I think I might be getting dumped...

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Long story but I think my partner may be gearing up to dump me.

Without giving details right now, has anyone felt this way?

It's just a feeling for me but a strong one.

I would appreciate any input before I challenge.

Thanks

Definitely gonna need more info

Without giving details right now

I think you're going to have to give a bit if info.....

Without giving details right now, has anyone felt this way?

How's anyone going to give you any useful answers without any idea of why you might be feeling this way?

If you think it, you probably are in my experience.

OK, sorry.

We've been in a relationship for about 7 years. Live in adjacent countries. Don't live together and have separate houses. Both have pressured jobs.

We spend weekends together, every weekend. Sometimes a night or 2 if he is in my area. His work takes him across a few counties.

That's all I can say. I felt last weekend he wanted to end it. Just a feeling. No concrete details nor facts.

*COUNTIES FFS

Get in there first then?

Aren’t you wasting your life living like this. Dump and move on.

@SunIsComing

Aren’t you wasting your life living like this. Dump and move on.

Why do you think I am wasting my life when I have been happy for 7 years?

PP was probably responding to you posting you live in separate countries. Counties is slightly different.
If you sense he isn't happy why not ask him? Not happy doesn't equal planning to dump you necessarily

Perhaps he's unhappy with the status quo and actually wants more? Best to have the conversation and find out. Good luck.

@MazekeenSmith

PP was probably responding to you posting you live in separate countries. Counties is slightly different. If you sense he isn't happy why not ask him? Not happy doesn't equal planning to dump you necessarily

Thanks.

Slightly? Lol

I'm slightly f*cked off so going out for a run.

Mask in pocket, if needed

This really could be solved with some good ol' communication. Could you say something like "I've noticed you being/doing X, Y and Z. Is everything alright? I get the feeling you aren't happy and I'd like to talk about it. I feel on edge thinking you aren't happy and I need you to be honest with me about how you're feeling". See what he says. I wouldn't accuse him of anything, just ask how he is and keep it light but make clear you're sensing something has changed.

It probably isn't what you think.

Not to project to much but not everything is about you.

Maybe hes having a hard time at work, or somethings on his mind.
Could be its over you, but probably not.
Talk to him.

too

Just ask him OP. Or tell him that you feel that something isn't right and open the conversation that way. It could be something totally different or you could be right, but if you are, it's better to know now rather than worrying about it constantly and it happening in a few weeks/months anyway.

Is there a reason you don’t live together?

Not that I’m judging that, I don’t live with my partner either for various reasons, and we’ve been together for 8 years and live in separate counties. But he has a niche job where he lives and I have a child here hence why we’re currently not living together.

But truth is that most people in relationships do come to a point where they feel they want more from the relationship, and especially in the current climate, not living together can be especially apparent.

I haven’t seen my partner since December. And before that I saw him in July, and March before that.

you need to communicate. If you really feel like he’s going to dump you then clearly something has changed. You don’t just get that feeling out of nowhere, something will have happened to make you think like that.

Good point. Why arent you living together?

Watch out for that one. Hes not that into you? My ex strung me along for years and years with no cohabitation or marriage. Many seemingly valid reasons. New woman = He was living with her and then married and now kids, within 6 months of us splitting. All his old excuses seemed to melt away.

Is this a version of the annex Easter getaway and him planning to work in China thread that got deleted twice?

I'm a bit tipsy and a lot upset. Found him lying today and not sure what to think so any thoughts would be appreciated please...

The plan for today was for him to come and stay over tonight. He arrived, we went out for a run (good), had sex in bed and again sharing shower (good) then had roast chicken dinner (good). Then watched a film cuddled up on sofa (good).

After film finished he went off to have a wee. His phone pinged and lit up with part of text showing...

J I love you and...

Then the phone went back to black screen and my mind and heart was racing. He came back and I said (very calmly which was difficult) oh your phone pinged. He picked it up and said "oh it's only my brother I'll reply later".

His fucking brother is called Paul. So who the fuck is J???

I just said oh okay and said I was going to the bathroom. Called my friend and asked her to call me in 10 mins. Basically I made out she was very upset about something and needed to talk. He said if I thought it would be better for him to go so I could concentrate on my upset friend then that would be okay with him. I agreed and he left. On normal good terms - well not normal but what I mean is that I didn't let on I was feeling worried and extremely funked off with him!!!

So, that's it for an update. My mind is racing as to what I should think or do next. I have a friend coming round in a while and she's gonna stay over tonight so I will tell her everything but would appreciate any thoughts that anyone has on here about my situation.

Thanks

How sure are you that he's not married or in a relationship? Seeing someone only on weekends could work with so many covert scenarios.

I think the only way to know for sure is if you ask him directly

I find it odd that you've been together 7 years and couldn't just ask him what's going on. And who the text was really from. Stop being so passive.

Why are you fannying about so much?

You're wasting your life, 7 years no house, no ring, no commitment.

Dump him!