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Ivs just cried down the phone to my manager

39 replies

BLTLover · 17/03/2021 14:10

I'm so embarrassed. I've had a crap weekend with online dating and I've decided thats it I cant cope with it. My kids nursery is closed. I'm doing a course at uni and i turned up and i was turned away as I hadn't had a covid swab. The course is online and it's a nightmare. Fuck this shit

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PerpendicularVincent · 17/03/2021 14:14

Sounds like a tough time and I'm sure your manager will understand, so try not to worry.

If you're up for sharing tales of woe, I just walked out of my job Grin

BLTLover · 17/03/2021 14:20

I never cry. I'm so fed up of being a single parent and doing everything aswell

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HellonHeels · 17/03/2021 14:39

Sounds like a horrible pile up of difficult things.

The University cannot insist you have a covid test before coming on site. They can ask that you do but they cannot demand to see evidence. They should also have access nearby for students to take a test.

Was your manager kind to you? A lot of people are struggling right now. I've had team members and colleagues crying to me and I've cried at my manager and at HR.

Can you pause the online dating for a bit and make some time for a chat with a friend instead?

Big hug to you X

BLTLover · 17/03/2021 14:41

My manager was lovely she said I'm strong and shes never seen me cry or flip out so she was shocked

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Lola001 · 17/03/2021 15:08

Your not alone, a lot of people at my work have had a cry recently, its HARD and stressful and feels like a never ending story.

BLTLover · 17/03/2021 15:12

I'm just so tired and doing something else ie the course on top of 30 hours a week at work and a young child alone is pushing me over the edge

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Rainbowdino · 17/03/2021 15:20

As a manager, I had one day where three women cried to me during the course of the morning! It happens a lot. Please don’t feel embarrassed.
Hope you’re ok Flowers

BLTLover · 17/03/2021 15:24

I want to go to work and go home and not have to do a course on top of it all.

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WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 17/03/2021 15:27

@BLTLover

I want to go to work and go home and not have to do a course on top of it all.
Can you take a break from it?

Why are you doing it?

Crying is good for you!

BashfulClam · 17/03/2021 15:28

You probably needed to let your emotions out. You are doing brilliantly being a single mum and everything else on top. Deep breath and make something nice for dinner, cuddle your kids and have a good sleep. Today is just one day and tomorrow you can start again.

Alfiemoon1 · 17/03/2021 15:30

Could you postpone the course or take a break from it

Alfiemoon1 · 17/03/2021 15:32

You aren’t alone lots of people are struggling I feel quite tearful today and I don’t have as much on my plate as you. Glad your manager was kind and supportive

BLTLover · 17/03/2021 15:34

It's a course I've wanted to do for years. I'm on sertraline and all I do is sleep. I've had it changed and need to pick up a new script. I've got no energy to do anything.

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UniversalAunt · 17/03/2021 15:43

Flowers & Cake

UniversalAunt · 17/03/2021 15:56

@BLTLover, times are hard, really hard.
It’s all been going on for sooooo long.

Great that you are doing the course & following through with your plans. However, lockdown (& the many varying restrictions) have thrown a malevolent monster spanner in the best laid plans. So please be kind to yourself & flex yr expectations a bit.

OLD - maybe park this extracurricular fun until you have settled into a better routine.

Sleep - after caring for your precious child, this is your number one priority because your overall equilibrium is built upon this. It is is false economy to deprive yourself of sleep.

Settling into Sertraline takes time. If you are sleeping heavily, it may well be because you need to sleep after a extended period of not sleeping well. Providing you can get up in time for you child & then work, can you have accept your need for extra sleep for a while. Can you take the meds earlier in the day/evening so you can clock the extra deep sleep cycles by the time you need to wake in the morning? Don’t hesitate to let your GP know how you are getting on with the meds, sometimes it takes missing a few prescription frogs(!) to find the meds that work best for you.

Dawdle a while with the course work until you have sleep & meds ticking over nicely.

BTW, the OU stinks but it’s not you.

UniversalAunt · 17/03/2021 15:58

Soz, I mean this bit stinks - “ i turned up and i was turned away as I hadn't had a covid swab.”.

Not the OU per se.

UniversalAunt · 17/03/2021 16:00

WTF ginger troubles today...Kissing a few frogs

BLTLover · 17/03/2021 16:00

I'm picking up a script for citalopram. old is crap I'm maybe meeting someone this weekend but after that I'm not bothering. It's too hard.

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NeverTrustaRabbit · 17/03/2021 16:12

@BLTLover

It's a course I've wanted to do for years. I'm on sertraline and all I do is sleep. I've had it changed and need to pick up a new script. I've got no energy to do anything.
Talk to the Uni/course provider. There may be scope to defer the course and bank your assignments until the next intake.

That gives you a bit of breathing space to adjust to the citalopram and the reopening of society after lockdown.

Also can your manager refer you to Occ Health in order to access counselling/therapy? If not, talk to your GP and see what help is available....you might have to wait, but get yourself on a waiting list

In the short term, can you look into NLP as a method of coping? Might not be right for you, but I've found some bits help me.

www.nlp.com/what-is-nlp/

Hope things brighten up soon for you - stay strong

BLTLover · 17/03/2021 16:23

Thanks. I really want to do this course but it's too much. I mean working 4 days and having a 3 year old doesnt seem much to some people but to me it is

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JovialNickname · 17/03/2021 19:51

@BLTLover

My manager was lovely she said I'm strong and shes never seen me cry or flip out so she was shocked
See that shows it's really unusual for you, and that everything is getting too much Flowers

I think that working 4 days, parenting a 3 year old and doing a course sounds like a huge amount to do, and it would definitely be too much for me. Can you put a pause on the course for a while? If it is the OU they're usually very understanding about other commitments and will let you return at a later date.

One thing about soldiering on is that the pressure will escape somewhere. You won't be able to keep everything in indefinitely. Why not try just putting the course on a back burner for a while x

BLTLover · 18/03/2021 09:51

Online dating just makes me sad

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BLTLover · 18/03/2021 10:22

I just haven't got the energy todsyb

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BLTLover · 20/03/2021 08:08

I was meant to be seeing a friend today but shes cancelled

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Zampa · 20/03/2021 08:17

Sorry to hear that you're still feeling down. Can you explain to your friend that you really need some support? Is there anyone else who can meet up?

Don't suffer in silence. Your family and friends will want to support you and it's not a weakness to reach out and admit that you need it.