (won't lost secondary/tertiary as you lot will be too pissed to focus soon anyway):

  1. Three sons with enough disabilities to keep a special school busy.
  2. No money, live in a house where drug dealers do business round the back and the garden wall has fallen down. And it's a yard, and tiny and fucking ugly.
  3. All my friends and family live in nice houses in nice areas. Their kids go to good schools and they are generally excelled in life.
  4. I now can't work (see primary reason one) so we will always be scraping around for money.

I think I am depressed and possibly loosing my mind. Hope not though.

I wish I was close by. I would be around and so would you. I'm sorry this is shit. I'm sorry.
MrsBobDylan · 09/04/2021 22:13

Oh God some awful things are happening to people on this thread...sending miserable love and pre-Covid hugs to you all.

I am not joining in the the drinking because I am a former old soak, descended from a long line of old soaks. I also can't cry because it gives me a migraine.

@sugarlost this house was actually our saviour. I got bullied out of my career two years ago by my bitch of a boss because I was better at the job than she was. She used my caring role for my disabled kids against me. When I knew her she was slowly eating herself to death so at least I can console myself that she's unhappy too. And fatter than me.

Our home is cheap and when I'm not being a miserable self-pitying bitch, I am grateful for it every day. Just not today and probably not tomorrow either.

One2late · 09/04/2021 22:15

[quote UnsolicitedDickPic]@One2late They only come here when they want something. Took them three months to drop off DDs Christmas presents. I swear she bought them in March and wrapped them in Christmas paper in a mad panic. [/quote]
Ugh my in laws are nobs. See I try and try and try I message and they shit stir between me and my husband. They use me when they need and otherwise I dont exist. So I dont really interact with them. It's just not being able to tell them I hate them that gets me

One2late · 09/04/2021 22:18

[quote Workinghardeveryday]@One2late
And you have every right!!
Sounds like you have had a right shitty time.
Don’t know what to say to make you feel better other than as cheesy as it sounds, tomorrow is another day and life could change and be great for you. There is no reason why it wouldn’t!
You say you went from man to man to be wanted, could it be fear of being alone? Is very different, but as going to say make an effort to meet up with people and stuff to lift your mood but it’s impossible now with shafting Covid.
But Covid won’t be affecting our lives forever with restrictions and stuff.
Fuck don’t know what to say after a bottle of red apart from here for you hun!! Xx[/quote]
I just wanted to be needed. I discovered this a few months ago. I felt unwanted by my pare ts friends. My mum hated me and I knew it. She was beaten because she would try to discipline me and my dad used me for his ego trip. So he would be beat her. Then as I grew older he would beat me...ugh. i work as a teacher and i cried when i saw the poster for child neglect
I suffered from disastrously painful anxiety and childhood depression and bullying. Sometime sjit wanted my mum to wake up and make me breakfast. Just to see her in the morning.

Ugh it makes me angry and sick. I never had any friends...and I still don't....make I'm just annoying

MrsBobDylan · 09/04/2021 22:18

Thank you @One2late you are a very lovely person. I would invite you over to sit in the back yard - it looks like London after the Blitz Grin You pop for KFC - I have ketchup and everything.

MrsBobDylan · 09/04/2021 22:22

@One2late have you had any therapy? It wasn't your fault your Dad beat your Mum. It was their business and they just wanted to draw you into the circus.

My Dad was a violent alcoholic and it was very liberating when I stopped waiting for them to love me. I really hate my Mum, was hoping Covid might finish her off but she is like a fucking cockroach surviving a nuclear bomb.

One2late · 09/04/2021 22:24

@MrsBobDylan

Thank you *@One2late* you are a very lovely person. I would invite you over to sit in the back yard - it looks like London after the Blitz Grin You pop for KFC - I have ketchup and everything.
Grin right you made a friend for life
One2late · 09/04/2021 22:25

[quote MrsBobDylan]@One2late have you had any therapy? It wasn't your fault your Dad beat your Mum. It was their business and they just wanted to draw you into the circus.

My Dad was a violent alcoholic and it was very liberating when I stopped waiting for them to love me. I really hate my Mum, was hoping Covid might finish her off but she is like a fucking cockroach surviving a nuclear bomb.[/quote]
They both passed and I miss them so much

IEat · 09/04/2021 22:39

I’m watching The Circle final. People blubbing cos they got messages from their families. Utter bollocks . Doesn’t get much sadder than that

GiveTheGirlAGun · 09/04/2021 22:43

I was looking forward to a live stream gig thing tomorrow. I arranged for DH to put DD to bed and I'd got snacks and drinks ready along with a moshpit for one. It is NEXT SATURDAY. I'm severely miserable.

7catsandcounting · 09/04/2021 22:48

Today has been so shit. I'm lying in bed with a ball of anxiety in my chest. I can barely fucking breathe. I can't be arsed to type it all out. So tired today. So sick of people. I think I make it worse for myself.
I need to find a way of thinking more positively.
Today, I had homeschooling DD, full-time job, two volunteering meetings, made an offer on house (refused), some bloke I barely know asking me for help with his tax bill (he was 45 mins on the phone and I know nothing about tax. I can speak French. The somehow makes me qualified), sick cat, trying to sort out vaccine for my mum, fight with sister, a fellow volunteer being grumpy with me and an anti-vax idiot wanting to come over for coffee because she's terrified of vaccine passport. And then the fact that I think Prince Phil was a proper bellend and why can't I ever feel the things other people feel.
And I ate shitloads. I'm all bloated.
I'm a single mum with 2 dogs, 14 cats. My mum lives with me. Bf lives in another town.
I have to really catch up on work tomorrow. Jesus.
And my legs ache. And the house is a total tip.