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Oh no! I sound so middle class! How embarrassing....or not

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TangerineCandyfloss · 24/03/2021 14:44

Hi,

Just a light hearted one, but does anyone else get slightly irritated when people tell you how mortified they are at being/sounding middle class, but go into great detail as to why, leading you to believe they're probably not all that "mortified".

Example: "dd asked me today - mummy, can we have sea bass with capers tonight? It's my favourite fish" Oh, I was so embarrassed! How middle class do we sound?!lol"

Now, don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with a child liking sea bass...or quinoa...or kimchi or anything else "middle class" sounding, but why do some people pretend how embarrassed they are, only to tell you or everyone on social media?

It's just obvious that they're not embarrassed at all, so actually has the complete opposite effect.

Does anyone know what I mean?

OP posts:
supersop60 · 24/03/2021 17:32

IME people who are truly middle class do not brag.
So anyone who humblebrags is revealing more than they think.

BrintIg · 24/03/2021 17:33

@supersop60

IME people who are truly middle class do not brag. So anyone who humblebrags is revealing more than they think.
What is "truly middle class"? Millions of people in the UK are middle class. The term covers a huge array of people. Some brag, some don't. Some are snobs, some aren't. Some are horrible, some are lovely.
5128gap · 24/03/2021 17:33

@TangerineCandyfloss

I do think one or two have taken this is the completely wrong way.

I am not middle class bashing and I don't believe there is anything wrong with children enjoying these kinds of foods. I love to see kids trying different things and I hate kids menus which are just pizza, burger, fish fingers, bowl of chips etc as if they can't possibly want to try something a bit less boring!

My issue is simply with parents pretending they're embarrassed when they're not.

They have to pretend to be embarassed. It would be socially unacceptable to say 'My DC will only eat food that i don't think working class children have heard of, and working class parents can't afford. Therefore, please note, I am middle class'.
belowdeckyoubet · 24/03/2021 17:33

virtue signalling at its finest. and most probably untrue

allycat4 · 24/03/2021 17:35

Remind me never to move to a village on the basis of this thread!!

UnderHisAye · 24/03/2021 17:36

Bloody hell, fun sponges.

Once again; we're not laughing at the middle classes.

We're laughing at people who desperately want to reek of the middle classes, but in their desperation give themselves away.

OP your fun thread has been shredded a bit...

NotAPanda · 24/03/2021 17:36

@NotGenerationAlpha

I’m intrigued what her special London ingredients were!

The first thing that pops into my head is pandan leaves. Can't get them here in the Chinese supermarkets. We can only get the essence.

There's also a Sichuan chilli that I used to be able to get here but the Chinese supermarket no longer stocks it. (This one www.souschef.co.uk/products/sichuan-dried-long-chillies).

You can obviously order online. But they cost a lot more ££££ with shipping.

I'm sure they can come up with a lot of things difficult to get outside of London, except for buying online.

Pandan leaves are my native food 😂 you can order them online from Chinese supermarkets!
StealthPolarBear · 24/03/2021 17:39

Loving the scabby dog covered in ketchup. Sounds familiar.

Choccorocco · 24/03/2021 17:39

Well it all sounds very strange to me. Quinoa is very bland and therefore not exactly hard to get your kids to eat it. Why on earth anyone would even notice that they might sound middle class or be crass enough to sound faux embarrassed about it? I guess that’s the problem with social media, having to make something of nothing in order to have something to say.

SheenMcQueen · 24/03/2021 17:40

I think those who write on Social Media about Samphire and Junket's 'hilarious foray into cooking' where they serviced up Partridge stuffed with fig and baked pear' and aren't they just so funny, and aren't we all ghastly and middle-class are DEFINITELY fucking annoying and totally humblebragging.

But I think there is also the reality of growing up in a 'naice' area and watching your teens shovelling sashimi into their faces and meeting for lunch at Whole Foods just because they have been brought up in a different world.

FWIW, DD (15) loves poncy food, has a twatty sushi making kit and snacks on 'grains', but once announced at the end of a week during the school holidays that she'd eaten McDonalds every day for five days straight whilst out with her mates.

So I take it ALL with a pinch of (Cornish Sea) salt (Crystals)

mam0918 · 24/03/2021 17:42

@Potpourriandpennysweets

Or their cousins Chipotle and Guacamole
is guacamole posh/middle class?

I get it in asda in a squeezy bottle to go on my doritos lol

BrintIg · 24/03/2021 17:45

is guacamole posh/middle class?

I get it in asda in a squeezy bottle to go on my doritos lol

If you pronounce it "gwaca-moh-lee", you're middle-class.
If you pronounce it "gwaca-mole", you're working class.

UnderHisAye · 24/03/2021 17:46

We pronounce it to rhyme with whack a mole as a pisstake.

Loads of you would look down on me in Aldi Waitrose Grin

Camomila · 24/03/2021 17:48

I'd love some focaccia right now. I can't get it in any of my local supermarkets.

DH and I both grew up working class but foreign so that explained any non-standard foods in our lunchboxes (DM used to make me chicken salad a lot).

The DC eat a good mix of Italian food/Asian Food/and easy oven foods.

Nothing to do with class but every Italian relative I've made jacket potatoes for loves them.

HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 24/03/2021 17:48

My dd birthday party,a mum text,email,call to tell me her dad perpetuia food preferences , no allergies whatsoever just an extensive list of what she would not eat
No white bread
No msg
No salt
No colourings
No preprepared shop bought food
No cordial
No ginger
No condiments
No cake
No chocolate

I advised Perpetuia be best bring her own food.

Perpetuia ate her body weight in
Wotsits
Ate shop bought pasties
Drunk irn bru
Ate Colin caterpillar cake
Sandwiches
And asked for a food bag to go home

DimidDavilby · 24/03/2021 18:15

@SwedishK

Oh, right. In that case I was probably guilty of humble bragging when DD was little. She was an unusual child with a very unusual taste in food. She hated anything typically kid friendly like fish fingers, sausages, meat balls, cheese pizza etc. It was such a pain as these are the most common items on a kids menu but she just wouldn't eat it.

Instead she loved sashimi, oysters, seaweed salad, carpaccio, truffle salami etc.

So yea, I was often complaining about what a pain in the arse it was to feed her as she only liked expensive and hard to find food. Didn't realise people thought I was bragging,

Yes this is a great example!
Vursayles · 24/03/2021 18:25

No, people round here don’t go in for all that stuff even in jest 😂 It’s quite funny though, I wouldn’t be bothered by it. Even if it’s a humble-brag, I’d just say to myself that’s a bit naff and move on.

Cattermole · 24/03/2021 18:40

You bunch of bastards I have just had to rustle up a pot of home-made hummus using up some garlic from the garden and the last of the tahini we had in the fridge.

This is actually true and amused me no end to write.
(Heels my thing is the English Civil War, so indeed I am a Roundhead at weekends. DH is more into his Vikings, so we compromise and some weekends we do Viking re-enactments, some weekends we do 17th century, and some weekends we do what our boy wants and we do Roman events! There's always something we can find to be interested in about any period really. It's all interesting if you look at it!)

HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 24/03/2021 18:42

@Cattermole, fantastic! Thanks for answering.BTW is your Job title reenactor?

Cattermole · 24/03/2021 18:45

Sadly not :-(
Actually I'm not sure I'd like it, I like doing it when I like doing it and it's a treat, so if it was what I did Monday to Friday it wouldn't be half as much fun!

HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 24/03/2021 18:46

You’ve been v accommodating in your answers, thanks

PferdeMerde · 24/03/2021 18:47

What age can children eat carpaccio and lobster? Just asking

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 24/03/2021 18:48

Oh, God, I had one of those children.

I didn't mean to create a foodie monster. But I didn't have anywhere to put her in the kitchen other than the countertop as it was so small, so she'd watched and asked questions from when she was tiny and I didn't have a car, so had to take her shopping after work or on days off, after which I'd collapse on the sofa whilst some cooking programme or another was on.

Cost me a bloody fortune, that child. She wasn't just interested in ingredients (and wouldn't eat loads of anything - what she would eat had to be nicely presented and preferably observed throughout the preparation), she was also interested in dictating choosing the perfect little plates and bowls to put the things on/in. We spent lots of money in Japanese shops as a result of that. And she loved trips to Borough Market, Neal's Yard Dairy and the Japan Centre at the weekend so she could look at, try and convince me to buy different things.

Her opinions also extended to paint and decor (she had her own set of F&B, Little Greene and assorted other paint cards when considering how she wanted her room decorated), flower arranging and soft furnishings.

I drew the line at going to a farmers' or flower market at the weekend, as East London by public transport on a Sunday morning would have been an utter pig - I still don't know where she heard about Columbia Road, but she sulked when she found out I had a gig at the Hampton Court Flower Show one year and wouldn't take her out of school to join me.

I think by the age of six she had had critiqued everybody's lunchbox, her grandmother's cooking, the school dinners and was beginning to hurl abuse at the contestants on Masterchef when she wasn't giving cooking tips and recipes to kids at school or telling the TA about how useless they were on TV last night.

(Qualifier: I did try and teach her some tact and diplomacy. I'm not sure I did a great job trying to explain in an age-appropriate manner that the food might not be up to her standards, but it wasn't nice to tell people just how shit it was unless you had a job writing about it for the Telegraph. I think that might have just given her something to aim for, though.)

It would have been a lot easier if I could have got away with just shoving a 69p pizza in the oven with some McCain's oven chips, but her last truly instant meal was some Pedigree Chum mixer from the dog's bowl aged 9 months - and a gallon of Wickes Trade Matt Emulsion would have saved multiple attempts to get the only shade and finish that would do for her room and being led around various shops whilst she inspected the bedding that was acceptable to her.

As a positive, I never had to worry about whether she'd be able to feed herself at University. There were a few 'if I send you a list, can you send me an Ocado delivery?' emails sent to me, however. She did reassure me once that she had saved enough money that she could still go and buy ridiculous clothes and go out with her mates as well as buy all the materials she needed for her course - if I just kept the orders coming every other month - and that being able to cook meant she had loads of friends buying things for her in return for a decent meal, so she wasn't being taken for a ride.

Her father thought it was all insufferable wank and I was being a complete tosser in indulging her. It was never 'oh, we're so middleclass!'. We were council flat scum (as he informed me on many occasions). She just knew what she liked and was not afraid to say it. But this was the 'man' who thought it acceptable to upend a plate of food on the floor because there were two lettuce leaves and a sliced tomato on it instead of more chips and some beans in a restaurant. So he could get to fuck.

Okbussitout · 24/03/2021 18:51

Yeah I get what you mean. I will occasionally say something to my partner. Like a little grumble or request and go jesus that founds very bougie. But I'd never say it on social media or in public.

A recent example was my mac book is made of metal and makes my wrists cold in the winter. I cough myself immediately as was like what am I saying. But that's different? I'm not putting it out there as a humble brag.

It is cringe when people do this!

StanfordPines · 24/03/2021 18:56

@1forAll74

There are quite a few women in my village here,who have moved up from London , to live a more rural life here. They seem to think that we are all peasants here. They randomly post on the fb community pages, and one this week said, Hi all villagers, I would like to share with you all, a fabulous recipe that I have used for a while, but understand that many of you might not have heard of some of the ingredients I have to use, But my family absolutely adore this meal. and yours will too.

We do have some great bakers and cooks in the village ha ha, but now we have our own replica Nigella in our midst..

That reminds me of when someone posted on here that you can’t get a flat white outside of London.

I pointed out that I can walk from my house to 6 different independent coffee shops, two of which roast their own beans and one of which has its own plantation, and get whatever damn coffee I please.
I was still told that us in the provinces don’t understand.